instruction
stringlengths 5
19.1k
| response
stringlengths 13
4.9k
|
|---|---|
My wife had surgery recently to remove a kidney stone. While she was in surgery the doctor noticed a small buildup of scar tissue related to the childbirth she had a few months before. He called in a gyno and she removed the scar tissue. This was explained to me after her surgery was over while she was in the recovery room. Insurance covered the kidney stone removal but did not cover the removal of scar tissue. The bill for that procedure by itself is $4,000. That procedure was never in the scope of the original surgery, neither of us consented to having it done, and it was not medically necessary or related to the kidney stone removal. Do we have a case to make this $4,000 go away?
|
You can dispute the charge with the hospital.
|
I recently came back from college and I couldn't get a parking decal from my property managers office since they're closed (I live in Fort Lauderdale). However I was able to get into contact with someone and was given an online permit to prove that my car can legally park there. This is an official permit that I paid for doesn't expire until July 1. However my car gets towed EVERY 2 am and I have to pay the driver 60$ every morning despite showing him my decal. He says although the decal is official, the head of my HOA who lives in my neighborhood keeps reporting my car to get it towed and once he gets the order I have to pay him to get my car back. As much as I hate to be this person, I am the only black person in my community and he has made it clear that he doesn't like my family living there and had always given us a hard time since he moved in 3 years ago (my family has lived here for over 23 years). Is there anything I can legally do about this? Thank you.
Edit: thanks for all the help everyone! I have no idea how to contact HOA or the property manager as my mother deals with them and every time the car was getting towed except the last time, she was the one to catch them and pay. I will be contacting the HOA with her when she gets home and will try and contact the property manager. My neighbor is a dick and and I will also be speaking to him personally when I get home. If legal action needs to be taken, we will definitely do so. Thank you!
Edit: talked to the property manager and they said they rescinded my permit. I asked them why and they said that they aren't doing those anymore. I told them they never gave me any indication of that and they said they didn't not plan on giving me any notice.
Edit: Final Update!
Thank you everyone! I honestly could not have expected to get this much help! As of what happens next, we plan on taking legal action, mainly to get our money back, and because it seems that what may have happened with the permits wasn't strictly legal. I still need to talk personally with the HOA guy who conveniently doesn't answer his door when I knock, but he has two big ass dogs and will have to walk them eventually. It seems HOA tend to suck, especially in SoFlo. Thank you!
|
>talked to the property manager and they said they rescinded my permit. I asked them why and they said that they aren't doing those anymore. I told them they never gave me any indication of that and they said they didn't not plan on giving me any notice.
Yeah... that's not how that works.
You've got a permit until July 1, you paid for that, and the company/HOA agreed to it. After July 1, they can choose not to renew it if it's not a service they offer any more. However, you've already paid for and received your permit. They're free to negotiate a deal with you (i.e. cancel parking privileges in exchange for a refund), you're free to tell them to pound sand, but they're absolutely not free to just rescind it without notice and start towing you...
|
I shared on reddit a side-by-side image of my son’s ultrasound and a picture of him after he was born. They looked remarkably similar, and the post got a lot of views. Yahoo contacted me and asked permission to write a little fluff piece story on it. I gave them permission and some quotes to make a story. That was that.
I’ve since realized that the picture has been taken and used by several anti abortion groups. One facebook post alone has over 14k likes and 6k shares. A different group published his picture, our full names and some of the quotes that I gave to yahoo in a newsletter. I don’t know if it was distributed in print or just electronically, or both. They ask people to join the $50 challenge in that article, and ask for donations of up to $5000. Are they are using a picture I took for financial gain? Also, IMO, the article leads the reader to believe I support their cause. My husband and I are pro choice, however. I absolutely hate that my baby’s face has been used in this way. I have no idea how many people the newsletter was sent to.
Do I have any recourse? I understand that I put the picture out there. Is it fair game for anybody to use his images now?
Edited: I am located in South Carolina, USA
|
Did you transfer your copyright to Yahoo when they asked to use your picture?
|
To give some context on where we live: we're in a small neighborhood of about 5 homes; it's a very small cul-de-sac area in the middle of farmland. There aren't other homes or buildings for about 2 miles.
I have 3, young, elementary aged children that all have a very serious case of epilepsy: it does not take much to cause an episode. By some luck, two of our neighbor's kids also have epilepsy, and are also around the same age as our kids. For the past few years they have been able to successfully group together and go to the end of our community to catch the bus.
The family who used to own the house at the street recently moved out, and there is a new owner who has been an absolute hell to everyone. From the second day on, he has harassed our kids telling them to get off his property, even though they were technically on a public road. Through the grapevine he somehow learned that a majority of the kids were epileptic, and has installed strobe lights in his front lawn. These are VERY powerful, VERY fast lights that you can not avoid walking by.
We've contacted the police, and they won't even come out to talk to the guy. We've contacted the school to see if they could come into the neighborhood to pick up our kids, and they really can't: the bus just couldn't drive into our neighborhood and easily back out. They have to be picked up on the street.
What can we do?
​
**EDIT:** Just to clarify, we have confronted the neighbor and yes he intentionally did it knowing the kids were epilitic. He hates kids, and has made it very apparent even calling the lights "brat repellent".
|
I'd try contacting your local ADA organization -- epilepsy counts as a disability, and they'd probably find this case to be of interest. If nothing else, it puts the school in a bind because they are legally required to make 'reasonable accommodations', and your neighbor has created a situation that clearly makes some sort of accommodation necessary. School may not want to send the bus down that lane, but they may not have a choice *but* to do something.
|
Summary:
A few hours ago a woman contacted me asking if i was able to design a logo for her and her perfume brand.
The conversation was polite until she said she was unable to pay me and might was able to pay me in a different way (which i think nudes and i am under age).
She told me she would fuck me up and i didn’t take it serious, just had a good laugh out of it and posted it on reddit ([post](https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/au7ygj/sure_ill_make_a_logo_that_i_have_to_work_3_hour/?st=JSJAE8GG&sh=35d7b55d)
I blocked her, but an hour ago she made a new account and contacted me again saying she would sue me if i didn’t delete the post.
Is it possible for her to sue me? I removed all information that could tell it was that person (Instagram name and picture).
Could she still sue me for any reason?
I am just 15, so i am a little scared.
I am in the Netherlands.
|
If she doesn't have money to pay for a logo she damn well doesn't have money to get a lawyer. Rest easy Lil buddy.
|
Last night my husband of exactly five years (it was our anniversary) attacked me. I screamed at alexia to call 911 and ran outside. He proceeded to choke me until the neighbors came running. I was holding my 3wk old during the attack. He was arrested and issued a 10 day restraining order against me and our three kids.
He's currently in a medium security jail and no bond allowed. I don't know if or what he bc will be charged with. My question is, what should I expect? Do I need to hire a lawyer? Go to court? If I don't press charges is everything dropped? If I do press charges do we go to trial with a jury?
This is the first time he's been arrested for a domestic dispute, and the first time the cops were called. It's the second time he's abused me. I have it all on video because of our ring cam. Can someone tell me what to do now?!
|
Your husband is in deep shit and I suspect this isn't the first time this kind of nonsense occured. Before I answer your questions, domestic violence involving strangulation is highly correlated to murder. There is a real chance that you will die by his hand if you stay with him.
To your questions:
(1) What will he be charged with - [probably at least this felony](https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/codes_displaySection.xhtml?lawCode=PEN§ionNum=273.5.).
(2) what should I expect? - He is likely to hang out at jail for a long period of time and will either enter a plea, get the charges dismissed, or go to trial. You should push for the restraining order to be made permanent and divorce him.
(3) Do you need a lawyer - not for the criminal aspect. One would be ideal for the divorce.
(4) Most cases are resolved by plea or before trial. If trial happens, you would likely need to testify.
(5) If I don't press charges is everything dropped? - Probably not. Most felony prosecutors see you as a walking murder case waiting to happen and would likely subpoena you and compel you to testify.
(6) If I do press charges do we go to trial with a jury? - The prosecutor decides whether to proceed with charges. The defendant gets to pick whether they want a jury trial.
|
This is an update to [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/6pcmwx/school_wants_my_sons_facebook_password_email_also/).
I went to school and asked what's going on. I did that both to confirm that the call was genuine and to see why they want to violate my son and our family's privacy on such a massive scale.
First, the call was genuine and it wasn't a scam. Second, the principal explained the situation to me. It had to do with another student who attempted suicide because of bullying during the summer. Thank goodness she is now alright (and has since moved to another school) but this was part of the school's investigation to figure out how it happened.
When I asked how is it any of my son's business, they said they've seen them hang out together and while they don't think my son was involved in the bullying himself, they'd like to read his conversations with her because she may have confined in him about the students involved in bullying. I asked why this information wasn't obtained from the parents of that student, the answer was that they weren't willing to work with the school about it and she had left so they had no power (strange use of words in this situation) over them.
I told them to leave my son out of this witchhunt and the way they're speaking to us they sound like they're trying to bully us into helping their anti-bullying investigation which is troubling and absurd. I told them that if they ever approach my son or try to take his phone or anything by force or threat I'm going to make a big deal out of this, talk to the superintendent and hire a lawyer.
Up until this day, they haven't said or done a thing.
I talked to my son about the girl and what happened to her, he knew her and they had some mutual friends but they weren't exactly friends and he wasn't aware of her suicide attempt. He only knew that she had left the school. He showed me their conversations and there wasn't much there except talking about movies and tv shows.
In short: they backed off after I made sure they understood that I won't take any harassment or violation of our privacy lightly.
Small edit; thanks for the couple of who messaged me the mistake. Someone messaged me and asked me if the parents of the girl had allowed the school to share the suicide news with me. I will try talking to them to make sure. They deserve to know if the school is not respecting their privacy, it's something they seem to be good at.
|
For those interested discussion of this update is ongoing in [this bestoflegaladvicethread](https://www.reddit.com/r/bestoflegaladvice/comments/76lkpb/school_wanted_access_to_students_facebook_and/).
|
This afternoon I found out girls have been kicking my nephew in the crotch at school. He’s 12 years old and I imagine they’re close to his age. He told his grandmother he had bad pain and they went to the ER. The doc said 1 testicle is most likely dead and they’re trying to save it and check on the other in surgery.
How can we move forward with this legally? He will very likely lose a testicle and may have serious health issues because of it. I can’t find much online except there is a class 3 felony of malicious castration, but I don’t know what that really means. I’m very angry and want justice for this child. Any advice on how we could move forward is helpful. I want them to pursue criminal charges and hold these people and their parents (or the school!) responsible for this life altering violent crime.
Edit: they live in NC. I don’t know the ages of girls but it’s happening at a middle school.
|
State matters. Thirteen states have no minimum age for prosecution of children. In any case, report to the police. Are the girls suspended and/or on their way to expulsion?
Also the parents can sue the parents of the girls for all medical bills, and perhaps then some. They should speak to an attorney.
|
[Original Post](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/anlpqr/old_coworkers_are_telling_me_my_old_boss_talks_to/)
​
**Old post summary**: my old boss was telling my old team that I was having a ton of issues. I found out my therapist is her husband, but I didn't know how she was finding this out/to what degree each person was doing bad stuff.
​
**New developments summary**: There's still a lot of slow/bureaucratic stuff going on, but the most satisfying news is that *my therapist is no longer practicing*. I even saw the space he practiced out of listed as for sale on a real estate website while doing my own house hunting.
​
**New developments, continued**: Therapist was chatting about a client (me) to his wife (my old boss) that, it seemed, he really didn't know was his wife's old employee (large company, closely knit but not minuscule industry). I have a very peculiar family dynamic, so I think he talked about that. However, enough bits and pieces of identifying info came up that she suspected it was me. Unbeknownst to him, she found my paper records in his office and dug through them, then thought it was a great idea to tell my old coworkers that I was depressed and had family issues. Neat. One of my coworkers put in her two weeks because of a relocating spouse shortly after, then agreed to write a formal statement of what she heard, which also helped a lot. Understandably, no one else was willing to because the company's already laid off so many people in the last year.
​
**Resolution-in-process**: therapist seems to be less in the wrong than I thought he was (though still in the wrong), old boss is still awful. Therapist likely to receive some sort of reprimanding for both talking to his wife about me in that level of detail, as well as insecure recordkeeping. I don't know if he'll practice again.
​
***Thank you all -*** you were a huge help, and a confidence boost that me complaining about this would actually get it somewhere and not just create more stress in my life. It's apparently led to a ton of drama at my old workplace, which has been sort of pleasant to hear updates about from afar. Glad to not be there anymore. I also found a new therapist who's great, and she's really helped validate that the old guy (and his wife) was one bag egg in a sea of otherwise well-meaning people.
|
The r/legaladvice community would like to welcome our guests from r/all and/or r/popular. We are glad you are visiting. There are a few things you should know before you post here:
**We lock update posts that do not contain additional questions**. There are two reasons for this. First, this is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. Second, those posts were moderating nightmares filled with off topic ranting and pointless arguments. We welcome update posts - particularly when a poster reports that they used our advice successfully. Even when they are locked in r/legaladvice there is almost always a discussion of the update in r/bestoflegaladvice for your popcorn needs.
**Nothing here constitutes the formation of an attorney/client relationship**. This is not a substitute for an informed local attorney. At best, the advice herein assists the posters in taking the first step toward resolving their legal issue.
**We are not a popcorn sub**. We remove posts and ban posters who do not participate in good faith. We lock posts that meander off topic, devolve into pointless bickering, or result in too many reports to the mods. This is not to say that there isn't entertainment to be found here, indeed that is why most of us became involved in the law. It is fun. And when justice results, it is rewarding as well.
**Our rules are in the sidebar to your right**. They are available in detail [here](https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3jm6u2/the_law_of_the_land_please_read_before/) and our wiki is [here](https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/wiki/index). For those of you who want more popcorn and fewer vegetables we invite you to visit our sister subs /r/bestoflegaladvice and /r/legaladviceofftopic.
**Shitposting and brigading will earn you a permanent ban**. We respond to the situation at hand and the laws that apply. This is not the place to grind your political axe or talk about what you think the law should be. If you want to change the law, get involved in local politics.
**Personal anecdotes are not useful**. This is not the place to talk about how once your sister's roommate got out of a ticket by doing X. The fact that you have an anecdotal counterexample is not proof that the advice offered is wrong.
**This is legal advice, not moral advice**. Sometimes we have posts on hot button issues such as abortion, child custody, rape, racial prejudice, sexism, and so on. People come here to learn about their legal options. Advice relating to their immortal souls can be found elsewhere on reddit, online, and at local mosques, churches, temples, and philosophy departments. Sometimes, however, legal advice is indistinguishable from life advice.
Thank you for visiting our sub. We hope you enjoy your time here and consider subscribing.
---
LocationBot 4.31977192 | [Report Issues](https://www.reddit.com/r/locationbot)
|
For some background I am renting an apartment and my lease ends on September 30th. My landlord is an older guy who inherited this house; not a professional company or anything like that. I do have a lease that says I get 24 hours notice for entry except emergencies which I believe is the law itself, but in this case I did not get that notice.
Last week my landlord texted me shortly after 8AM saying someone is interested in buying the house from him (he has not previously brought up selling it so this was unexpected). He asked if I could let them in to see the place at 10, and then at 9:30 texted again saying he's guessing I'm at work so he's just going to let them pick up a key from them and lock up when they are done looking.
I did not see these messages until I took lunch at 12. I texted my landlord back saying I thought I am supposed to get notice for entry and I'm not comfortable with him letting people in unattended, he said sorry but they are going out of town and won't be back for two weeks so it was an emergency (though I'm sure that doesn't legally count).
Long story short they robbed me and I have it on security video but police weren't able to get much information from it because their vehicle is common and has no license plate, and they wore hoods and bandanas so you can't tell much about their faces. They took everything of value such as laptop and TV and even some stupid things like my lamps.
My renter's insurance originally was going to cover it but said they need a copy of the police report, and the police report explains the situation that my landlord gave them a key (as opposed to them breaking in). Now the renter's insurance says they cover breaking and entering resulting in loss but these circumstances makes it a civil issue instead of an insurance issue and I should seek to get reimbursed for my losses by my landlord instead.
Meanwhile my landlord is an idiot and did not even know these people. He met them at Dennys, only got their first names and gave them his phone number and told them his own address to pick the key up, but didn't get any of their information whatsoever like phone number or anything. I told him my renter's insurance won't cover this and because this was caused by him literally giving strangers a key to the place I would like him to reimburse me for my losses, he says he's sorry but at the end of the day it's these guys that owe me and not him and offered to talk to the police more to give them more description to find the guys but that's all he can do to help.
What now? Push my renter's insurance, sue the landlord, give up and cry? I would appreciate any advice anyone might have on what my best option is at this point.
|
First things first: where is the key that your landlord gave them? This sounds like a current and ongoing safety concern.
|
I posted this a few weeks ago: [https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/cxprda/i\_am\_supposed\_to\_have\_money\_put\_aside\_for\_me\_for/](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/cxprda/i_am_supposed_to_have_money_put_aside_for_me_for/)
I just wanted to say thank you to all the advice and help i received (especially derspiny). I was able to get in touch with an awesome lawyer who specializes in wills and trusts, who after explaining my whole situation to him he was willing to do the discovery for free.
He was able to find that i not only have 1 trusts, but 2 trusts for me. One of the trusts was setup a long time ago, most likely by my mother and is still intact and safe (which was more than enough for me). Unfortunately the second trust was most likely "improperly setup or handled", as it seems to have been emptied about 2 years ago.
He gave me a bunch more useful advice and gave me detailed instructions on how to use the trust properly, along with a bunch of recommendations to ensure the money is not touched by my step mother or siblings.
I also managed to talk to my step siblings and basically learned that:
* They both considered themselves estranged from my step mother, my older step brother pays for her utilities/rent but that is it. They aren't on speaking terms in anyway, and recommended me to get out right away.
* Apparently my step sister also was supposed to have a bunch of money for her education only for it to mysteriously just dry up after her first year of university. With her mom telling her she spent all her 4 years of tuition in 1 year. So now she is paying her way.
Anyways i have decided to basically keep my head down for the last year of high school and get out as soon as university starts, and never look back.
Thank you so much for your help.
|
Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. This is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. If, however, your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/d5okb8/update_i_am_supposed_to_have_money_put_aside_for/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
Feel free to start or join in the conversation about this update in either /r/bestoflegaladvice or /r/legaladviceofftopic.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
|
My girlfriends landlord entered her house after he talked to her as she was going to work. He believed nobody to. Be home, but I was here laying in bed. I woke up to him coming into the apartment to use the bathroom and then leaving. When I said something as he was leaving he ignored me. I text my girlfriend about it to see if she had given him permission to enter and she said no. He did have permission to enter the building at 11 am to show her apartment, but this was at 9:30 am and he had no tenant to sho the apartment to. He just came in, used the bathroom and left. He didn’t even finish flushing the toilet.
When I confronted him he became aggressive with me, made threatening gestures toward me and started trying to accuse me of wrongfully occupying the building, which is not the case. He then left the property and came back 20 minutes later and started banging on the door and threatening me and accusing me of wrongfully occupying the space again. And when I explained to him that I had every right to be there because I had permission from the tenant to be there, he said “okay, I’ll let you go this time.”
My girlfriend feels uncomfortable here because he just entered the unit without her permission. How can we make sure he doesn’t do this again?
Also, the dude didn’t even finish flushing the toilet and left a turd in it.
Edit 1: the landlord is the property owner.
Edit 2: there was an empty unit across the hall.
|
He's getting defensive because he was clearly in violation of state law. She should make him aware that he does *not* have permission to enter the premises at any time, and that if he does it again, she will call the police.
|
I would like to thank you guys for the help and all the creative ideas you have proposed in the [original thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/5kkp7e/this_mankid_keeps_flying_a_drone_over_my_house/). Sorry for not updating you right away as I was really impacted by the death of a very close person in my family.
So here’s what happened. I liked one of the comments here where it said to see if there is anyone who fly drones as a hobby willing to use his drone for me for a thousand dollar instead of me paying for a whole new drone, figured just like you guys said it would make someone’s day to fly a drone as a hobby and also get paid. So I hired a guy which I'll call him Frank.
After waiting for 3 days at my house every morning the drone finally flew to us but apparently when the other kid saw the other drone take off he went crazy and tried to hit it or take it down, which he did, which resulted in the kid’s drone and frank’s drone both to go down broken on the ground.
A few minutes later this kid came running to the house (whom I recognized lives a couple of blocks away) and started whining about how we flew our drone in his way and crashed it bla bla bla. We went and spoke to his dad and showed him all the footage and explained all the shit his son has caused. Shockingly he was completely understanding. He told me he would put me through one of his lawyers so that they would offer both Frank and I a settlement if I agree not to sue. I called my lawyer and we all met a week later and he reimbursed Frank for his drone plus way more money that I would’ve ever paid him. He also wrote me a check for what his son has caused under the condition that I wont pursue any legal action.
It was a happy ending and I was quite shocked of his father’s reaction and his willingness to pay for everything his son has caused, but I must admit that I feel sad knowing that his dad is definitely the one enabling him to do so. Never have I felt his dad was mad about anything his son did. While we were there discussing what happened his dad received a phone call and then shortly after ending it he started telling his son what the other party was saying and they both started making jokes about the caller! So the whole thing made me feel that his dad was like “mehhh just another day, my son caused damage and I’ll just have to pay those people here for this to go all away”.
|
Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. If your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/69z6d0/update_this_mankid_keeps_flying_a_drone_over_my/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
|
I'm going to try to state this as calmly as possibly.
My father has cancer, walks with a cane/wheelchair, and has a [port](https://www.cancer.gov/images/cdr/live/CDR756805-750.jpg) for his treatments that is a tube from the side of his chest going to his heart. We came to this country 20 years ago, both my parents speak english well with an accent that is not so thick people have difficulty understanding them in our city (New York) facing the customer directly at our shop. They sometimes get syntaxes, plurals, and slang wrong, but it's not hard to figure out, my father read the times daily and has given lectures at a college. I'll gladly post an audio clip of them speaking if needed. However, the cancer and medication make him very soft spoken, and his hearing isn't that great (he's nearly 70) and when very upset or flustered, can have a hard time finding the right words.
Today, they were flying from TN (I don't want to name the airport yet, but if needed will do) where my sister and her family live, to Houston, TX, where my father is undergoing some experimental treatments for his cancer. He had permission to travel, and with him brings a note from his oncologist from home (Brooklyn, NY) and in Texas, which includes a diagram of the port but not a full list of medication (which I will request from his doctors tomorrow) He also brings a printout from the TSA about traveling with a port and cancer which I will find the exact link to when I get more info.
My parents arrive 3:45 to a Tennessee airport for a 6:00 flight.
Both parents have TSA pre and get on line at about 4. They are told to get out into the other line, they show their tickets, and the agent consults another while they wait, the other agents letting people past them. The agents start questioning my father on where he is going, his name, the address on the ID, etc. My father is having difficulty understanding the agents accent, which is very thick, and the agent is responding by speaking louder and louder and more drawn out, making it even harder to understand. Meanwhile I assume he is not speaking his best English, either, as he is flustered and has been standing a while now, but he is trying his best. I'm not sure if they asked about the port at this point but my father tries to give them the info and doctors note he has brought, which I think adds to the confusion. They wave him away, scribble something on his and my moms ticket, and eventually get escorted by a third agent to the precheck line. They don't know why someone walked them to the line, it wasn't to help my dad walk or anything.
Both parents put their things on the scanner, and an agent tells my dad to remove his kufi (he does) and gets a consult with another agent if my mother needs to remover her hijab (she doesn't, as they finally agree on, but later while patting her down, my mother says they nearly pulled it off several times.) They go through the bags and bring out my fathers medication and tells him he needs prescriptions for it, he gives them the notes, they say they will hold it until after the pat down. My father says thats ok, again reiterates he has a port and they cannot touch it. He calls it a 'device' at one point which causes the agents to start speaking loudly at once, my father stands with his hands in the air while my mother tries to explain. He tries to show it to them and they yell at him to 'not undress' (His first has a button front placket, he literally undid one button and pushed to the side, not 'undress' at all.) They take him into a small room away from my mother. He is roughly pated down 'like you would in a prison' (still unsure what exactly he means) but it took much longer than expected. The agent starts pressing hard on his port and my father cries out. The agent begins to lecture him and say it's needed and they have to figure out what it is, at once point trying to pick up/pull at the port.
My father has survived escaping genocide in our home country, survived bomb blasts that killed his parents and most of his family, has buried his only son, and has never once in my lifetime cried in public. I have literally never seen him cry, only my mother has, once. He couldn't stop himself from the tears, and he cried with pain.
He tells the agent to stop, he is told to stop being 'aggressive' (again, he is a 5'7, 115-25 lb cancer patient who has never raised his voice or not cooperated) The agent keeps going, pressing hard on his legs, causing his knees to buckle and he falls to the floor. The agent stops abruptly, they help him to his feet and offer a chair. My father is white, shaking, and still has tears. They bring my mother into the room, she had already been roughly patted down herself but is fine. They wait together for another 20-30 minutes, without any of their belongings or phones. They agents finally come in and say they can go board their plane, and give a halfhearted apology for 'taking security seriously.' They take their bags, which are missing my fathers medication. He asks for it and after another 10-15 minutes or so, he gets it back. By this point the plane has left. They go to the ER to see if port is damaged and for pain medication.
He has now missed a very important scheduled cat scan and consult with his oncology team, and risks getting put out of the treatment plan, as well as possibly getting charged for not calling 24 hours ahead to reschedule, issues with the insurance, etc. My father is in incredible, needless pain, in a strange city hospital. Port is OK but they want to check him out again before flying.
I would like to know what the best course of action to take to ensure my father can fly comfortably out of this airport and get to his appointments, for one, and secondly to ensure he does not lose his place in the study. If he is kicked out of the program, if we are charged for this appointment or cannot reschedule for a long time (which may not be worthwhile at this stage) can we sue the airline for the cost of that? Can we request they pay for this checkup/stay in the local hospital tomorrow? They have already said the tickets are refunded when my mother called the airline but she has no checked their bank account yet. I am getting all of this second hand from my mother (and third hand from my sister) so I have tried to make a summary of all relevant details that I can go over with her later, so I'd love to know what relevant questions to ask as well.
My family is very quiet, I don't want to do anything to bring any more attention to us (like tweet at the airline) as that would be incredibly upsetting to my father. I would if that is the only option, however. I don't know if it's relevant that we are Muslim, either, I assume thats why they got so upset when he said it was a medical 'device.' My father is an absolutely upstanding man who has done so much for the refugee community, other small business owners, and our neighborhood and worked hard to rebuild and help others after 9/11. He doesn't deserve to be treated like this, nobody does. I would love some advice. Apologies for length.
Edit- I do not know if this is correct flair, if you want me to change it please advise.
|
You need a civil rights attorney.
|
My dad passed away last week while at work. He had a massive heart attack. He was in the bathroom while the attack happened and he tried calling 911 repeatedly. Here's the thing though, 6 months ago, his company installed some kind of signal blocking device in the bathrooms because employees were going to the toilet and browsing the internet.
The doctors say that if he'd received medical attention within 20 minutes he might've made it but they didn't find him until almost 2 hours after he'd passed. Last month, there was a nasty car wreck just outside his office and apparently ambulances were on the scene within 10 minutes so I'm sure that if he'd been able to make the call, he might've lived.
I spoke to the company and they've told me to get lost, saying it's private property and they're well within their rights to use jammers how they please. Is that true? I'm struggling with the funeral costs as it is, I can't afford a lawyer, especially if it's going to go nowhere.
|
Lawyers in wrongful death cases work on contingency. This means they do not charge unless they get you compensation. It won’t cost you anything to talk to them. Give a call to a couple of wrongful death lawyers tomorrow. See what they think.
I’m sorry about your dad.
|
[The Mystery Fence](https://imgur.com/gallery/5k6nQdq)
Delaware, USA. No homeowners association.
We live in a row home and the house attached to ours is vacant. It's been on the market since before we moved in, and nobody's lived in it for at least 7 years. There was a small cast iron fence between the two yards (on my property line) that went from under the fire escape to the brick garage (which you can see in the image). I removed that fence as it was on my property about a month ago and installed brand new, beautiful sod.
Well I come home today and this disgusting, mismatched random combination of fences has been erected between the yards. Part of it goes over my property line, crushing the sod, at the bottom of the fire escape. The leprechauns or whoever installed it stepped all over my grass to do so, and to top it all off, they gave us the ugly side, which is totally against fence etiquette.
I don't know who owns it, so I called the real estate agent. He was just as shocked as I was when I told him there had been a fence built at a house he is selling. He had no idea. He'll be in contact with the owner of the property tomorrow, but she is a 70 year old woman who doesn't live here, and he said he can't imagine why she would have a fence built. I asked my neighbor on the other side if she saw anything. She didn't.
What do I do about this fence?
|
You mentioned the house is for sale. It looks to me like squatters put the fence up to make it harder to see people coming and going next door.
Has the house been broken into in the past? 'They' could be trying to use it as a drug house.
|
Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/fxb7s8/i_think_my_landlord_may_be_dead_or_hospitalized/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
Lots of folks wanted an update post so here we go.
First off I want to thank all the people who offered advice and help for this problem.
I was able to find and get a hold of my landlord! It's was not the most exciting or interesting outcome-and I'm glad for that. Turns out the dude's cellphone got stolen. That's why his voice mail box stayed full. We got back in touch yesterday and are working out a pandemic payment plan for the rent during the shutdown.
Sorry it wasn't a cooler story, but I'm glad it was a small first world problem and not something more sad. Thanks again, Reddit!
|
---
> http://imgur.com/a/myIAb
---
*I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*
---
**It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**
---
***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***
---
Author: /u/SeaOfBullshit
Title: **[UPDATE] I think my landlord may be dead or hospitalized and I don't know what to do**
Original Post:
> Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/fxb7s8/i_think_my_landlord_may_be_dead_or_hospitalized/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
>
> Lots of folks wanted an update post so here we go.
>
> First off I want to thank all the people who offered advice and help for this problem.
>
> I was able to find and get a hold of my landlord! It's was not the most exciting or interesting outcome-and I'm glad for that. Turns out the dude's cellphone got stolen. That's why his voice mail box stayed full. We got back in touch yesterday and are working out a pandemic payment plan for the rent during the shutdown.
>
> Sorry it wasn't a cooler story, but I'm glad it was a small first world problem and not something more sad. Thanks again, Reddit!
---
LocationBot 4.998375 71/193rds | [Report Issues](https://www.reddit.com/r/locationbot)
|
Long story short, I live in NY. My bfs hobby is to take re-claimed wood custom cut it and make table tops or shelves out of them, selling some tables for $400 or more. I had 3 of these 7ft long oak wood sitting on the side of my house for a month, out to dry in the sun, on planks. Those pieces can be sold for $1,200 or more when finished. This lady that lives in the area assumed they were for the trash and publicized the wood online as "next to a dumpster and going to a landfill" (my recycling bin was next to this wood, on the back end of my house.) I came home to my wood missing and I found her post online, giving it away for free with my exact home address for all to see. Someone unknowingly thinking it was hers to give away snagged them. I contacted the guy, and got it back. I then wrote her a message showing her a screenshot of the NY State Government Property Lines website of my properties boarder which she clearly crossed over to take the photo of the wood on my property. I told her to never do that again and mind her own business. Her response was "I am quite too busy to read all this, either way it was a mistake. Good luck out there in this shitty world, it sure is a bear." After that passive aggressive bullshit I went to the police. I filed for tresspassing. The cop said I could get her for possible larceny. Idk how that wouldnwork if she didnt take it herself. I'm just wondering... how far can I push this? I am now completely uncomfortable with doing future projects in my own yard and the entire town I live in now knows my exact address attached to my name because of this lady. The cops said they would go to her home and ask her side of the story... I have pictures of her post, pictures of my property line and screenshots of many people I didnt know very well, asking me if her post was in fact the wood on my property that I had posted on my own FB that I was in search for, linking my exact name to that exact address. I work as a bartender in town, where I have many strange men I dont want knowing where I live. She posted it to my towns Facebook page. Maybe if she was more kind I would have let bygons be bygons but now, I'm thinking "the world sure can be a bear"
|
Contact that town FB page admin and request they take the post down. Might not hurt to take your own posts down as well. This is in addition to whatever legal advice others give you here.
|
Original post here: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/9x6enr/son_has_a_peanut_allergy_school_continues_to_give/
The past 3 months have been long and expensive but it's finally resolved. Now I can't go into a lot of the details after but I can go over some of the details that happened during.
We contacted a few attorneys and finally found one we were comfortable with and then the fun started. We first sat down with the principal and teacher with our attorney and he didn't say anything except he needs to talk to someone else and not us.
Our attorney then began collecting documents and statements/affidavits from our pediatrician, another doctor and even got another opinion. Then he began having us get documents from the school, some of which they said we couldn't have but our lawyer assured us we could have them. So he sent the school district some nice letters and a few phone calls later we had everything. Talking to our insurance and the hospital was the easiest part of this entire thing which I thought would be more complicated and our insurance even offered their attorneys services to our attorney which turned out to be quite helpful with some of the other issues that came up along the way.
He spent about a month going over everything, talking to doctors, getting more statements and reaching out to other parents etc. During this time our child was moved from his normal classroom and placed in a special needs classroom. Something we did not agree to or with, our child has no developmental problems and an allergy hardly is a special need.
So our lawyer then starts having us request more documents, same act with the school and he had to send off letters and phone calls to get the new stuff related to him being put into a special needs classroom. The lawyer began sending letters about how the school district is punishing our child with the move to a more restrictive classroom and a different curriculum and magically the next day he's back in a normal classroom.
Finally after 3 months of mostly playing the game with the school district getting them to give us the paperwork and requests they are legally required to did we all finally sit down with the school districts attorney and our attorney.
Now I can't go into a lot of the details but I can tell you they settled without us moving onto the next step of having our meetings in a courtroom. Lawyers are expensive, and so are hospital bills. I just hope all of this doesn't make our child a target for the rest of the year. We are going to be moving and changing jobs over the summer hopefully.
Thanks for all your help and advice guys and girls, the plans everyone brought up for us to look over was incredibly important because we already had them on file with the school.
|
The r/legaladvice community would like to welcome our guests from r/all and/or r/popular. We are glad you are visiting. There are a few things you should know before you post here:
**We lock update posts that do not contain additional questions**. There are two reasons for this. First, this is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. Second, those posts were moderating nightmares filled with off topic ranting and pointless arguments. We welcome update posts - particularly when a poster reports that they used our advice successfully. Even when they are locked in r/legaladvice there is almost always a discussion of the update in r/bestoflegaladvice for your popcorn needs.
**Nothing here constitutes the formation of an attorney/client relationship**. This is not a substitute for an informed local attorney. At best, the advice herein assists the posters in taking the first step toward resolving their legal issue.
**We are not a popcorn sub**. We remove posts and ban posters who do not participate in good faith. We lock posts that meander off topic, devolve into pointless bickering, or result in too many reports to the mods. This is not to say that there isn't entertainment to be found here, indeed that is why most of us became involved in the law. It is fun. And when justice results, it is rewarding as well.
**Our rules are in the sidebar to your right**. They are available in detail [here](https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3jm6u2/the_law_of_the_land_please_read_before/) and our wiki is [here](https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/wiki/index). For those of you who want more popcorn and fewer vegetables we invite you to visit our sister subs /r/bestoflegaladvice and /r/legaladviceofftopic.
**Shitposting and brigading will earn you a permanent ban**. We respond to the situation at hand and the laws that apply. This is not the place to grind your political axe or talk about what you think the law should be. If you want to change the law, get involved in local politics.
**Personal anecdotes are not useful**. This is not the place to talk about how once your sister's roommate got out of a ticket by doing X. The fact that you have an anecdotal counterexample is not proof that the advice offered is wrong.
**This is legal advice, not moral advice**. Sometimes we have posts on hot button issues such as abortion, child custody, rape, racial prejudice, sexism, and so on. People come here to learn about their legal options. Advice relating to their immortal souls can be found elsewhere on reddit, online, and at local mosques, churches, temples, and philosophy departments. Sometimes, however, legal advice is indistinguishable from life advice.
Thank you for visiting our sub. We hope you enjoy your time here and consider subscribing.
---
LocationBot 4.31977192 | [Report Issues](https://www.reddit.com/r/locationbot)
|
Location: Toronto, Ontario
I own an apartment in downtown Toronto, our building has had a bad history of problems with AirBnB tenants so we voted to ban any sort of short term rental. Currently i am on the other side of the continent for work, and won't be back until January.
I decided to list my place up for a rental in late August, for rental until Janaury. Since the rental time was almost half a year it doesn't count as a short term rental (several people do this in our building and it is fine). I immediately got a hit by a person named Jane who was a student about to start grad school (i don't know if this is true or not), and we talked and decided to agree to the rental.She signed a document indicating she agreed to the buildings rules, including the notice about "No short term rentals, through services such as AirBnB".
Yesterday i got an email from our property manager:
* On Monday they were testing each units smoke detectors, and he noticed there were 3 people in the unit. Along with a strong smell of pot. They apparently identified themselves as AirBnB renters. (Apparently they tried to deny our property manager from entering, since they weren't sure of who he was since they were only renting this place for a week through AirBnB).
* I am violating the rule about no short term rentals.
* I am apparently in violation of a bunch of rule violations such as the fact that more people are staying in my unit than permitted.
* Apparently multiple guests have been parking overnight in the visitors spot (not allowed) who all recorded my unit number as the one they are visiting.
After getting that email i called him and confirmed, and i was able to find my place listed on AirBnB, using very recent photos of my apartment. I tried to contact Jane, through email (no response), phone calls go to voice mail, and facebook (she blocked me after i sent her a message).
I have tried numerous times to talk to AirBnB, but all they have told me is they can't do anything about this, and basically refused to do anything about the listing.
Aside from all the issues above, frankly i don't feel comfortable with a bunch of random strangers in my apartment at all. Unfortunately i have no idea even what to do about this legally speaking. Do i have any way to block these random people from entering my unit?
\*EDIT\* I forgot to add, that i have talked to a lawyer about evicting the tenant however he told me it could take upto 2+ months, which is why it won't really help. Since by then in \~2 months her lease will be over. I want to stop randoms from AirBnB from entering my apartment now.
|
Oh, hello. A subject near and dear to my heart.
Ontario, as you well know, has some of the stiffest tenancy protections in North America. However, the Residential Tenancies Act is clear about what constitutes subletting:
---
Interpretation, sublet
(2) For the purposes of this Act, a reference to subletting a rental unit refers to the situation in which,
(a) the tenant vacates the rental unit;
(b) the tenant gives one or more other persons the right to occupy the rental unit for a term ending on a specified date before the end of the tenant’s term or period; and
(c) the tenant has the right to resume occupancy of the rental unit after that specified date.
---
Clear enough, and obviously applies to an AirBNB situation. The tenant is clearly absent (very few AirBNB rentals occur with the AirBNB host present in the unit), the tenant is clearly authorizing one or more other people to reside in the unit, and there is a clear date on which that occupancy ends and the tenant can resume their own occupancy.
This is important, because the RTA requires your tenant to get your permission before subletting:
---
**Subletting rental unit**
97 (1) A tenant may sublet a rental unit to another person with the consent of the landlord.
---
If your tenant did not obtain your permission, the Act provides a remedy:
---
**Unauthorized occupancy**
100 (1) If a tenant transfers the occupancy of a rental unit to a person in a manner other than by an assignment authorized under section 95 or a subletting authorized under section 97, the landlord may apply to the Board for an order terminating the tenancy and evicting the tenant and the person to whom occupancy of the rental unit was transferred.
**Time limitation**
(2) An application under subsection (1) must be made no later than 60 days after the landlord discovers the unauthorized occupancy.
---
That application occurs using [this form](http://www.sjto.gov.on.ca/documents/ltb/Landlord%20Applications%20&%20Instructions/A2.pdf), part 3, reason 1.
You can, and in my view should, apply to evict your tenant. You should also notify your condo corporation that you have done so, to hopefully forestall enforcement actions for your tenant's breach of your condo bylaws or declaration rules. If your condo corporation does fine you, you can seek to recover those costs from your tenant in small claims, but it's likely not worth your time: instead, hope your condo corporation is willing to hold back on fines while you evict your tenant.
Time is of the essence, here. You have a 60-day deadline from when you became aware of a sublet before you can no longer take action against that particular sublet.
|
Update ([former post](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/igxl19/bullied_by_coworkers_they_knock_off_my_cap_from/)) because I used your advice and it helped. When I went back to work I talked to my boss about the bullying and them knocking off my cap and I said it's making me miserable but again he didn't care. So I said that what they are doing is harassment and because they make fun of my speech impediment it's discrimination and if he doesn't do anything he's responsible for it. I saw he was pissed but still he talked to his boss. Then when he came back he yelled at me and the bullies for creating trouble and I thought we were going to be fired but that was it. But then the next day the owner came (that rarely happens) and he talked to my boss and then to me, he told me the bullying would stop and to tell him if it didn't. At first the guys who were bullying me were moved to another part of the shop so they wouldn't be with me but the next day one of them was fired, not sure if it's over the bullying. Anyway it's good now thanks to you and I don't need to find a new job.
​
Edit: thank you very much for all the awards, that's very kind and I appreciate them but please don't spend your hard earned money on me, donate to your favorite charity instead! Thank you everyone again.
|
Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. This is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. If, however, your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/imf94g/update_bullied_by_coworkers_who_knock_my_cap_off/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
Feel free to start or join in the conversation about this update in either /r/bestoflegaladvice or /r/legaladviceofftopic.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
|
Thank you to everyone for the advice. I'm also a SHE by the way (many of you thought I was a dude lol), but on to the update:
After my initial post, I saw that many of you advised for me to call the manager and demand information from her because Enterprise is the one at fault and I shouldn't have to go to the police for their mistake. So I did exactly this, and she told me that id I want her to give me more info, I would need to file a police report within 24 hours and email it to her as evidence that I am NOT the person who rented the car. If not, she would report me for Embezzlement and Grand Theft to the Sacramento Police. Upon hearing this, I decided to file a report immediately online with the San Jose Police Department. I know many of you said I shouldn't because its not my fault but after she told me the consequences, I did not want to take any chances where I could end up with a warrant on my head. I thought that if anything, filing this report would also prove my innocence if the police actually did come knocking on my door. After filing it, I emailed her the copy and she responded the next day, saying that she recieved it and to give her a call. When I spoke to her over the phone this time, she said that I was in the clear and finally gave me information about what had happened:
On May 29, a woman claiming to be me had come in to rent out a black cadillac. She showed the representative "her" drivers license that had MY information on it, and paid for the car rental upfront with CASH. (I thought that you need a credit card to do this but apparently you can just use cash) The manager also says that she has video surveillance of the woman which she will turn into the Sacramento Police later that afternoon. The following morning, she emailed me the number of her report which she filed as FRAUD, and said that the police opened up an investigation which she will keep me updated on. At this point, I was relieved to be in the clear yet also pissed that some woman is out there impersonating me. I then started contemplatig about taking a 3 hour drive to Sacramento see who the hell this woman is. However, turns out I didn't have to because 2 HOURS LATER...
THE SAN JOSE POLICE DID SHOW UP KNOCKING ON MY FRONT DOOR. ( 2 Policemen and 2 CHP officers) Before opening it, the first thing I did was grab the copy of the police report I printed because I seriously thought that they were going to arrest me (2 squad cars, 4 officers, and 1 me). When I open the door, the first thing they ask me is if NAME OF WOMAN I DO NOT KNOW lives at my home? I tell them no, and that I have no idea who that is, then they ask if I am ALYMG and I tell them that I am. They then begin to inform me about a car accident that happened in the nearby town of Fremont that morning. The accident was a hit and run, with the driver fleeing the scene but she dropped her drivers license which they found on the floor. They then show the license to me and it's an EXACT replica of MY DRIVERS LICENSE, and I ask them how this is possible if I have my license in my wallet? They then tell me to go grab it and after comparing the two side by side, one of them tells the others that the one they have is a fake. (The black strip on theirs is chipping but mine isn't... it's not supposed to chip) I then ask them if the driver was the woman who stole the car from Enterprise, and they ask me to ellaborate which is when I hand them my report. I explain what happened which prompts them to give me more details about the accident, and they tell me that the woman was driving a stolen car and crashed into another vehicle, but she fled the scene in the black cadillac from Enterprise. So basically, the rental car was used as the "getaway car" and was identified by the witnesses in the other vehicle. I told the officers that I have the plate number of the vehicle in the demand letter, and the that info down as well. I then asked them who is the NAME OF THE WOMAN I DO NOT KNOW and they told me that she is the who stole the car. However, I'm not sure how they know that (fingerprints maybe) but they did show me her mugshot, and we DO NOT look a-like at all. Idk how the hell she was able to rent the car in the first place but whoever rented it to her probably didn't even check for a comparison. But after this, the police then thanked me and told me that they'll call me when there's an update on the case.
I do have her name now though, and After doing a google search I found her Facebook and other social media accounts. I'm very tempted to message her but I've decided to leave this to the police because I have no idea who this bitch is, and don't know if she's dangerous (she might be gang affiliated or something and she DOES know where I live) However, I do hope that they catch this bitch and will update you all when that happens.
|
Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. This is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. If, however, your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/8rxudv/update_i_just_recieved_a_demand_letter_from/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
Feel free to start or join in the conversation about this update in either /r/bestoflegaladvice or /r/legaladviceofftopic.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
|
For clarity we're both minors. I'm 16 and my demonic sister is 15. She has never been right since we were little kids. Always violent. She bashed me in the head with a metal pipe when I was 5 because I wouldn't let her ride my bike. All of my life I've been putting up with this shit and I have had enough.
She hits me, breaks my things, literally stabbed me last year, stole the keys to my car and banged it up twice this year. My parents wont do anything about it. She's already in alternative school for stalking another girl in her class. I really don't know what is wrong with her. She's not slow or anything like that before she got kicked out of regular school she was in the gifted program. My parents think she's like this misunderstood genius or whatever. They refuse to involve cops because it's a "family issue". Which brings us to today. My parents force me to let her tag along with me and my friends because honestly she doesn't have any except for this delinquent at the alternative school she is supposedly dating. Whatever, not important.
Anyway, I was hanging out with my friends today and of course the demon was with us. We decided to go to the Dollar Tree to get some snacks. Demon didn't buy anything. As we left the store I could hear something in her bag like a rattling noise. I confronted her and this little beezy stole a bunch of cough pills! I don't know why. Don't they make meth out of those or something? So I told her I was going to call mom. I pulled out my phone right there and she fucking punched me in the face! I was really angry she did that in front of my friends and no way was I going to let her embarrass me so we started fighting. I took her down and had her pinned on the ground. That's what you have to do pin her and let her tire herself because she will NOT stop otherwise. I had her arms pinned and she started flailing her legs and kicking me. She got me in the throat and I was letting her go! I was getting off of her when she kicked me right smack in my face full fucking force like she charged that fucking kick up and broke my nose. Blood was gushing everywhere and she didn't even care she just left!
It took forever to stop the bleeding and my face is swollen and ugly. It hurts like a bitch. My friend gave me a bunch of Tylenol and it still hurts. I came home and told my parents immediately and they asked me what did *I* do to upset her?! I was so angry I told them I was calling the cops and my dad told me I couldn't go to the cops without parental consent! Is that true???
Something needs to be done about her because she's like getting a lot worse and my mom is 8 months pregnant now and I'm really scared for my little brother when he gets here. Please help me.
Update: Well shit went down basically how I expected it would. My mom called me very upset that police had came. What happened is my dad answered the door and he was really mad and probably drunk honestly and they told him they were there to check up on my sister. I asked if my friend's mom would really play up the fact she's crazy af to get her Baker Acted because I was afraid they wouldn't arrest her and she'd come after me. Well my dad didn't want to let the cops in and basically told them to fuck off and they threatened to arrest him if he didn't so he finally let them and I guess my sister must have heard all of this going down so she barricaded herself in her room and wouldn't answer so they broke down the door and they found a bunch of empty pill bottles in her room and she was really disoriented so they called an ambulance and she got taken to the hospital. My mom said she went in after they left and there was a bunch of empty bottles of cough medicine. She said my dad is super pissed but she told me she's honestly relieved.
|
NAL, just a therapist / clinical psych doctoral student who works with children/teens.
Let me just start of with this. You are being **abused** by your sister. **This is NOT your fault no matter what anyone, including your parents, say to convince you otherwise.** **No one has the right to assault you, no matter "what you did to upset them."** That's called victim-blaming, and it's bullshit.
As a minor, you have a **legal** **right to physical and emotional safety in your home.** Your parents are failing to ensure that, so unfortunately you'll have to protect yourself. Luckily, there are responsible, trained adults who can help you do this.
You can call CPS (you can make an anonymous report) or inform a trusted teacher/school faculty member as they are mandated reporters who will call CPS for/with you. If it's an emergency and you feel like you're at imminent risk of being harmed by your sister, please do call 911. You can call the cops without parental consent.
Take pictures of your injuries for added evidence. Make sure they're saved in a place where family members won't see it (ex: password-protected phone with a pw that only you know)
Reporting this to CPS anonymously might help to protect you from family fall-out down the road. It sounds like they're trying to hide this, and this gives benefit of the doubt that some other neighbor/teacher/concerned citizen made the call, not you.
You might have some difficulty being brushed off by CPS and/or 911. Be prepared that CPS might tell you to call the cops, and vice versa. I recommend having a trusted teacher/adult help you with your calls, as they (hopefully) will be harder to blow off than a minor with no experience doing this.
Also want to add that I'm sorry you're going through this. You must feel pretty trapped and scared and helpless right now. Taking steps to protect yourself and your future baby brother is very brave of you. **You're an excellent big sister/brother and you will make it through this.**
​
**Following resources might be helpful to you. Remember to clear your browser history.**
[https://www.thehotline.org/](https://www.thehotline.org/)
[https://ct.counseling.org/2017/02/helping-children-families-address-prevent-sibling-abuse/](https://ct.counseling.org/2017/02/helping-children-families-address-prevent-sibling-abuse/)
​
EDIT: another kind user made me aware that they had a bad experience with the hotline resource I provided and was turned down for services, despite their apparent need. Just want to add in that you might have to persist through several resources as some adults might be unhelpful. I promise you that you are **entitled** to protection from this abuse, so please don't get discouraged.
​
|
Hi everyone, came here to give an update as many people asked.
The burning of the barn finally happened! We went to the fire department and asked about a controlled burn. They said it might be OK under certain conditions but they had to do an inspection first. They made us remove all that could have produced toxic fumes and pollution, like old tires and the ruins of a tractor. The wood was dry and there was almost no paint left so they said it was fine to burn. They were actually glad for the opportunity because they had a new guy to train. They said they would do protection of the other buildings and nearby bush and it would be a productive training session for them.
When the day finally came they let us start the fire (more of a symbol than anything, they did the "real" starting for safety reasons). The fire had to be helped a bit because it had rained a lot the days before, but then the whole barn was engulfed at once, it was beautiful in a way. I must say it burned spectacularly well, there was almost nothing left in the end, which is exactly what we wanted. For those of you who were worried about us burning valuable stuff, we did keep some tools and a pile of boards that we will sell but there wasn't much more than that, except if you can find value in porn magazines from the 80s, empty bottles and nude girls calendars. These were my father's possessions so we had a lot of pleasure in letting them burn. We added his clothes for good measure. We likely could have sold more of the barn wood, but there was more purpose for us in burning it all down. Probably won't solve the deeper issues of what our father did but it did bring some relief and some sense of closure.
Unfortunately we couldn't throw the big BBQ party we wanted for the fire department (we did have some beer though) because of Covid restrictions, but we all decided to do it later, hopefully next summer. The firemen were real bros, really cool but professional, and they seemed to have as much fun as we did. We're really thankful for their help, you rock guys.
|
[Original post for those interested](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/i9lnwg/tn_is_it_arson_if_i_burn_down_a_building_that_i/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf).
|
When I was 14, I was raped by a close family friend. I got pregnant but gave the baby up for adoption when I was 15. I knew the child was adopted by distant family members who lived a state away but I did not know their names or what they were like. We received a sum of 2500 dollars when they took her from the hospital. I do not remember signing anything. I do not know what happened to the friend; I asked to be kept out of the process as much as possible. My mother said he was jailed but I don't know if he's still in jail, how long he was in jail, or if he even went to jail. I have two other children, ages 10 and 7. and am now married. My husband knows about my daughter but has deferred to me on how we should handle the situation.
​
A month ago, I received a facebook message from a woman who says she is my daughter. I believe she is because her appearance and that she has the same genetic condition as my rapist. She told me that she wanted to get to know me. I spent hours going through her facebook page, trying to decide what to do. I found myself disgusted by her. There are a lot of similarities between her and my rapist as she is rude, vulgar, whiny, and smokes illicit substances. She is married but has a publicly strained relationship with her husband and refers to him by cruel nicknames. I decided that I would not be comfortable meeting her. I blocked her without responding. After a week, I began to receive letters from her. Four letters in total. I did not read those either but recently received a phone call three days ago. I finally answered. I told her that I was not interested in getting to know her and that she should leave me and my family alone or I would get the police involved.
​
She began to berate me. She told me that my family was her family. She accused me of not going through proper adoption procedures and that I had maliciously sold her to an abusive couple as punishment for being born and that I had held back important information. Without medical records, she lived life as a very sick child and was deeply in debt from the genetic testing necessary to diagnose her illness. She told me that she would be making contact with my family whether I liked it or not. She also said she would subpoena me for her father's name if I did not comply and that I could possibly be jailed for selling a baby. When I began to cry, she offered me an alternative; her genetic condition makes getting pregnant more difficult. If I agreed to pay for a round of IVF, she would consider us "even" and would only try to make contact with her father. Here are my questions:
​
1. Does she have a legal right to make contact with my family if I tell her to stay away?
2. Could she force me to disclose information about her birth father?
3. My parents are dead and I do not know how to find out information about the adoption. I did not sign any papers and didn't really speak to lawyers outside the court case. I am worried it is possible my parents merely handed her over in exchange for the money. Could I be arrested for selling her as a teenager?
4. I have money in my savings account and could afford the amount she is asking for. Could I form a contract that would legally force her to leave my family alone if I agreed to pay?
Edit: amount asked for was removed. Also, because several people have asked: I do not want her to know her father's name because the family has previously harassed and threatened mine. It only stopped once I left the state. I am worried that if she finds them, she will give them my address and I will need to move again.
|
One point that no one has mentioned is that you were a minor at the time of her birth. You did not sell her. If your parents did, that's not on you. If the adoptive parents gave your parents money to help with your medical bills, that's legal and not "selling a baby."
I am not a lawyer, I can't help but wonder if the adoption may have been perfectly legal. I wonder if it's possible that your parents signed for you as your guardians.
|
Hello. I'm a first-time poster, and I'm also on mobile. I am 19, and I currently live in New York City.
My parents died when my brothers and I were young (Eldest was 11, Second (the brother in question) was 7, and I was 5). They left money for each of us once we turned 18 to help with college and life expenses. I turned 18 last year, and went through the process of getting the money. It was in March 2019 that I finally got it. It turned out to be a large sum- around $230,000. I decided to split the the money into two accounts- $75,000 into a savings account that no one was suppose to be able to touch, and the rest into my checking account. I wasn't spending much every month, and my grandma has only taken out a few thousand to take care of bills, but that was only $1000-$2000 a month (so a maximum of $12000 by this time).
Yesterday, it came to my attention that my entire checking account had been bleed dry- only $200 dollars to my name. I called the bank, and we found several instances of transfers of large sums of money (from a range of $1000 to as much as $25000) over the six month period after I deposited the money. My savings account has also been taken from. I'll admit, I really should have been paying more attention, but I was sure only me and my grandma had access to them and I got no warning from the bank about any of these transfers. We tracked where the transfers were going, and they were going straight into my brother's account. He had somehow gotten ahold of my info.
When I confronted him, he said he had spent it all and only had about $4000 left. He spent it all- a whole $197,000- on food and on in-game purchases. I know it sound unbelievable, but after looking at his bank statements, it's true. It's just line after line of Uber Eats, Postmates, and game purchases. My grandma wants me to forgive him and let him work to make the money back, but this man just finished community school and has no work expierence. It would take YEARS for him to make that money back on minimum wage. Should I call the police and have him arrested? Is there any way to get that money back?
Edit: Okay, I've decided to call the police and sue the bank. I know how to get my hands on bank statements, and I'll record him confessing to the theft. But I don't know how to hire a lawyer. Where do I start?
Edit #2: Okay I just figured out how he got ahold of my account details. My grandma sends him to the store with her ATM card sometimes to get money. He memorized her card and pin, found the account shared with me, and took from it.
Edit #3: Thank you so much everyone for all of your concern and advice. I got a ton of messages and I'm trying to answer them all, sorry if it takes long.
I've managed to convince my grandma (after a long arguement about this potentially ruining his life) to sue the bank for negligence and speak to a lawyer. We're going to see if the court would be willing to send him a mental institution instead of jail. Haven't gotten him arrested yet, but I told her if need be, I would call them myself.
I like to clarify my grandmother's intentions on protecting him like this. My mother committed suicide right after my father died, and my grandma felt responsible for not helping her or seeing the depression that had taken hold of her. She explained to me that she knew something was mentally wrong with my brother, and was trying to "make up" for ignoring my mother's mental state by shielding him. She had no play in stealing my inheritance, other than giving him her card and pin under the assumption that he was just getting money for her since she can't easily walk to the store and use an ATM.
Edit #4: So I went to the bank. Because he went through my grandmother's account, the bank says we have no claim. No case to sue the bank with. There's nothing I can do to get the money back. I'm ruined financially. All I can do is sue him and put him in jail, but I'm never gonna see that money again. I'd like to thank everyone once again for their help, and I'm sorry if I haven't responded to your messages yet. Also, thank those two people who gave this post silver and gold. This will be the last edit I make, hopefully.
|
If he stole your personal information to drain the account definitely call the cops, file a report, and provide the report to the bank. He will facey consequences, but that all falls on him.
If he was named on the account then he had the right to transfer the money and unfortunately more than likely nothing can be done.
Can you clarify which it was. You said you thought he wasn't on the account but not positive.
Edit: thank you for the silver kind stranger!
|
I felt nauseous after being sick for a few weeks, so I went to the nurse's office. There was only one nurse there, and I was the only student there. I explained my situation, and requested that due to my athsma, she turn off her essential oil diffuser. She refused. Two more students came in, and they explained what problem they had. Both of them said that the essential oils were making it hard to breathe, and she denied that this was even possible. I believe that one of them had athsma. I was having a large amount of difficulty breathing, so I told her that this was a health and safety issue. She got angry and asked me to leave the room. She had not yet attempted to diagnose me. Is there any way I can report her? This is a charter school, meaning that while it is a public school, it is not part of a district.
|
Asthma is covered under the ADA, go to the head of your school and ask for an accommodation.
|
I matched with a girl on Tinder and chatted for a couple of days. She mentioned that there was a big event happening three states over and asked me if I wanted to join her on a short holiday for a week.
I agreed, picked her up, we had dinner to see if we clicked, and then I drove to the event.
When we reached the event she ended up hooking up with another guy in the hotel room I'd booked. She scarpered off and eventually returned to the hotel room very, very late after not seeing her for hours and very, very drunk.
Obviously, I was pissed that I'd been used as a free travel ticket, and I had to spend most of my time at this event alone. I wasn't expecting to be rewarded with sex, but at the very least don't abandon me in another state while you go shacking up with other guys!
It is still going on for three more days, but can I legally just abandon her here and drive home? Or do I have a legal obligation to take her with me? I'd rather not waste any more of my time, and I might be able to do the Maquoketa Caves if I leave now.
I told her I was going to leave and she insisted that I had to wait for her, as I was the only way she could get back home.
States involved are Iowa, Illanois, and Indiana. Currently in Indiana.
|
You hold no legal obligation to act as a free taxi service and provide her a return trip to her home state.
|
Edit: This post got more attention than I expected, and awards I didn't even know existed (thanks, kind strangers!). A few notes for the curious among you:
* for more specifics on things he lied about, [there's a partial list here](https://old.reddit.com/r/bestoflegaladvice/comments/f4vegp/my_husbands_double_life_week_continues_with_a/fhxolm6/)
* [follow this link](https://old.reddit.com/r/bestoflegaladvice/comments/f4vegp/my_husbands_double_life_week_continues_with_a/fhu3v62/) for comprehensive evidence that cats make the internet go-round
* the best advice I can give for those stuck in an abusive or otherwise horrible relationship is this: (1) no matter what you think now, it will be better if you get out, (2) find people who will give you the kind of advice you'd give someone if roles were reversed, then do what they tell you that you should do, (3) when you're ready to process everything, find a therapist to help you through it, and (4) as well as you can, act in ways that will allow you to look yourself in the eye when it's over, because that will matter and also it will help you in the long run.
* there's a disturbing number of people out there who have lived through things like this and much worse. Please be kind to one another, support those who need it, and refuse to tolerate poor treatment of others.
*Now back to the original post...*
Original post [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/akw5d2/georgia_just_found_out_husband_fabricated_entire/).
It's been a little bit over a year since I turned to this community as my life fell rather dramatically to pieces around me. My original post didn't get a ton of attention, but the replies I received helped me tremendously, and seeing where I am a year later may also provide some hope for those going through their own crisis. In particular, you helped me construct my initial list of immediate-to-do items, and put me on the right track to figure out how to extricate myself from the relationship.
The day I first posted here was the day I found out that my then-husband had lied and fabricated most of what I knew about him. Other things I did that day included teaching a class to 200 undergrads about 15 minutes after I found out for sure, and kicking off a day-and-a-half long job interview for the next stage in my career (a job which I *somehow* landed...).
What unfolded over the following three months can really only be described as living my way through my own version of a Lifetime movie. At some point I moved into an extended stay hotel, and as time passed I learned about the depths and breadths of the lies and deceit he'd used to both control me and get what he wanted, and the lengths he'd go to try and get his grip back on what he'd successfully manipulated his way through for about four years. What I know now -- and what I'm kind of glad I didn't really know then -- was that I wasn't actually as safe with him as I thought I was. So I'm thankful I managed to get out with only psychological/emotional/financial burden, and no physical trauma.
About two-and-a-half months later I successfully had my marriage annulled on the basis of Fraudulent Coercion to Marry. I ended up doing the necessary research and filing the paperwork myself -- which was not an easy task, but was both cheaper and faster than it was going to be if I hired a lawyer. A few weeks after the annulment I moved my belongings out of our apartment and moved to a new city and my new job. Without him, but with the kittens. As of late June I finally had him convinced that contacting me was pointless because he wasn't getting me back, and so I've been largely free to recover from the trauma and crisis mode I lived in for about three months.
One of the things I've learned from all of this is how incredibly difficult it is to get out of a relationship in a situation like this. Besides the obvious difficulty of navigating the legal system, and the cost associated with it, there's the cognitive dissonance of constantly trying to remember to relate to that other person in light of the new information you've found out about them. It really and truly took every life skill and tremendous support of my family and friends network to get out in (more or less) one piece. And even still the road to recovery and a return to thriving is a long one.
So...thanks to those who helped me back on that terrible day in January 2019. And if you know someone who is going through something like this, please offer whatever you can in support. Because they definitely need it!
|
Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. This is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. If, however, your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/f4vap0/update_just_found_out_husband_fabricated_entire/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
Feel free to start or join in the conversation about this update in either /r/bestoflegaladvice or /r/legaladviceofftopic.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
|
Link to original post,
https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/9u6h0i/texas_my_mom_has_my_cat_and_has_repeatedly_sent/
Hello,
First off, thank you to those who commented with helpful advice. I didn’t feel like advice to steal my cat back was ‘legal’ (thus, being in this subreddit), so I took one users advice to talk to the director of Animal Control in my mom’s city.
She basically told me that the police have no idea what they’re doing, especially when it comes to law regarding animals. She said that the only thing I can do to get them to understand is to report my cat as ‘stolen property’. She said the police will understand what to do if a I reference my cat as ‘property’ and not an animal.
I went to the police station and the police threw me around again. Despite I tried to report stolen property, they got upset at me and claimed that a cat isn’t ‘property’. After 5 minutes of arguing, they send a cop out to the lobby and he agreed to read my mom’s texts.
The cop read them and said that since she claimed that the cat is mine, and she told me to collect him, I can go to her house with a police officer and he will assist me in getting her to hand back over my ‘stolen property’.
We get to my mom’s house and she’s not there. We look around the outside of her house and find no signs of Kitty either. I call her and ask her where she is, and told her that I was at her house with the police. She said, in quote, “I took the cat and ran off into Oklahoma and I’m not ever coming back.”
The police said they can’t help me since they don’t have jurisdiction in Oklahoma.
I went to the courthouse to file a small claims against my mom, but the filing fee is $171.00, so I left because I can’t afford it. On my way home, I contacted Adult Protective Services in one last ditch effort, but was on hold for over 3 hours. So I hung up and filed a complaint on their website.
I also called my grandparents and they were the ones who tipped my mom off, which is why she ran into Oklahoma. My mom played the ‘poor me’ card, so my family bought into it. And somehow, I’m now the bad guy in the situation who is trying to murder the cat... When I got home, I cut everyone out. All of my family. I separated every single tie I had to them.
I’ve had that cat since he was 2 days old, and if I’m being open about the situation, I was a victim of childhood abuse. That cat was the only thing who showed me love for most of my childhood and teen years, and it kills me I won’t be able to get him back. I ended up hurting myself and had a nervous breakdown, and now I’m getting help for my own mental health. This situation broke me, and right now, I’m trying to recover.
Thank you everyone for listening.
**Tl;dr:** My cat is gone and I’ll never get him back.
|
The r/legaladvice community would like to welcome our guests from r/all and/or r/popular. We are glad you are visiting. There are a few things you should know before you post here:
**We lock update posts that do not contain additional questions**. There are two reasons for this. First, this is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. Second, those posts were moderating nightmares filled with off topic ranting and pointless arguments. We welcome update posts - particularly when a poster reports that they used our advice successfully. Even when they are locked in r/legaladvice there is almost always a discussion of the update in r/bestoflegaladvice for your popcorn needs.
**Nothing here constitutes the formation of an attorney/client relationship**. This is not a substitute for an informed local attorney. At best, the advice herein assists the posters in taking the first step toward resolving their legal issue.
**We are not a popcorn sub**. We remove posts and ban posters who do not participate in good faith. We lock posts that meander off topic, devolve into pointless bickering, or result in too many reports to the mods. This is not to say that there isn't entertainment to be found here, indeed that is why most of us became involved in the law. It is fun. And when justice results, it is rewarding as well.
**Our rules are in the sidebar to your right**. They are available in detail [here](https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3jm6u2/the_law_of_the_land_please_read_before/) and our wiki is [here](https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/wiki/index). For those of you who want more popcorn and fewer vegetables we invite you to visit our sister subs /r/bestoflegaladvice and /r/legaladviceofftopic.
**Shitposting and brigading will earn you a permanent ban**. We respond to the situation at hand and the laws that apply. This is not the place to grind your political axe or talk about what you think the law should be. If you want to change the law, get involved in local politics.
**Personal anecdotes are not useful**. This is not the place to talk about how once your sister's roommate got out of a ticket by doing X. The fact that you have an anecdotal counterexample is not proof that the advice offered is wrong.
**This is legal advice, not moral advice**. Sometimes we have posts on hot button issues such as abortion, child custody, rape, racial prejudice, sexism, and so on. People come here to learn about their legal options. Advice relating to their immortal souls can be found elsewhere on reddit, online, and at local mosques, churches, temples, and philosophy departments. Sometimes, however, legal advice is indistinguishable from life advice.
Thank you for visiting our sub. We hope you enjoy your time here and consider subscribing.
---
LocationBot 4.2836 | GitHub (Coming Soon) | [Statistics](https://locationbot.info) | [Report Issues](https://www.reddit.com/r/locationbot)
|
Because I know you lovable assholes are all about the updates...and seriously, thanks for all the kindness on my post. You all helped break the cycle of panic.
Original: https://old.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/8nxple/colorado_my_landlord_has_revoked_permission_for/
Turns out it wasn't my landlord at all. It was my roommate SAYING my landlord had said I couldn't hospice there.
Yeah. I know.
I specifically moved in with this person for this reason...with the understanding I would be dying in this house. I'm not sure if it was malice or just idiocy but apparently she thought that 'terminally ill' was just a cutsie designation or something? And I guess she thought it wouldn't actually happen. So instead of telling me six months ago, or three months ago, or when the hospice nurse started coming to the house...she tells me three weeks into hospice care that, supposedly, the landlord says "You can't do in-home hospice here".
Obviously this is super illegal (thanks, LA!), and I call my lawyer who calls me back at noon on a fucking Saturday to say nofuckingwayisthisokayholyshit. Lawyer wants the landlord's contact info asap so we can get moving on this immediately.
I started to get suspicious when the roommate wouldn't give me the contact info for the landlord...finally, after I threatened roommate with lawyers, roommate gave landlord's info to me... and I call landlord and of course the landlord had no clue what I was talking about because roommate hadn't even discussed it with her.
So yes, it is an illegal eviction and interestingly because I subtenant to the roommate and not the landlord,yes, we are going to pursue it fully. My attorney is thrilled, my landlord didn't do anything wrong and is will be getting rid of a super shady tenant (my roommate), and my roommate will have to pay for what she did, hopefully. Everybody wins?
Except I still gotta die, yo. After I move lol. At least I can afford it I guess. :(
Thanks LA.
|
Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. This is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. If, however, your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/8o84yk/update_my_landlord_has_revoked_permission_to/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
Feel free to start or join in the conversation about this update in either /r/bestoflegaladvice or /r/legaladviceofftopic.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
|
Last post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/92evgg/can\_my\_parents\_force\_a\_pregnancy\_test/](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/92evgg/can_my_parents_force_a_pregnancy_test/)
​
I'd like to take a minute to say thank you to everyone who responded to my last post. Your advice helped prepare me for what came next.
​
Pretty soon after I posted, I received a letter in the mail from a lawyer that basically said that my parents were demanding a paternity test on the basis of grandparents rights. I knew from my post that it was unlikely that a lawyer would take this case, so I googled the law firm and lawyer's name. I couldn't find the lawyer's name anywhere, but the law firm was real so I reached out to them. The letter was fake and the law firm was not happy. They asked for the letter and are pursuing some sort of legal action against my parents. I don't know exactly what's happening as I have not been in contact with my parents in a while.
​
In other news, my daughter was recently diagnosed with a (very minor) skin condition that is fairly uncommon and that I also have, which means she's most likely mine after all. We still won't be doing a paternity test any time soon, but it was helpful for our peace of mind.
​
Thanks again for the advice everyone!
|
Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. This is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. If, however, your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/9a96oq/can_my_parents_force_a_paternity_test_update/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
Feel free to start or join in the conversation about this update in either /r/bestoflegaladvice or /r/legaladviceofftopic.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
|
This might be a weird story, but I had my first child six weeks and three days ago. During delivery, I tore and had to get stitches. The doctor on call didn't tell me how many stitches I got, where he put them or even what type of tear I had. I had my six weeks check up Monday and when I finally get a room, I realize my doctor didn't have any notes or know anything about my delivery. She had to ask me if I got stitches and if the doctor on call gave me any information about them. I had to tell her I had no idea, I was out of it after delivering my son, I couldn't even hold him. When she finally gets to checking to make sure everything is healed up properly, her face changes and she tells me we have a problem. She then pulls out a notepad and begins to explain that the way my vagina was stitched caused it to heal in a weird way. She then draws the opening to my vagina and shades out the middle of the hole. To put it in a better perspective, my vagina look like the number 8, but the two holes are smaller and the line in the middle is way thicker. I have two mini holes that not even a pen tip could fit into! She tells me I have to have surgery because the problem isn't going to resolve itself. I already had a traumatic time healing from the birthing process and I now have to go back through what traumatized me to begin with. Would I be able to sue the doctor? I tried researching if this is a common thing (even though I've never heard of it) but nothing pops up other than "the husband stitch".
Edit: I forgot to mention my doctor took a picture on my phone so I could better understand what she was trying to tell me after I didn't really understand her drawing. I don't think I can post it, not that I really want to, but if I need to draw exactly what's wrong with it to get a better answer, please let me know!
Edit: I came here to look for advice and most of you have been really nice and helpful, even the comments I haven't gotten a chance to respond too yet, but I also see some comments that are very ignorant to the female anatomy! I had someone go to another post of mine and tell me I should've been looking inside my vagina more than once in 6 weeks and the post was about my antidepressants. I don't know about any other woman but even before I had my baby I didn't just go looking inside myself very often. I've been called a troll and honestly it doesn't bother me that much but if you want to see the picture just ask, I can understand how this would be hard to believe, but I literally stated I have proof! I just want help, I'm going through a hard enough time as is.
|
Surgeon here: while it's possible for things to heal how you described (it's called a stricture) if they actually sutured your vagina shut that's malpractice
|
We are in Pennsylvania.
My sister(9) had nude and semi nude pictures taken of her by her friend (9). This friend had distributed them to the school students and old men on snapchat.
We have pictures of the conversations between the girl and the old men. Where they talk about my sisters boobs and vagina. They talk about kissing naked among other things. It makes my mother and I physically sick. This girl has sent out messages to this guy pretending to be my sister.
The mother of the girl deleted the pictures but as everyone knows once it's on the internet it's out there forever. I know that the police would be able to retrieve the photos.
We took everything to the state police because we have her friends phone currently that has all of the messages. And the police said "give the phone back and everything will eventually be erased from the internet." They aren't willing to persu the GROWN MAN that is in possession of these pictures or the girl who has done all of this. They are sending us to our local police department and I know from experience when I was sexually assaulted that they will say the same thing or victim blame.
Please this cant be what we have to live with. My sister cant just be violated at 9 years old and have no justice. What can we do??
|
Contact your state's Attorney General's office. His name is Joshua Shapiro, his office has a line dedicated to child predator cases 800-385-1044
Not only will they be interested in the case, they should be interested in the inaction of your local law enforcement.
|
[Link to first post](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/c34jp2/coworker_is_bragging_about_filing_a_false_bite/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app)
Glad to say I’ve got a happy update!
The coworker was indeed terminated the day her probationary period ended (7/1). I wasn’t working that day but apparently she just stormed out wordlessly when told.
The ex has filed for a temporary restraining order and is working on a permanent one. He’s also installed home security cameras and carries a copy of the police report and a one page vet record showing the dog is spayed and vaccinated. The dog has also been to obedience school and they wrote a letter saying she hasn’t shown any human or dog aggression.
Police and animal control are very good around here. They assured us both that euthanasia is an absolute last resort in any case and that they’d require extra proof from this coworker should she report anything. Additionally, with the restraining order, the coworker can’t be “bitten” by the dog without violating it. And the department says they don’t allow totally anonymous reporting-you can keep your name secret from the dog’s owner but not the police/animal control.
So the dog is safe, coworker let go, and ex is forewarned and forearmed. I’d call it a win!
Thank you all for your advice and support!
|
---
> http://imgur.com/a/myIAb
---
*I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*
---
**It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**
---
***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***
---
Author: /u/Pulmonic
Title: **[UPDATE] Coworker is bragging about filing a false bite report to attempt to have their ex’s dog euthanized. Can I help prevent this?**
Original Post:
> [Link to first post](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/c34jp2/coworker_is_bragging_about_filing_a_false_bite/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app)
>
> Glad to say I’ve got a happy update!
>
> The coworker was indeed terminated the day her probationary period ended (7/1). I wasn’t working that day but apparently she just stormed out wordlessly when told.
>
> The ex has filed for a temporary restraining order and is working on a permanent one. He’s also installed home security cameras and carries a copy of the police report and a one page vet record showing the dog is spayed and vaccinated. The dog has also been to obedience school and they wrote a letter saying she hasn’t shown any human or dog aggression.
>
> Police and animal control are very good around here. They assured us both that euthanasia is an absolute last resort in any case and that they’d require extra proof from this coworker should she report anything. Additionally, with the restraining order, the coworker can’t be “bitten” by the dog without violating it. And the department says they don’t allow totally anonymous reporting-you can keep your name secret from the dog’s owner but not the police/animal control.
>
> So the dog is safe, coworker let go, and ex is forewarned and forearmed. I’d call it a win!
>
> Thank you all for your advice and support!
---
LocationBot 4.6319918 & 17/64ths | [Report Issues](https://www.reddit.com/r/locationbot)
|
I found this out about two hours ago. My High school posted the rule book along with the normal info for the school year.
In the rule book section about driving to school, it states in bold letter; ALL STUDENTS WHO DRIVE TO SCHOOL USING A PERSONAL VEHICLE MUST GIVE THE SCHOOL A COPY OF THE KEY OR KEY FOB.
After I read this I thought it was a misprint or a mistake. So I called the principal and school board, they both said that it was real and if you park on school property you must follow that rule.
About 30 minutes later I checked the school website and others were complaining on the forums about it. They went on to post their reason, they want to be able to do random searches or drug sweeps.
​
I personally find this to be a invasion of privacy. what can I do to stop this?
Edit: Campus is the only place around to park at without paying $100 for a parking pass.
Update: The school removed the policy after a car was broken into using the keys from the office. Thank You all for the help
|
I can see potential liability for the school and board if someone's car was burglarized after this policy is implemented. What is their key control system? Where are they going to store all of the keys, and who's allowed to get a key? I can't believe they actually ran this past an attorney before implementation. This seems to be one of those "yes, it's technically legal but it's stupid" ideas.
Other than parking off-campus, your only option is to bring this up at the next school board meeting. Take the time now to organize the students ***and parents*** (because in most cases, the parents own the cars and will be the ones spending the money for keys/fobs.) Point out that on newer cars, it might cost $300 or more for a new key. How many families have that kind of spare change sitting around?
This is how you become politically active in your community: by finding an injustice or bad policy, and organizing people to change it. Valuable lessons coming. Best of luck to you.
|
I believe my babysitters boyfriend touched my 2 year old son inappropriately.
This is a throwaway account, due to certain circumstances I worry for my safety of myself, family, & friends so thus the throwaway.
I am currently residing in Wisconsin.
I believe my babysitters boyfriend touched my 2 year old son inappropriately.
**Information:**
My very first inkling something was up, is the day I believe this happened he came running crying into my arms when I picked him up, previously he was excited to be dropped off and picked up because he loved being there. And they had both previously baby sat my child and other children for a year, and there were absolutely no issues at all.
After this had happened, my 2 year olds entire demeanor has changed negatively, he has become angry and aggressive toward everyone in the house, including the family animals.
That night I had picked him up, I changed his diaper before bed and his body had become stiff as a board. This is extremely unusual as my 2 year old usually is a playful child and tries to squiggle away from me or “washes his hands” with the baby wipes. This time he was not himself. He was scared, eyes wide as a deer in the headlights. As I took off his diaper he covered his eyes and began weeping softly, then moving his hands to cover hisgenitals and shouts, “No! No no [Friends boyfriends name]!” And began crying hysterically.
My heart sank. As a mother, my gut feeling is screaming that something happened to my baby. I know something was done to my baby.
I looked my friends boyfriend’s criminal records online and he has many petty things starting from 1999 but most notably he was charged with 3rd degree rape of a minor under 12. This man is dangerous, and I didn’t even know this.
**My Concerns And What Can I do?:**
Notably in Wisconsin, cases involving you children, how often does CPS investigate the person reporting? Both myself and the party involve?
Will the investigators / CPS take this matter seriously when regarding my child’s age?
How do I go about reporting this and keep me and my family safe?
What kind of things will they (either CPS or law enforcement etc) look into?
If reported, and nothing happens, what things can I do to protect my child(ren) And my family?
For a two year old child who has been sexually molested, what are some other signs I can keep my eyes open for?
Any advice, any help at all will greatly help. I’m absolutely devastated and need help as I’m at a loss.
**Edit:** I need to mention that this man has gang ties that originate from a very large city near us, hence why I’m scared for myself and my family.
**Edit 2**: I am currently on my way to my appointment with CPS and Law Enforcement that specializes in sexual abuse cases I will update later, thank you all so much for your kind words of support and advice, I honestly appreciate it and will update on the outcome.
|
Take your son to the hospital immediately. He needs to be seen by a physician. Let them know what you suspect. So sorry this happened.
|
I have a small but somewhat successful take away business in Australia that does pick up and delivery.
For the passed month or so door dash drivers have been coming into my shop and picking up food for customers. We finally picked up on it and I called door dash and to my surprise my menu ( which was incorrect, with food and prices ) were on there. I asked them how this happened and to take me down.
They told me it was done automatically. They never asked me or informed me. I told them to take me down immediately. They said okay.
About a week passes and I'm still getting door dashers. More and more frequently. I call them again and this time they try to argue with me saying that they are doing me a favour, insisting I stay with them. I explain I am losing money with them because instead of people paying me a delivery fee for my own drivers to deliver the food. They are paying door dash instead.
They tried to plead me to stay. I said no and even now I'm only temporarily removed from their website ( 2 weeks )
Am I entitled to compensation here or anything? I feel like I've been wronged. I don't want another business making money off my success.
|
No compensation as the other guy said, but you can definitely refuse them service. You are unfortunately just one of many restauraunts experiencing the same thing.
|
**Regarding the false sticky edit by a mod: When you adopt a dog from a rescue, the dog is spayed or neutered by the rescue before they go to their forever home, as they absolutely should be. I am not planning to violate my contract by breeding my dog. I don't know who I was reported to be to the mods, but that is 100% incorrect and it's baffling that they would make that accusation without any proof. I am just someone who adopted a dog and am now being bombarded with emails (and texts now too!) from a crazy rescue owner demanding I add her on Facebook. That's it. People can stop with the harassment, threats, and insults now.**
Pretty much the title. My fiance and I adopted a dog from a rescue a couple weeks ago. Then I received a Facebook friend request the evening after doggo came home from the lady who had been fostering him. She also happens to be one of the co-founders of the rescue. I have very few friends on Facebook (literally just 28 people) because I only want to share my life with good friends and family, basically just people I trust, so I didn't accept the request. I didn't actually take any action at all, I just ignored it. A few days later, I received an email from her "reminding" me to accept her request and that I need to post a photo of my dog weekly so that she knows the dog is doing well and is still with me. I told her I wasn't comfortable with adding her on Facebook since I didn't really know her, but would be happy to send her periodic updates.
Apparently, this wasn't good enough, and she responded with an incredibly snooty email saying that she requires social media contact in order to be able to assess how the dogs are doing and make sure they are in a good home and that adopters are adhering to the contract. She also said that if I refuse to accept her friend request, she may have to take "legal action" and have our dog forcibly removed from our home.
NOWHERE in the contract does it state that I must be Facebook friends with her, and when I asked my friend who recommended this rescue if she had to do this, she said she didn't, but that this person is kind of known to be very involved and protective of the dogs she adopts out. Do I have to actually do this, and can the rescue actually take my dog back if I don't? I'm even more uncomfortable with the idea now knowing how overbearing she is. It's just a boundary thing to me.
|
Nowhere in the contract did it say you have to have social media contact. You are covered. Just block her, if she continues to threaten you, reach out to the other owner.
|
The deputy knocked on the door, my wife answered. They asked her name, she told them, and they asked her to step outside. She declined because she wasn't wearing shoes. He said "OK, we will do this inside then", and stepped in the door. He told her that he was there to arrest her. She's never even had so much as a parking ticket in her life. She protested that she had done nothing wrong, and that she had a common name. Finally they agreed to let her get her ID. After examining it, they went and looked up the birthday of their suspect and found that they were indeed different, so they left.
I'm upset that this happened. If she had stepped outside, they would have likely arrested her on the spot, she did not have her phone, and I would have had no idea what had happened to her. I would like to file whatever complaints I can, and ideally find the judge who signed the warrant to complain how poorly the deputies did in trying to arrest the correct person. Any advice for the best next steps?
|
Your remedy is to file an internal affairs complaint against the officer. Call the officer's police station to get information on how to do that. The officer has access to DMV files and those would have your wife's birth date. So assuming your wife has a driver's license he should have checked that. The judge has no control over how well or how poorly the police execute an arrest warrant.
|
California here, getting that out of the way. And full disclosure, its not my home. The home belongs to my parents, but I house sit for weeks or months at a time for them and deal with the neighbors enough to care(plus I love my parents and want what's best for them). I will just be saying MY home or MY driveway so I dont have to keep typing "my parent's driveway" or "my parent's home" over and over.
These neighbors moved in a year or two ago and have made life so uncomfortable for my parents they are actually talking about selling their home to move, their marriage home with ALL the memories. I thought they were selling because they wanted to move out of state, but have since found out it is because of them.
My parent's neighbor's kid (a very immature 20 year old) has a beater he leaves parked in front of my parent's front yard. He has it parked in the middle so that it takes up ALL the space and no one can park on either side of it without blocking a driveway. It has been in 3 wrecks in the past year and currently he wont drive it. Why? I don't know. Perhaps it isn't in running condition any more. All I know is it hasn't been driven in over a month.... well, until what happens next.
I want to also mention they have a full garage. They also have the same size space in front of their yard to park in, which happens to always be empty unless they have company. And a driveway that can fit and does fit 3 of their cars, including another beater that has never left the driveway since they moved in.
I politely asked him to move his car when I saw him several weeks ago and he flipped out on my, cursing and screaming at me. He followed me to my car and was yelling at my car door window to the point it had fog from his breath. Several days later I visited my parents and he had his friends parking in front of his car so as to block my our driveway partially while still leaving the spaces empty behind his car that would block his own driveway and all the spaces in front of his yard were empty to.
I spoke with my parents and they said the kid had his friends doing that ever since I had asked him to move his car as payback. They said he's really mean and to just let it go. This did not sit right to me, so I later after visiting went to the neighbor's home to speak to the parents. I explained the situation and asked they speak with the boy about moving the car and his behavior towards me with the disrespect and language.
Bad idea. I assumed they were decent normal people and this was just an out of control teen. I assumed mom would just tell 'Billy, go move your damn car' or something and it would be taken care of. Turns out he got it from mom and dad. I get the dad yelling at me to fuck off and get off his property as the mom (from another room) starts bellowing about how I did NOT just tell her how to parent and he can do whatever he wants and fuck me and my parents.
I didn't know this at that time, but have since found out my parents believe the neighbors keyed their car about 6 months ago. My mom asked the neighbor mom and son to not smoke at the edge of their driveway, as its right next to my parent's bedroom window and they would be awakened by them talking while smoking in the middle of the night. Apparently that set them off and they would talk extra loud while smoking and would hold up a phone playing music to their window as an FU to my mom and dad. That's also when their car got keyed
So since I made the mistake of talking to neighbor parents, it has upgraded from just the kid's one car and his friends when they come over. Now the parents are retaliating too.They finally moved the beater, but only to move their cars from the driveway to taking up the two spaces in front of our yard adjacent to their driveway. The one car parked just enough to have the front poking into our driveway. The beater was moved so its parked on the OTHER side of our driveway in front of our other neighbor's yard but also sticking out enough to just be in the way of our driveway too. Sorry for the run-on sentence. Did that all make sense? I hope so.
This has been going on for a few weeks now.
Is there anything that can be done? My parent's just seem to want to let it go. Not only do they say the street parking is technically public parking and they can't officially complain about it, but they complain the neighbors will only retaliate worse. My parents travel a lot and my work makes it so I cant always be there to sit the house for them. They fear the neighbors will do something to their property when they are gone. I used to think they were over reactionary and the neighbor's kid was just rude, but this isn't right. Is there something that can be done to get them to move their vehicles and/or protect my parents so they dont feel forced to move?
TLDR - neighbors parked all their cars in front of my parents home and wont move them, only rearrange them. The neighbors go out of their way to be jerks to my parents. Parents fear retaliation.
|
Call the city. If the car has been sitting there for months without being moved, they will help you get it removed.
While anyone has the right to park in front of your house, nobody is permitted to leave vehicles on the street for extended periods of time. There will be local ordinances against this, and this is where you start.
If they are blocking your driveway, take pictures and get the vehicles removed.
|
The first time I let it go because she paid the vet bills and my dog got the care she needed. She is a medium sized, 35lb dog.
This time, I turned a corner with my dog and her dogs saw mine, overpowered her (walking both at once. About 60-80lb pitbulls) and even though I picked my dog up, they bit her leg and dragged her down before going for her neck. I screamed for help and eventually people came out to help.
One bystander said I “should avoid that area because I know her dogs live there.” And I guess they convinced that owner that it was MY fault that her dogs attacked my dog.
My dog has a reputation around the complex for barking and trying to intimidate people, but I keep her in check and hold a short leash because of that. My dog has never attacked anyone or anything and has never gotten out of my control because I know how to handle her. This lady said that “my dog is known to provoke reactions” and is using that to justify why her dogs attacked mine.
I’ve already called animal control and I am about to file a complaint to the property manager. What else should I do?
Edit: I also have puncture wounds on my hand from her dog when I was trying to get its jaws off my dog.
|
No. It's her responsibility to keep her dogs under control. Go see a doctor about the puncture wounds -- you may need a tetanus shot. All of the doctor and vet bills are her responsibility. If she doesn't pay voluntarily, sue in small claims.
You might consider filing a police report.
You said it happened before -- that means that she knew about her dog's disposition, which will be a big help in small claims.
|
**edit2: putting this here since this is locked. Thank everyone for all the advice/support. I will be following some of the advice recieved and update once I have one. If this works I’ll be able to stay though an overwhelming amount of what I’ve been told leads to me accepting that there is a 60% chance I’ll have no choice but to move. Thanks expecially to all the orthodox people who have reached out with practical advice and information about this group and how it works. That has been expecially helpful because it’s put my situation into perspective. Yeah it sucks but worst case I can move across down the block or something and be rid of it which isn’t the case for people within the community. And even though the NYPD has been helpless from my perspective, they have always responded to my calls and made the group stop in that moment, which again, is not an option for people within the community. Hearing from people on the other end has really helped accept the situation i’ve Found myself in for what it is. Will update when I can.**
*Edit: since i am geting this a lot, to clarify: my building has cameras. the police have seen the footage. the police have responded to them harassing me and are fully aware of what is going on. it hasn't helped. most of the time (today included) i have to call the nypd in order to get them to move and stop preventing my guests from coming in the building or to stop harassing me in that moment. they come, tell them to stop, then leave and they just do it again. today the nypd came to my home SEVEN times. and this is common.*
I live in Brooklyn NY. I purchased a condo about 2 years ago in a building where a good chunk of the apartments are rented out by Orthodox families. i would say that 45% of the building is occupied by Orthodox families renting and the rest are condos owned + occupied by non orthodox people. I honestly did not care and did not think this would be a problem.
Since i moved in though, this has been a HUGE issue. I don't want to go into to much detail since it would just lead to a rant but the families in by building do not like/agree with my "lifestyle" and have been trying to make me uncomfortable enough to force me to move out. I honestly don't give two shits about their opinions and typically try my best to ignore them. The issue is that they have been using the Jewish police to harass me.
To give you an idea of the shit I am dealing with I'll tell you what prompted this post. I chose to have a Superbowl viewing party today. About 30 minutes into the start of the party (when there were FIVE people here) I get a knock at my door and standing there are two fake police who try to tell me they got a 'noise complaint' and a complaint that we are using 'illicit substances' that i have to end my party. We were in my yard at this point literately just talking and smoking (cigs). My condo is on the ground floor and people who live above me can see directly into the yard so i am assuming they are who claimed the cigs were drugs. Since then, they have been standing outside of my building trying to prevent people I INVITED from entering and have been harassing my guess, treating to ticket them and demanding to search them. I don't want to make this post too long but this is the smallest of the shit that I have had to deal with from these fake police over the last two years.
I am fucking done. I want this to stop. I have tried everything i can think of and dont know what else to do. I have tried calling the NYPD every time they show up. This has not worked. I have complained to my condo association. No help. I have contacted my elected officials, filed complaints with the city AND state, contacted the fair housing justice center to file a discrimination complaint, and NOTHING has worked. I keep being told that what they are doing is not illegal and that they have permission to impersonate (my word) the police and attempt to enforce (their version) of the law.
at one point, i was gone for a week and my boyfriend was harassed for 'trespassing' for going into the home THAT I OWN WITH MY PERMISSION.
Im sorry that this is such a long run on rant. I am just so fed up with this bullshit. I am being discriminated against and harrassed by fake police who are trying to bully me into moving out of a HOME I OWN on behalf of a bunch of people who dont even pay market rent to live in my building because they cant stand to live with a gay person and everyone is telling me this is legal.
am i crazy here? how is this allowed? what can i do to stop it?
|
Record, record, record.
Everytime they come, record them. In NYC you are allowed to record them. If they don't like it, tough. If they try and take your camera, have another person recording that.
Let your friends know to record them if they are being harassed.
Compile the videos and bring it to a lawyer.
Honestly, what they are doing is disgusting. As someone who was born Jewish, I have nothing but anger at how you are being treated. Someone else mentioned "zealots". This is exactly what they are. In towns upstate, these are the same type of people that will spit on women if they see them wearing pants or a short dress.
The police can't do anything because they don't want to be called antisemites. But if you provide documentation of this hate that the shomrim are doing, maybe their NYPD friendly status can be taken away.
Good luck.
|
Hello,
As the post says I am a 27 year old family nurse practitioner in **Virginia**. I work in private practice, think family doctor, and my company from the beginning has required me to use my own personal computer. When I was hired I wasn't told about that, but instead on the first day, they told me to bring it and use it daily as it needs to go in with me to see the patients. I think this is crazy for a variety of reasons- lots of wear/ tear that I'm not compensated with, bring back/ forth- risk of losing it or it being stolen, patient's records on my personal computer, sick people getting germs on my computer and on and on. I have been at this position for 5 months and so far the mouse pad has stopped working because my hands are always wet with hand sanitizer. So then I had to buy a wireless mouse. I have a nice computer and I hate that it's being "destroyed" like this.
​
Today I have strep. Strep as an adult is terrible. I told my boss I could either stay home or stay home and work at home clearing lab results, ect. That night on the phone she said yes please work from home. First thing this morning they wanted me to install a timer to my personal computer that allows the practice to see how much time is being spent in each chart, for billing purposes they say. It is a google chrome timer extension. I told them that I would be more than happy to use that on a work computer (we have a few desktops) but I was not comfortable downloading a timer on my home computer. She said OK, but was clearly mad, then 5 minutes later had her assistant call me and tell me to stop working for the day since I wouldn't install the timer and that I was now only allowed to use a desktop at work.
​
This is on top of the fact that I have to clock in/ clock out on an app on my phone that tracks my gps. Yes, I have a master's degree and have to clock in/out even for lunch. During the entire time it is on, gps is tracked.
​
So listen, I know I need a new job but- is this legal? How do I approach this? I am now going to have to use sick/vacation time that I wasn't planning on using. I think I should be paid for my time today.
​
​
|
As a side note, I would be extremely worried about the liability of having patient information on your personal laptop. This alone would give me pause.
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/5cku3a/tx_wife_has_custody_and_wants_me_to_allow_her_new/
Thanks for the help!
She ended up taking me to court. Her lawyer focused a lot on my criminal record (which had happened before I even met her, and she married me knowing it). Her lawyer claimed otherwise, that I had hidden my record from her and she only learned about it after our marriage. This was very easy for me and my lawyer to disprove as I had email communications with her acknowledging my record. She insisted the emails not being in her inbox is proof that the emails are made up. Perhaps she seriously thought deleting the emails from her account would delete them from mine too. Her own lawyer looked really upset after this.
She dropped the case immediately after that hearing.
Her own husband apologized to me, said he wouldn't have agreed come forward for adoption if he knew the truth. He was a decent guy. Ex lied to him about me to get him to adopt my son. It's been a couple of months since then and according to my son they're now separated.
I'm talking to my lawyer to change the custody agreement too.
|
---
> http://imgur.com/a/myIAb
---
*I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*
---
**It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**
---
***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***
---
Author: /u/Ranijini
Title: **Update: Ex-Wife has custody and wants me to allow her new husband to adopt our son. Do I have to do this?**
Original Post:
> https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/5cku3a/tx_wife_has_custody_and_wants_me_to_allow_her_new/
>
> Thanks for the help!
>
> She ended up taking me to court. Her lawyer focused a lot on my criminal record (which had happened before I even met her, and she married me knowing it). Her lawyer claimed otherwise, that I had hidden my record from her and she only learned about it after our marriage. This was very easy for me and my lawyer to disprove as I had email communications with her acknowledging my record. She insisted the emails not being in her inbox is proof that the emails are made up. Perhaps she seriously thought deleting the emails from her account would delete them from mine too. Her own lawyer looked really upset after this.
>
> She dropped the case immediately after that hearing.
>
> Her own husband apologized to me, said he wouldn't have agreed to adoption if he knew the truth. He was a decent guy. Ex lied to him about me to get him to adopt my son. It's been a couple of months since then and according to my son they're now separated.
>
> I'm talking to my lawyer to change the custody agreement too.
---
LocationBot 4.0 | GitHub (Coming Soon) | [Statistics](https://locationbot.info) | [Report Issues](https://www.reddit.com/r/locationbot)
|
Hi everyone.. using a throwaway account because I know some of my friends follow here and know my username.
So basically, like the title says: my husband has been cheating on me for our whole relationship of 10+years and served me with divorce papers..during quarantine. He wants me out of the apartment by next Friday but I am too embarrassed to tell my family. In my culture, no one gets a divorce and I don’t know where to start.
I know I need to get a lawyer but I’m completely confused and blindsided right now and would like advice before contacting a lawyer so I don’t look as clueless as I am. He’s being completely irrational and doesn’t want me to have anything. Not the furniture in the house, the food in the fridge, or our dog. I’m hoping someone can help me out with the most important things below:
First, We don’t have a prenup. I met him when i was 19 and he had opened up his first restaurant in the city, I really thought we’d grow old together. I know, stupid of me not to cover my ass but i was with him for so long that i got really comfortable and couldn’t imagine him doing this. We bought a condo in New York and most of it was paid for by me and my family but it is in his name. I’m scared of losing the house since my parents and I put so much into it. But, I also can’t afford to keep the house on my own for more than a few months unless I ask my parents for help which I’m also embarrassed to ask for. Can his infidelity help me out here?
Second, he bought me a car for my birthday just last year and is telling me i have to leave the car with him- so i have no way of moving any of my stuff out and would put myself at great risk of getting covid-19. Is he allowed to do this?
Third, I am a co-signer on two of the small loans that he has on his restaurants. I’m also invested in them and they’re a great second source of income, even in these times. How will the judge (or whoever ultimately makes the decision) determine whether or not I can maybe keep one of the restaurants or still collect revenue from them? Again, no prenup and my husband was unfaithful.
I’d love to hear your advice. Any bit helps right now.
|
To echo what others have said, I understand that you're feeling foolish right now, but be fair to yourself - most people don't *prepare* for divorce when they're not the one initiating it. So when you call the divorce lawyer, they won't think you're foolish for not knowing what to do. That's why there are divorce lawyers. Your husband is banking on you not knowing what to do, and being too timid to assert yourself in this situation because of your legitimate fears about how your family will react. Get a lawyer, go for the throat, and don't look back. Good luck, and I'm really sorry this is happening to you.
|
I'm a 16 year old girl. I live with my aunt and uncle and cousins. My maternal grandfather also stays with us. My parents passed away in a car accident two years ago - I was in the car but I survived - and I was taken in by my maternal aunt. My dad grew up an orphan so there is no family on his side.
The last two years have been hell for me. Not only because I still can't get over losing my parents (I cry a lot) but also because the situation with my aunt and her family has been an awful experience. My mom was actually estranged from her family. She was white, and my dad was black. Her family never approved - they disowned her when she decided to marry my dad. They have never really "forgiven" my mom and I guess I'm a walking and talking representation of her "mistake."
They have told me just that on several occasions. That my existence is a mistake. I get called "halfbreed" and other racist stuff. And I'm constantly on the receiving end of verbal abuse. Sometimes it gets physical. Sometimes it feels like I'm trapped in a minefield. I have to be so careful about where I step cause the repercussions may be explosive. My "uncle" has also made inappropriate sexual advances towards me. He has groped me before and disguised it as "being sloppy with his movements."
I can't live like this anymore. I'm an absolute emotional mess. I wanna emancipate myself but I don't know how to go about it. I know the odds of getting emancipation rely a lot on the minor being able to show they can be financially independent.
I'm close with a set of twins at school - I'm dating the boy and the girl is my best friend. Their parents own a farm and I work regularly with the family. I'm also into photography and I've been doing real good with shooting weddings. They are very lucrative and I've saved up a substantial amount. With summer at an end and winter coming up, not so many weddings anymore but I also do like family shoots and other portraits; that also supplements my income.
The parents of my boyfriend and my best friend know my situation and they said they can offer me lodging as an employee. I've also recorded my family being emotionally abusive towards me. I don't know if that is enough to get me emancipated.
I would really appreciate advice.
Thank you
|
I also want to suggest, if you think there's a chance the family could be vindictive, to keep your valuable (particularly your photography equipment) at your friends' place. If you have a joint bank account with one of these family members, they could potentially withdraw or transfer all of the money. You should consider transferring it to an account with someone you trust and then to a single account once you are 18.
|
My girlfriend and I were coming home from a trip abroad and had just gone through customs in Houston. On our way to the next gate we decided to use the restroom, she waited for me as I went in. As I came out, she was just finishing a presumably long drink of water from the fountain. On our way to the gate we stopped at one of the restaurants, and ordered food. After asking for water, we were told that the airport water system had been contaminated 2 days prior, and that they were not allowed to serve us water. Not from machines, or sinks, or anything. My girlfriend remarked on the water that she had drank, and they just ignored it and got us different drinks. My girlfriend is now extremely sick, with very similar systems to food poisoning. Is there any grounds to stand on as there was no written warnings in the airport ?
|
Well first off you need to speak with a medical professional to determine if her food poisoning like symptoms are related to the contaminated water. Being sick after drinking contaminated water doesnt mean the contamination caused it. The doctor might not be able to provide you with much information though unless you know what they mean by contaminated. Obviously depending on what the contaminant is the resulting reaction can be very different.
Then you would need damages to sue for. If the doctor says the sickness was caused by the water being contaminated by X substance, but it will pass. Your damages would be the doctors visit and any thing associated with their recommendations.
But ultimately if the doctor cant link the sickness to the contamination they you can file a claim with the airport and see what they have to say. Without proof though it's a very low chance of winning any kind of suit against the airport.
|
https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/8lc7k7/girl_who_i_never_had_sex_with_claims_shes
She was lying. She was protecting her new "boyfriend" who is 24. She said so to her friend who told me then I told her parents. She then confessed to them. She was having sex with the guy when we were fooling around. I've blocked her number and the guy has been arrested.
Thank you for giving me good advice.
|
Discussion of this post can be found on /r/bestoflegaladvice here:
https://np.reddit.com/r/bestoflegaladvice/comments/8mv0hz/16_year_old_op_learns_what_the_term_dodged_a/
|
I live in Philly my father lives in New York and the car has New York plates.
I am 20 years old and the car was originally Co-signed with my mother but I have since paid off the car. I am the only person on the title. I pay for the car insurance on my own and all other car fees/maintenance. My father put a gps on the car when I got it when I was 18 and living in his home and I have since moved out and he refuses to tell me where the GPS is hidden and I am not able to find it. He will text me and comment on where I am or where I was like "How was the movie you saw?" "Staying late at work today?" and it scares me because he is an abusive person. I feel trapped and this causes a lot of an anxiety for me.
Edit: Thanks everyone for your help! Ill make an update when anything changes.
|
Any mechanic shop worth their salt should be able to track it down easily since it's hardwired to the battery.
Also, you should change your plates and registration.
|
I'm an apprentice officer on a container ship and I'm being sexually abused by the captain.
This is the [post I uploaded on r/rape](https://www.reddit.com/r/rape/comments/e6k8r1/i_am_consensually_being_raped_by_my_captain_i/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share) for those who are interested. People were very supportive and encouraged me to further seek advise, so here am I...
I'm a Greek national, the captain's russian, and the ship's registry is Marshall islands and the incidents happened in international waters. I'm in desperate need of help and barley holding it together, but I don't know what kind of help to look for. What kind of lawyer should I be looking for? What should I do in the meantime? Thank you so much.
UPDATE: Thank you all SO SO MUCH for your warm support and advice, I really needed this. I was skeptical, even hesitant in the beginning but this turns out to be the very best choice I have made in a few weeks. I am literally sobbing while on duty and I am so grateful.
I decided to first contact the Greek Consulate on the matter as per your advice. I will also checkout all the links you have posted. Please keep me in your prayers and I hope this really works out.
Edit: Bot tells me I need to include my location. I already did, but things happend in international waters.
......................................
Please ignore the following phrases. I'm just doing this because I really need the post to work.
The incident happened in Greece. The incident happened in Russia. The incident happend in the Marshall Islands. I am in Greece. I am in Russia. I am in the Marshall Islands.
|
I am not a lawyer, but I am a Captain and hearing your story makes my blood boil.
Do not worry about illegally leaving your boat. Get off the boat as everyone else has mentioned and get to the Greek embassy ASAP. They can help keep you safe and get you home. They should also help facilitate contact with Marshall Island law enforcement. In international waters, the laws of the ship’s home port are in effect.
Keelhauling would be too good for this guy.
|
I am out of town with a group of families that all have wrestling kids. We all share big air bnb’s and most times parents will send their kids with us even if they can’t. One of the 14 year olds has just come up to me and said that he cant sleep here tonight because he is uncomfortable and scared of one of the other dads who is pretty drunk because he just got in his bed and was tickling his feet and “wrestling” with him. What in the hell do i do?
The dad in question is drunk currently passed out.
4:37am add-on : Some of the other parents that are here are suggesting we just let it go.. main reason is bc it’ll ruin the whole weekend. And #2 they say this dad was so out of it he may of thought it was his own son (age 9) and he was just tickling and wrestling around with him in the least “inappropriate” way.
5:15am EDIT- Parents were called right before he broke this to me!! Parents don’t want the cops involved and don’t want to press charges.
5:18am EDIT- a report has been filed with Safesport, the governing body of minor athletes abuse and prevention
FINAL EDIT - Cops were contacted early morning Friday and have launched an investigation.
|
If the kid is scared to be around him, there might be more to it. At the VERY least call the parents and put them in control of the situation. Offer to call the cops if they think it's necessary.
|
Idk if anyone would care about this, but I wanted to post an update anyways because it's good news. Original post was [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/9stxzx/a_local_business_owner_attacked_a_woman_with/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share). This happened in Wisconsin.
Basically, almost 2 years ago, my family member was attacked with a power drill by a bar owner. He was trying to flirt with her (she was not interested) and then "jokingly" thrust a running power drill into her genital area. She pushed his hand away, and so he drilled through her jeans into her inner thigh instead. Instead of immediately stopping, he continued drilling and the drill bit penetrated her jeans, penetrated her skin, and also burned her badly enough to require treatment from the burn clinic, and caused nerve damage. She got an infection from the wound as well. (Pics are on the old post) The nurses at the hopsital had encouraged her to report the incident to police, and she did the next day, especially because there were *numerous* witnesses present for this entire incident who were horrified and wanted to make a statement.
The police officer who responded seemed indifferent and even hostile towards her reporting this right off the bat, and he refused to see the wound or even a picture of it. He wasn't willing to speak to any witnesses. He did go and speak with the bar owner, who admitted to doing all of this, and claimed it was "an accident", and that he would pay her medical bills. (Spoiler alert: He did not.) The officer deemed this answer satisfactory, and went back to tell my cousin that "because alcohol was involved" (owner was sober, she had 1 drink, no one was intoxicated?), that nothing could be done and that she was banned from the bar for life. That was the end of that, or so we thought....
Now for the update: Out of the blue in early 2020, my cousin gets a phone call from an FBI agent. I don't know how this works, but apparently our local PD has an FBI agent who comes in a couple days a week and works on or reviews stuff? Anyways, the bar owner was being investigated for separate, unrelated sex crimes, and the FBI agent came across the report my cousin had made against him. She asked my cousin what had happened, and she told her. The agent was shocked and appalled, she said because NONE OF THAT was in the officers police report. Nothing whatsoever about this guy taking a power drill to her groin. She told the FBI lady that she had very thorough documentation, pictures, and medical records from this incident, as well as a dozen witnesses, and the agent had her send it all to her and set up a meeting the following week to discuss.
When they sat down the following week, she told her that what had happened to her was most definitely a crime, possibly even a sex crime. The witnesses confirmed her account, and were willing to testify in court. The officer who had blown her off was reprimanded and disciplined for his inaction, and tried to defend himself by claiming, "I didn't know her wound was that bad", to which the FBI agent asked him, "Why did you refuse to look at her wound or pictures of it?" Anyways, the FBI lady took this case to the district attorney, who agreed to file charges.
The bar owner has since been arrested and charged with the following:
2nd Degree Reckless Injury - Felony.
4th Degree Sexual Assault - Misdemeanor.
Disorderly Conduct- Misdemeanor.
4th Degree Sexual Assault - Misdemeanor.
4th Degree Sexual Assault - Misdemeanor.
4th Degree Sexual Assault - Misdemeanor.
4th Degree Sexual Assault - Misdemeanor.
Stalking - Felony.
His tavern license was revoked, his bar was shut down, and has since been sold. The case is delayed due to COVID, but they did arrest and charge him finally. This guy also sexually assaulted other women, both before and after this incident (he has prior disorderly conduct convictions and many restraining orders from women against him). These other charges include "allegedly" cornering a female bartender and demanding she give him oral sex--at which point she just ran screaming out of the place. He also violently cornered and groped another female bartender, and then stalked her mercilessly, smashed out her windows, slashed her tires, etc., until he was finally caught on video stalking her.
It never sat well with me that the police blew this off, especially knowing his prior history, and hearing stories about him abusing other women. Obviously, this guy was escalating, probably because he never faced consequences for his actions before. I'm glad to say he will finally face justice for his crimes, thanks to the actions of this FBI agent.
|
Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. This is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. If, however, your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/i2ih67/update_local_businessowner_attacks_women_with/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
Feel free to start or join in the conversation about this update in either /r/bestoflegaladvice or /r/legaladviceofftopic.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
|
Orlando, Florida.
Fortunately, one of my neighbors shared the typed letter and hand written envelope with me. Other neighbors called my wife to tell her. The envelope was written in a way clearly trying to obfuscate their handwriting but a trained eye (i work in corporate Fraud) can find plenty of patterns of their actual handwriting. I plan to file a police report today after work.
What else should i do? My wife is a real estate agent and the head of my company's local office is one of my neighbors. This is all lies but could hurt both of our careers and we have a teenage daughter (she saw the letter).
****UPDATE****
Wow front page! I want to just thank everyone who's been extremely positive and encouraging and providing great advice in the comments and direct messages. I have some good avenues to explore but likely I think the culprit might be an ex-employee of mine or a neighbor with mental illness. With that said, the neighborhood has been rallying behind us. My wife and I have received multiple phone calls from neighbors expressing support. We've collected everyone's letter and envelope on our street (except for one because they're on vacation) for when we file our police report. I have a copy of letter that I wish I could share but this sub does not allow images but I did try and Google the wording and it seems unique for those of you that are asking if it's a template. I will definitely be careful and cautious in the future and keep my home security cameras on just in case.
|
Typewritten? If it was printed on a color laser printer there's a hidden set of yellow dots on the page that will uniquely identify the printer that was used.
https://www.forensicdots.de/
|
Just want to say this is going to sound insane but I am not trolling/making it up.
Me and this guy were together for 3 years. We're 19 now. We never talked about the future until a year in. Before then I'd try to discuss it and he would change the subject.
In short, I wanted kids, he didn't. I wanted to stay in Ireland, he didn't. I wanted to get married, he didn't. When I realised it was a bad match I broke it off but he asked to get back together, saying we were too young to worry about the future, and we got back together. This happened a few times over the next 18 months In this time we probably spent more time apart than together.
We knew early on that we wanted different things, and while marriage and kids are something I would want further down the line, I wasn't concerned about his open dislike of marriage and kids because 19 is too young to get married anyway. If I were dating him 10 or 15 years from now and he didn't want to get married, then I might have an issue, but when I'm barely out of my teens, it's not a huge concern, and just loving him and wanting to be with him is enough.
When I went to see him this time I was again, considering breaking up with him. Aside from the long term issues, he is also inconsiderate and has a mean streak that I really don't like. So when I arrived at his place, mentally debating breaking up with him for good this time, and he told me he wanted to take me out to dinner, I assumed he wanted to break up too, publicly so I wouldn't cause a scene. I don't normally cause a scene but being in public tends to prevent yelling, and we both yell every time we break up.
In the last year he has asked me 2 things that looking back now stand out to me. First he asked about jewellery, what kind of stuff I liked and what my taste was. I assumed it was because my birthday was coming up and he was getting me a bracelet or something so I told him simple and delicate, silver or steel rather than gold, if there was a colour then blue, nothing flashy or expensive as both my job prefers plain jewellery and it's just my personal preference. I also said "go cheap".
The other thing he asked me was how I felt about public proposals. I told him immediately that I, personally, disliked them as I felt I wouldn't be able to say no, even if I wanted to. I feel like public proposals are OK when they've been specifically requested and agreed on, but one that's totally out of the blue is not OK at all. I assumed he was asking about this because his friend had just proposed to his girlfriend of several years, publicly, and she'd accepted but admitted to him after that she would have preferred something private.
I never thought in a million years that he would propose.
So you can imagine my shock when we went to dinner and the first thing he did was propose.
The ring was huge, gold, gaudy, red gems around a diamond and the whole thing was the size and shape of a super bowl ring. He got on one knee, and held it out to me. We were in the middle of this popular restaurant and the place was packed. Everyone there could see what was going on and wasn't even trying to hide that they were looking at us.
I said no.
Well, I didn't so much say "no". I ran out of the restaurant.
He drove me there, so I got a cab back, and drove home that night.
I realise running out wasn't the best thing to do but I didn't know what else to do. I could feel everyone's eyes on me, and all I knew was that I didn't want to marry him or accept his proposal. I felt like I couldn't even speak, I was so upset about the whole thing. So I just got up and ran.
I just want to take the opportunity to say here that I really really don't care about the rings. Honestly, when I want to get married (which is absolutely not when I'm 19 years old) the right person could just turn to me and say "wanna get married?" and I'd say yes. I wouldn't even need a ring. I know I'm focusing on the ring and the public proposal a lot, but that's only because of 1) how far away it was from what I'd told him my taste was and 2) what happened next.
I didn't hear from him until a few weeks later. He said that he thought a proposal was something I'd want, but he saw now that it wasn't. He said that he was out of pocket for the rings. He'd bought us both the same one and gotten them engraved. He linked me to the jeweller's website and the ring was up for €1450 (about $1650/£1300). When I asked why he was telling me this he said that he'd hoped I would cover the cost of mine. He said that as they'd been engraved he couldn't get a refund. He'd hoped that I would say yes to the proposal, in which case he wouldn't have asked me to pay, but I said no. He also said I'd embarrassed him by saying no in public, and should have said yes, and if I was really against it waited to say no when we were alone.
We both live in small towns where gossip spreads at church. Enough people were at the restaurant that night that both of us got asked about it at church on Sunday.
He has since messaged me saying he's debating calling in a lawyer to sue me for the cost of my ring (€1450) and he also says that I have caused him "emotional distress" by turning him down in public, and have publicly humiliated him for both rejecting his proposal in public and leaving him to deal with church gossip, which I had no part in spreading. He says he can also get some money off me over those other 2 things. So €1450 for what he spent on my ring, and extra money for emotional distress and public humiliation.
I think his legal claims are all bullshit, and he wouldn't have a leg to stand on in a court of law, but I am not a law student or a lawyer. He is studying law currently and has an internship at a legal firm.
What do I do about all of this? Do I need to prepare myself for a lawsuit or is it not even worth worrying about?
Thanks in advance :)
​
EDIT: He knew I wanted to get married but not to him. He not only knew this but said he had no intention of marrying me, either. He openly despised marriage right up until the time he proposed and he knows that we want different things out of marriage, and I told him that this was why I was breaking up with him the times before this that I have ended the relationship. During the course of our relationship he's also said stuff like "we're still too young to think about marriage", "it's not like we're getting married" and (my favourite) "it's not like I'm gonna propose" (that one was last April)
​
EDIT 2: His mother has reached out to me apologising for her son's actions. She has said that nothing will come of this and that she raised an idiot.
|
You can’t sue someone for the cost of an engagement ring they didn’t accept. **Had you said yes initially and then privately said no, like he’d suggested, he may have had a semblance of a case.** But you didn’t.
You are not on the hook because he can’t read a room or understand your perspective on the relationship. Block him, ignore him, and go live your life without him. It sounds like it’s much better without him in it!
|
So last week, a check I wrote bounced from an account I have that I rarely use. It's a beneficiary account from when my grandfather died. I called the bank where I was informed that I closed the account to pay for "my wedding". I told them I sure as hell did not and have been married for 6 years. After them jerking me around "are you sure you're not getting married" "did you maybe forget about taking that money for your wedding"...etc. I finally got them to open a fraud case.
Here's the crazy part. I call and basically stalk them to get them to investigate. I finally speak with someone and what happened is they gave my money away to another woman with the same name. This woman opened a car loan with the bank and because we have the same name they just hooked her name to my account. She lives in Florida and I live in colorado. We do not have anything else in common but our 1st and last name. So she ends up calling the bank they "assure her" that money is hers and a relative left it to her so she rushes down and withdraws it all. I figured all this out before the bank did through some good old fashioned Facebook and internet stalking sent them the info, boom. Open and shut case.
So now, the bank has admitted fault (finally) and will restore the account. They asked me not to file a police report, which sort of makes sense (they after all encouraged her to take it) but I have no idea what personal info of mine she has, and was given to her. The icing on the cake was I got a letter from the bank yesterday with her personal info on it, including address, so now they've compromised both our info.
Do I have any legal recourse? Do I just shut up and hope she doesnt steal my identity and be glad they're giving my money back? What advice do you have?
|
People who ask you not to file a report should probably have a report filed
|
So basically, I lived next door to my neighbor for around 5 years. He was a widower in his early 60s, and we quickly bonded. We watched football together, drank together, and all that. I even went to his church every now and then, even though it's not my bag. The point, I guess, is that even though he had 30 years on me, we were friends. I think this point is important.
He recently passed, which sucks. Then I learned he left me a little something. That little something turned out to be just over $40,000, which nearly knocked my dick off since I had no idea he had that kind of money. That 40k, though a lot of money, was "only" around 5% of his net worth. So it's not like I'm getting the majority of his estate. But then his son, who I'd met a couple times, sued me (as of yesterday), claiming that I "took advantage" of his elderly father.
I have three things going for me:
1. My friend was mentally acute. He had his share of health problems (pack-a-day smoker), but none of them were mental.
2. Our town's not big, and I know people who can attest to the fact that we went to the bar and church and watched football together, proving that we actually had a relationship. Hell, I even mowed his lawn, which our neighbors can attest to. These people can be witnesses I think, though I don't know how civil suits work.
3. His adult daughter is a very nice lady, and has no problems with her dad leaving me some of his estate. She came around from time to time, and knew her dad and I hung out and stuff. The first time I met her, her dad and I were watching college football in our robes while sitting on my porch and drinking beer (we live in the South so that's acceptable behavior for grown men).
Basically, my point is he and I were friends, and does the son have a pot to piss in regarding this lawsuit? Also, what kind of lawyer should I hire? The lawyer who did his will seemed like a straight shooter, but I don't know if me hiring him is a conflict of interest or if he's even the right kind of lawyer to represent me.
Edit: You guys were right. The son's contesting the will, not suing me directly. The letter had a bunch of legal terms, so I didn't get the gist when I first read it. I'll be contacting a lawyer ASAP.
|
If you have actually been served with papers indicating you are being sued or that the will or being contested and you are a necessary party then you should get an attorney. Find someone who does trusts and estates. The attorney who did his will is probably conflicted out and might even be a potential fact witness so you will want someone else.
|
North Carolina
My (15 y.o) little sister (13 y.o) recently decided to use Hydrogen Peroxide to die her hair light brown. When my Mom learned about it she flipped shit, and after her and my Dad screamed at her for a bit, they completely shaved her head... All hair. Gone. They've always been emotionally abusive and treated me and my siblings like shit... but this is the final straw. I'm hesitant to really try and do something about it and make my parents mad at me, because obviously they could make my life really miserable... but I want to check all my options at this point... thoughts?
|
Good idea to take some pictures of anything physical they’ve done to you (if there is any) your sister’s shaved head is a good place to start. If you have recordings of emotional abuse as evidence it would make a claim easier. It all really depends on what you’re wanting to accomplish. Are you old enough to gain custody of your siblings or are you still living with your parents? What’s your ideal outcome?
|
[previous ](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/tp9en2/husband_is_physically_abusive_he_is_a_cop_i_cant/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)
Hello all,
First of all... I am alive!
Second of all... thank you all so much.
In my first post I was really really scared because I thought my husband might kill me.
I'm glad to say I made it out.
After the threat I got new motivation and energy to go out. I made a little emergency bag and hid it in the laundry room under the dirty pile.
I started keeping petty cash from my shopping trips.
With the petty cash I bought a very cheap pre paid phone that I used to call a woman's shelter.
They helped me make a plan and got me out of there.
That was by far the scariest night of my life. I left when I knew my husband had night shift. I was so scared that he somehow found out what I was planning and was hiding out to catch me.
I had been very careful too. I was sweet to him. Acted as if he had broken me successfully. Acted on his every wish. It was very painful.
But that night at 3 am I finally escaped with my little bag. I left behind my phone. That same day I had sold my laptop. I told my husband that I wanted to put some cash forward to his gaming PC so he wouldn't mind.
I got an old tablet with Sim function for very cheap too. So that I had the rest of the 500 bucks of my laptop sale for me.
I left the car behind and everything left the house and just ran till I arrived at a McDonald's and from there ordered an Uber to the pick up place.
As soon as I arrived they helped me close everything that could be closed (email, cashapp, my bank account etc etc). And they helped me get an amazing lawyer.
So right now I am in the shelter alive and well. I finally managed to get a TRO till the divorce hearing. My lawyer is realistic with the case.
But everything that matters is that I am no longer scared of going to sleep at night and never waking up.
Thank you so much!
|
Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. This is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. If, however, your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/vgs4zr/update_husband_is_physically_abusive_he_is_a_cop/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
Feel free to start or join in the conversation about this update in either /r/bestoflegaladvice or /r/legaladviceofftopic.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
|
I’m not sure if this is the right place for this but tonight I (24M) was on a second date with a nice girl (22F) who still lives with her mother. We ended up staying up late together and falling asleep for a little, that is until I woke up to my door flying open, 3 flashlights in my face and a voice yelling “LAPD!” I immediately get out of bed, still dazed, confused, half asleep, not even realizing that this woman is still in my bed. They ask and confirm my identity, ask if my date is in my room with me which I confirm, and then they tell me her mom is downstairs waiting for her because she got worried about her not answering her phone. I walk my date out to find 3 more police officers waiting for us, so 6 total. Not one word was spoken to me. Feels a bit extra for the situation especially given the reality of us just having fell asleep. I, as far as I’m concerned, have a squeaky clean record too. No reason for concern that I would’ve done something horrible to this woman. Can I report this at all? Was this legal?
|
It might be worth digging into what the mother reported to get three cops to break into your home. This could help with any complaints and with finding out if this was even legal.
|
(using a throwaway in case my dad reddits, would prefer him not to find my account)
In Indiana
I'm in grad school, but still go to the same OBGYN in my home town, out of familiarity and convenience. I was planning to switch once I finished school and settled down. I have him listed as my emergency contact.
For some reason, they keep calling him to confirm my appointments, despite me telling them three times to never call that number and to please call my cell phone instead. Things came to a head yesterday when they called to confirm my appointment for an ultrasound and he cancelled it without my knowledge.
(My father and I have a tenuous relationship, but that's not related to this situation. I will also be switching docs ASAP)
This has to be a HIPAA violation, right? I can't imagine they're not doing the same thing to other women. This could get someone seriously hurt, if they were seeking birth control or anything behind the back of an abusive parent/spouse.
tl;dr obgyn keeps calling emergency contact for appointment confirmation instead of my personal number. Worried it could get someone in a more vulnerable than me hurt
|
1.) That's a blatant HIPAA violation.
2.) Send them a signature, receipt required, letter updating them with your current contact information. An updated emergency contact. Include a brief 1 to line paragraph stating they "are not authorized to contact <dad's full name> for any reasons regarding your care, appointments, billing or anything else related to their professional offices. Effective immediately."
3.) Hand deliver another copy of that same letter, signed, shortly after sending the 1st. Bring another copy and request they sign it acknowledging receipt.
4.) Time for a new OBGYN
|
So a little over a month ago my purebred yellow lab went missing from my backyard. At first I thought she might have escaped but after looking around it turned out someone broke into my backyard and took her. I made a police report but nothing ever came of it and she didn't turn up anywhere.
Last week though a friend who lives over four hours away from me sent me fliers that were put up for a found dog. It was my dog. I should mention here that my lab stands out due to the fact that she got into an accident as a pup that she lost her left eye in and tore here left ear up pretty bad.
I called the number on the flier yesterday and got into contact with a woman well call stacy. I told stacy that she had my dog and after a 20 minute conversation I all but confirmed it. Here's the problem, when I asked what a good time to come and get my dog back she refused. Stacy claims that they have had the dog for almost 3 weeks now and that because I took so long to get into contact with her she decided she's going to keep my dog because her kids have "fallen in love with her". I told her that was complete bullshit and that she was needed to give my dog back but she hung up on me and i assume she blocked my number.
I found stacy on facebook and she wasn't lying. I found a status from around three weeks ago talking about how she found my dog abandoned on the side of the street and took her in. She is now also posting pictures of her kids and my dog claiming they "adopted" her and renamed her.
I'm pissed right now and don't know what to do. That dog lived with me for over 5 years since she was a puppy and now because they've had her for three weeks they think they get to keep her. What can I do? I have all of the papers that prove I own her (dog licence, proof of ownership, medical records, etc) and she is chipped. I also have that police report. What do I need to do to get my dog back?
|
> I made a police report
Call the police back and inform them that you have new information about the whereabouts of your stolen dog.
|
I am a mid 20s female. I bought a house with my ex-boyfriend out in the sticks of Kentucky about a year ago. Not terribly long ago, he cheated on me and abandoned our home to be with his new girlfriend. So, I own this property and live here by myself. One of the people that lives at the house (multi-generation home) across the pond is a 21 year old male. He has been watching my house and saw that my ex isn’t here much anymore. So he comes down about 4 days ago and we’re having a regular old friendly neighbor conversation about the Guinea Keets I was getting for him. Then he gets creepy.
I made the mistake of telling him my ex and I broke up, and he instantly started asking very personal questions. He asked to take me to the movies, if he could come over and watch a movie, to go fishing, to go shooting, to hang out. I said “no” to all of these, explaining first, that I am not interested in dating or hanging out, that he’s my damn neighbor and that’s weird and that I’m “seeing people”.
He continues to insist. I tell him flat out “no” and that I can be his neighbor and that’s it; make an excuse to go inside. I go to a friend’s house for a few days and notice he drives past my house 10+ times in a 2 hour span on my security camera, every night.
I keep my doors closed and locked. Yesterday he decides that no mean yes and comes to my door asking to come inside, that he just wants to talk about the guineas and that he has a Rambo dvd for us to watch. I only have the door cracked a bit and tell him 5+ times that I am in the middle of something, that I’m busy and that he needs to leave. I’m pissed, so the final time he tries to insist, I slam the door on him and lock it.
Any legal advice for this? What would you do? So far, I know I am going to be video recording any interactions he attempts with me from now on and keeping my gun loaded/close by, but I know trespassing is a sticky law, even in KY. I don’t have no trespassing signs up at the moment. I am also putting my house on the market this Saturday because I’m just done and want a fresh start considering everything that’s going on in my life rn, but I will be at the house a lot while it’s on the market.
|
The next time he shows up, call the police.
You've been as clear as you need to be.
You can also seek a restraining order from your local court if you feel unsafe.
|
I am in Boston BUT my abortion happened in New York City. I was 18 and this was completely legal.
I’m 18 and in college. Like all 18 year olds, I mess up. I messed up big time and I ended up pregnant. I waited a week after my pregnancy test came up positive, I went to the doctor to 100% confirm the pregnancy, and my best friend, her boyfriend, my boyfriend, and I took a couples’ trip to NYC so I could have the abortion in a safe environment and have everything taken care of in a timely manner.
We got back to Boston and life went on. I am in therapy to work through my problems regarding the suicide attempts of my older sister and dealing with the repercussions of her mental illness. I have not been diagnosed with any mental illnesses, I’m not considered depressed, I have no history of any kind of any mental illnesses, self harm, or anything of the sort. I receive my therapy in a non religious environment. This is just straight up confidential counseling because my sister attempted suicide right before I went to college, my parents are toxic, and I needed help with that burden.
I told my therapist immediately that I’d had an abortion, told her my reasons (cost of a baby, not wanting children, I go to a university that I worked my ass off to get into and I’ll be damned if I let an unwanted pregnancy ruin my life. I also could not raise a child that I disdained. Selfish? Yes. But I’m not sorry). I also informed her that my boyfriend and I are still together and that he and I plan on staying together, the sex was between two adults who 100% consented, it was just a mixup and confusion on both of our parts. He and I split the cost of the abortion with him paying 75% of the cost.
I go home and do homework. At around 4 pm, I get a visit from the Boston Police who are investigating a rape. They think that I’m the victim and my boyfriend is the perpetrator and that I’ve been forced to have an abortion, I ask them where they got this false information and give them proof that both he and I agreed that abortion was the way to go. After a lot of talking to smooth things over and apologizing, they left.
Then I get a call from my parents. They’re ranting on and on about how I’ve gotten an abortion and sinned in God’s eyes, how I’ve been fornicating and screwed every man in NYC, and how my lack of contact (I’m NC with them because of abuse and they’re narcissists) is killing my mother. They screamed down the phone for four hours before telling me that they’ve been given my address in Boston by my therapist and are coming to get me no matter what.
It becomes clear. My therapist called the police, reported a false rape and forced abortion, violated all sorts of confidentiality, and had to track my parents down (I never gave her their number, address, or personal information. She did not know their names, I only ever called them mom and dad) to call them to say that I’d been raped and gotten an abortion.
I never gave her any sort of go ahead to do anything. I never used the word rape in our sessions, in fact, when I mentioned the sex, I called it “consensual sex”. The police are still hounding me, I’m freaking out and constantly having panic attacks, my therapist is making things worse by CONTINUING to knowingly provide false information to the police (although I gave them the information that should have ended this all), therapist is also saying that I have Stockholm Syndrome and that’s why I won’t report my boyfriend, and I’m at a loss for what to do.
I also know why she’s having some weird witch hunt. My boyfriend is in a fraternity and in her mind, I was brutally raped at a fraternity party (this is what she told the police). I was not and in the session I said specifically told her that I never had sex with him at his fraternity house several times when she tried to convince me that I was raped at his fraternity house.
I’ve also started to get calls from the NYPD investigating the “forced abortion” and I’m freaking out and don’t know what to do. This is serious.
At this point in time I know that I need to get the police off my butt. Is there a way that would help me? Is a lawyer the best way to go? Also, is there a way for me to report my therapist and make sure that she is punished? Is there a way to make sure she doesn’t do this again?
Edit: when the cops came the first time, I told them that she was completely falsifying everything and I gave them evidence. She is continuing to call and labeling me with various mental illnesses so she gets her point across and so I’m not taken seriously. The last time the cops called was last night.
|
Let's start with the therapist here.
There are four places you can make a complaint. First of all you should make a complaint to her boss, if she has one. That would be the head or managing board of her practice or the hospital she practices out of. She may have an individual practice, in which case you can skip this step.
Second, you can complain to her licensing authority. For this, it may depend on exactly what credentials she has; if she's an MD you can complain to the medical licensing board in Massachusetts, and if she's a LICSW or something like that you could start with the NASW. Someone else may have something more specific to share.
Third, you can file a HIPAA complaint. The disclosure she made is a violation of your privacy, and HIPAA would allow her to be fined. Probably severely, in this case. Even if she has a bona fide belief you were raped and forced to abort, she *still* has no right to report that to the police without your consent. She may be a "Mandated reporter" but you are not a child, an elder, or a person with a disability (right?) so she doesn't get cover for that.
And fourth, you can complain to the police, which I think is how you should handle the police. You should tell them that not only were you never raped and never forced to have an abortion, but you never said anything of the sort to your therapist and in face specifically said the opposite was true. The police may or may not investigate her for making a false report... they probably won't. But they might give her a talking to at least about not reporting crimes based on nothing.
However, your boyfriend has been accused by your therapist of a crime. He should not talk to the police, at all.
|
We are filing a grievance, but we are also upset that we just opened our books to someone who works for our largest direct competitor. Am I overreacting, or are there other measures we should take to protect ourselves?
Edit: Kansas.
Edit 2: This is an income tax audit. We are not a publicly traded company. We have contacted our existing legal council as well as other legal council that works more specifically with tax law. Thank you all for your advice. We are weighing options of how/when to report this issue to make sure it does the least harm to our company.
|
That sounds like a clear conflict of interest. I don't understand how that employee is even permitted to work in an industry they audit. Depending on the state and who exactly you filed the grievance with, you may need to notify an office of professional ethics or the specific department that administers those audits. In PA, I'd suggest reporting to [the auditor general](https://www.paauditor.gov/auditor-general-hotline).
|
My school prom changed the rules of attending after most of the students already bought their tickets. The new rules were that you could not have more then 4 absences in the school year and 12 tardies. Almost everybody can not attend now. The students are mad and the school is saying no refunds to tickets already sold. Tickets were 65 each and 100 for couples. Over 240 tickets have been sold prior to the new rules. Is there any legal action our parents can take?
Update: I took the advice that you guys left on the comments. I notified my parents and friends to tell their parents. Enough parents complained and they ended up keeping their rules and offering refunds at first but then once everybody got their refunds they realized that they had sold basically no tickets so they removed the rules all together and now everybody can attend prom. Thank you guys for the advice.
|
There is certainly a cause of action for a lawsuit if the rules were changed after purchase with no option for refund. They are taking money without offering the promised service or a refund.
The dollar amount of damages are pretty low though, but with so many people effected, someone might be willing to take the case
I would suggest getting together a list of all the people effected by the rule change, then contacting some of the more vocally mad parents with that list to bring to an attorney
They might have to shop around to find a lawyer who would take the case, but if you want justice from the school district on this, it's the only way.
I imagine if the district are contacted by an attorney, they'll realize their mistake once it's explained they could be liable, and settle for a refund + the attorneys fees back.
Source: am attorney in Illinois
|
By 2 years behind, I mean that she has admitted to not teaching the kid. She has stated herself that if she were to put the kid in school they'd have to start 2 grades behind. There are other things in their life that support this. But I don't exactly want to give out too many details. My question is simply that if I suspect she is neglecting her child's education what steps could I take? I don't care about your opinions on right and wrong. If I have legal steps to take then I will. If not, then I won't. That simple. Having interacted with the kid and other kids that age, the kid is behind in so many ways. And no, their mom isn't teaching some odd curriculum. She just straight up isn't teaching her kids. She is like a very hands off day care for her own kids.
No she isn't doing what ever that unschooling stuff is. She just isn't teaching. She says she doesn't have the time. She is a stay home mom.
|
"Educational neglect" is the term you're looking for; as its name suggests, it's a category of child neglect that concerns (the lack of) providing education for a child. Normally this sort of thing is covered by child protective services in most developed countries, so I'd start by making a call to your local CPS branch. It's not like you have anything to lose other than a few minutes of your time even if it isn't an offense in Texas specifically.
|
For the sake of anonymity, i am going to keep this long story short. I was raped in college by a man i did not know and did not ever express interest in. He followed me home from a bar and snuck into my building and waited until my male friend who walked me home that night (to get away from him) left my building to come bang on my door. At the time I was an 18 yr old white female and this was a smallish college town in the south.
I had a lot more evidence than typical campus rape cases (witnesses/text messages/rape kit) and this was not the type of guy that made one horrible mistake - if nothing happened i knew he would 10000% do it to another girl which is why i felt it was my responsibility to try to do something.
By the time the DA finally officially told me they weren’t going to do anything 2 years later, because “it’s difficult to prosecute when alcohol is involved”, it was too late for me to pursue a civil suit. It might be worth noting that the man comes from money, and a lot of it. I also found out they never analyzed my rape kit, let alone investigated the crime scene. There were few other things that were pretty sketchy about the police investigation /DAs handling of the case, but I can’t get too specific on here. It kind of felt like they were doing everything in their power to not prosecute, and there’s literally nothing on his record to show for it, not even a dropped charge.
It took me a long time to truly move on and accept that I did what I could, but i finally did. And then a week or so ago, 6 1/2 years later, I realized I had unread message requests on Instagram from a month prior and saw I had something from him (we were not Instagram friends). There were various messages in a row that clearly demonstrate he is not well mentally, but more importantly at the end he said “so I guess i raped you. I won’t do it to anyone else ever”. I was shook.
I sent it to the DAs office, who were utterly shocked and the next day said they’d get back to me in another week but that I “shouldn’t get my hopes up because this kind of stuff is really complicated and difficult to prosecute”. While they haven’t told me officially yet that they aren’t going to prosecute, I know in my gut it’s not going to happen. They’ll find an excuse.
So i know i need a lawyer so please don’t give that to me as advice. I am posting this question to see if anyone’s ever been through anything similar and knows of nonprofits/resources/pro bono lawyers that might be able to help. I can’t sue him (statute limitations) and I can’t really sue the government (uphill battle), but I also can’t just let this go again. If there’s anything I’ve learned recently It’s that things/systems don’t change by staying quiet.
What can i do to both get a mark on his record and shed light on the justice system that failed me and I’m sure many others?
Edit - I received so much helpful advice, referrals, and positive comments and I can’t thank you all enough. I now have a lawyer who specializes in these kind of cases, and is going to try to help me push the criminal case through the legal system. If that doesn’t work, plan B will be to publish my experience on media/social media. Thanks again!
|
Can you contact your local representative? I’m so sorry that the DA is screwing you over, it sounds like you need outside pressure. See if you can contact any local government officials/judges and get them on your side and applying pressure. Depending on the state the judges may also be elected officials.
You are incredibly brave for continuing to fight. Your rapist and that DA can go to hell.
|
I rent an apartment, and an assigned exterior parking space within my complex’s parking lot is included in my rent. I have a parking pass that I display in my car, and documentation from my landlord stating that this specific spot belongs to me.
I have a neighbor that always parks in my spot. I have contacted my landlord every time this happens asking him to handle it, but nothing ever happens. I have also kept a log of every time I notice this neighbor in my spot & when I’ve contacted my landlord. (For what it’s worth, neighbor does not have a visible parking pass on his car, and also puts a cone in my spot when he’s gone to reserve it, so I don’t think this is just confusion - I don’t think he owns a spot at all).
This past weekend, said neighbor had my car towed from my spot. I confronted him in person, but all he did was claim that the spot was his. I once again contacted my landlord, who stated that this spot was indeed mine, I shouldn’t have been towed, and he would speak with my neighbor to reiterate that it is my spot.
Well, apparently neighbor didn’t listen, because last night he was in my spot again. I called a towing company (same one that towed me) to have him towed last night, but they either didn’t come or were talked out of it by him, because when I woke up this morning, his car was still there.
Additional info that might be relevant: my complex is managed by an HOA, & my landlord always claims he’ll “notify them” when I make a complaint about my neighbor.
I’m growing incredibly frustrated with this situation, as I pay for this spot. With that being said, I’d appreciate advice on the following questions:
1. What can I do to stop my neighbor from using my spot?
2. What actions can I take to ensure my neighbor doesn’t get me towed from a spot that I am authorized to use?
Update edit: I just spoke with the HOA. They confirmed that the spot is mine & that this neighbor doesn’t even have a parking spot at all. HOA also said he should’ve never been authorized to have my car towed, and are speaking with the towing company to ensure it won’t happen again. Finally, they provided me with a 24/7 emergency number that I can call to have my neighbor towed every time he is in my spot.
|
It seems odd to me that one would be able to call for a tow without absolute proof of ownership of the property (beyond a copy of a lease agreement) or proof that the vehicle is trespassing and not allowed.
|
We've received a couple of PMs with people who have found our identities, and as such, we don't see any reason to keep this post up. Thanks everyone for your help.
|
Take a long deep breath, and then another
1st: A 16 year old is old enough to be heard in court when it comes to custody matters.
2nd: You have not heard from this woman in *years*.
You have an excellent case for claiming abandonment.
3rd: A case like this one is not going to be resolved in a couple of months' time, and while it is processing your son is going to be getting older and have more rights.
And at a certain point, you are going to find out what she actually wants and why - because it likely is not a sudden desire to parent a child she abandoned over a decade ago.
And you can probably gue$$ what $he really want$...
|
This coworker of mine is beautiful and very popular, but in my opinion is taking this hippie thing entirely too far. Her daughter is smart enough but constantly reverting to acting like a toddler; she's doing it more than she acts her age. I support extended breast feeding but this is getting weird. We work at a health food store; we are talking major crunchy granola. So, once she let it slip that they all sleep naked in bed together. I honestly do not think they are pedophiles at all, but as liberal as I am, that's still getting weird at her age. I've always minded my own business, but now she's saying she's going to pull the girl out of the public school because the classroom teacher is starting to question the emotional development of the child. Do I mind my own business or make a discreet phone call to CPS? No way in Hell would I discuss the matter with her; she's on one hell of an ego trip. Could I do this anonymously? I can't risk CPS telling her it was me. One last detail: another coworker's daughter spent the night at their house and they had both girls running around naked, which would not have been cool with the girl's conservative mom, but the adults were not naked in front of the girls. # Free Spirit!
|
There are heaps of red flags here
- Child is lagging in social and emotional development
- The child's sleeping arrangement
- The mother being critical of a mandated reports questions (the teacher) and wanting to remove her from public school, thus further isolating the child.
Together these paint a pretty dim situation. Report this to CPS. Report the facts only and don't put in excuses or backstory. CPS will investigate and act if there is something wrong. Your report will remain anonymous, and you coworker is unlikely to that think you reported her. If she is investigated, she will probably assume the school reported her.
|
My grandmother who is 91 with severe dementia was charged $13,000 for five pieces of clothes at a strip mall in West Palm Beach, Florida. We have limited the amount of money she can spend (she wrote checks for the clothes) and so the checks bounced. I have contacted the store owners who sent a 'receipt' for her purchases which is hand written on a piece of paper (no store business information) and just says 'dress $4000' and 'skirt $3000', etc.
​
I strongly suspect that the owner just made up these prices (that normally they would be sold for MUCH less) and my grandmother was incapably of discerning any of this. My grandmother can't drive and has a full-time caregiver who was with her (and did nothing to stop this). The owner is now asking me to pay what is 'owed' on the clothes.
​
Any advice would be ENORMOUSLY appreciated! Thank you!!!
|
I would also contact the local police. This sounds like clear elder financial abuse. Go into the police station and ask to speak to someone, and spell out - with as much detail and paper trail as possible - what happened. Predatory stores which take advantage of elderly people in manners like this are unfortunately more common than you think, and it can qualify as elder abuse.
|
No, that is not clickbait and I am seriously very worried about her and all of the other people involved.
Okay. So my sister graduated from high school last year and decided to take a gap year. She came across a Craigslist posting by a woman I'll refer to as Aileen about how she has a farm and she's looking for kids who want life experience, that she'll provide them room and board to work on her farm and how she can teach them all of these great skills. I never saw the ad, but I remember my sister telling me about it at the time. She was very excited, this opportunity was everything she had been looking for she had told me. So she began a correspondence with "Aileen". I did not live with my sister, I'm older by 5 years so I was not on the scene when all of this was going down.
So she ends up going to this place last August, I think, maybe early September. I have only spoken with her through emails since and at first she was happy, everything was good, she was making friends and all of that. I was wondering why she only emailed and she told me there's no phone service on the ranch, "Aileen" doesn't believe in phones and she takes them to the library for internet access. That right there was the first time I thought something was a bit off, but my sister was happy so I didn't push it.
Over time, the tone of her emails changed. She would talk about her friends there, the animals, all these activities she was doing, not about "Aileen" much. Then it gradually became that "Aileen" is all she would talk about. "Aileen" was telling her some seriously messed up stuff and if she didn't agree with it, everyone else would ignore her existence until she broke down crying and apologized. "Aileen" made her slaughter her favorite chicken, "Aileen" said she needed to cleanse herself and wouldn't let her eat solid food for a week. "Aileen" made her take drugs. Seriously disturbing stuff. I told her she needed to get out of there, that I'd come pick her up, but she would downplay everything, make excuses for "Aileen", say she was over reacting, that it wasn't as bad as she made it seem et cetera.
I didn't know what to do at that point. I thought something hinky was going on, but at the same time my sister was an adult and I trusted her judgment at the time. It's not like I had anything to go off of, a location, or anything and while disturbing, I didn't think anything super egregious was happening. "Aileen" seemed like an eccentric survivalist type, but ultimately harmless. Yes, I was tentatively concerned, is what I'm trying to say, but I felt like my sister was mature and intelligent enough to know when she was in over her head.
My sister emailed me yesterday and I don't feel like that is the case anymore. Something had happened and from what I was able to ascertain, one of the other girls at this place committed some kind of cardinal sin and "Aileen" instructed the other kids to beat viciously beat this girl. My sister was forced to participate in this. She seemed distraught about it, but ultimately blamed the girl because she should have known better than to have done what she did. I don't know what she did, my sister wouldn't elaborate on it.
I stayed up all night pouring over all of her emails, lookings for some clue but I couldn't figure anything out. I know my sister took a Greyhound to Lansing and Aileen picked her up from the bus station, so I think this freak show is probably in either Eaton, or Ingham but as to more specifics, I have no idea. I don't think my sister even knows. I have a hunch they're in, or around Mason because Aileen made the kids spend the night at Seven Gables, but other than that I'm coming up empty.
I know this is a jumbled fucking mess, but I really need to know what to do. How do I handle this situation?
Good update: I did what a lot of people suggested with the IP address. I would have never thought of it, I'm not very tech savvy. She is in Mason or at least uses that library. I'm going to contact the police there. You guys are rockstars.
|
I’m willing to bet this person is actively still recruiting and the Craigslist ad is still live or reposted. Finding it might help you a bit in addition to the library IP address. Your sister needs out and the cover on this thing needs to be blown open.
|
I am using my sister's account to post this. She understands reddit, I don't. She will be checking the post for updates for me.
I live in Canada, they (ex and his new gf) live in the US right now. I have filed a police report in Canada, but I don't know what else I can do to get this to stop and to have them charged. The Canadian police don't seem to have many answers for me. Any advice would be helpful.
Update: Thank you for all the advice so far. I totally understand why this was locked. Thanks for the explanation mods.
|
Before they hide the evidence, take as many screen shots as you can, including any messages regarding the video between you and the other two parties. You need to prove your case.
|
It’s three in the morning here. Haven’t slept much in 4 days. Apologies if I’m unable to separate my emotions with objectivity.
I’m (44M) a husband to my wife (40F) and a father to two children under 18.
In June of 2018 I began having small seizures and went to see my PCP who referred me to my hospitals Nerology clinic. The clinic ran bloodwork, did a spinal MRI, and a 60 minute EEG. Concluded that my seizures were psychogenic. For the next year+ the seizers grew worse. I went back to the neurology clinic a dozen more times.. my wife and I practically begging for some... any... additional testing to get to the bottom of the seizures. Well documented.
Fed up, in early December of this year I went to see another neurologist / hospital for a second opinion. I’ve was in the hospital for weeks where they ran much more extensive testing including a complete brain / spinal MRI, brain CT, Lumbar Puncture, and other more exhaustive EEG tests.
On December 23rd, my last day in the hospital, my “second opinion” neurologist and neurosurgeon told my wife and I that I have an tumor that likely spread from a misdiagnosed growth in my right front parietal lobe... which has spread to the base of my brain stem. The right frontal tumor is operable, but the cancer in the base of my brain stem is not.
The 2nd doctor(s) dont seem to want to throw the other hospital under the bus, but it’s obvious (at least to my wife and I) that they think my first doctors made some pretty bad mistakes in missing some fairly obvious signs and failing to run some basic tests,
I’m sick to my stomach. I think partly because I’m scared out of my mind for both me and my family, but also at the thought that this could have been avoided. It’s likely I won’t have the strength to find out if, or how, the first hospital messed up.. I’m not sure I’ll even be around to find out let alone ask the questions.
No one thinks I should worry and stress about what “could have been done”, and to focus my energy on getting “well” whole getting my affairs in order.
I can’t help but rage at my first doctors for, what it feels and sounds like, is a major fuck up.
Assuming that the first hospital made a mistake, where do I even start to get the legal help I need to unwind the last 18 months? What happens if I’m not around to get to the bottom of the possible mistakes the first hospital made?
Edit - Located in California as are both hospitals.
|
you should speak with a medical malpractice attorney ASAP
|
So many people were asking for an update, here it is. I retained a lawyer and they started investigating. As some of you had said there was problem with the taxes followed by a series of screw-ups by various people and services. My lawyer advises me not to go into further detail, so I won't. The whole situation looks like "a clusterf... of massive proportions" in their opinion, and they haven't gotten to the bottom of it in any way. Looks like getting compensated is going to be a long and frustrating process. Now I'm heading back to Michigan and letting my lawyer do their job here. Anyway thanks for everyone's advice, I was a bit shocked and not seeing things clearly so it helped.
|
Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. This is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. If, however, your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/ii7dx1/update_just_found_out_that_a_warehouse_is_being/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
Feel free to start or join in the conversation about this update in either /r/bestoflegaladvice or /r/legaladviceofftopic.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
|
I (25F) was attacked in a dog park by a pitbull, the dog park is an enclosed area where owners are supposed to watch their dogs off leash. It happened February 3rd, 2018. The attack was classified as a level one trauma. I arrived to the dog park before noon with my two dogs. The dog was being aggressive towards my dog, a puppy. Before this they were dry humping each other. I went to lift my dog to prevent a situation but the pit bull turned on me. The last thing i remember is it *****. I remember me being on the ground covered in dirt and mauled for like three entire minutes. He locked on two of my limbs. Ripped my face apart, and left my dog for dead.I tried so hard to defend him and myself but this dog overpowered the both of us. I was rushed to the emergency room, given an immediate mike of fentanyl for the road but even that couldn’t calm the pain. Which is really the only thing I can remember for the aftermath part. I almost went into cardiac arrest from rate my heart was pumping is what a nurse told me. i wasn’t aware of the extent of my injuries but i couldn’t see from my left eye. A few days later i woke up and found out. Several of my nerves have been severed from this attack. Since it was an emergency procedure, the medical cost is exponential. Right now I’m working every hour i can, I’m in counselling, i find it hard to be anywhere in public where dogs can be alone. I cannot go into the sun because my face scars darken so easily. And my self confidence has been ruined. Is there any way the dog owner (i know who she is) can be responsible for the medical fees I’m faced with?
|
Have you filed a police report and contacted a personal injury attorney yet? You (legally) dodged a bullet because you don't need to prove that [the owner knew the dog was dangerous](http://www.leg.state.fl.us/statutes/index.cfm?App_mode=Display_Statute&Search_String=&URL=0700-0799/0767/Sections/0767.04.html). Owners are responsible for the damage their dogs do. **Immediately** interview some attorneys.
|
NYC. I’m sorry if the text is one big block, I’m on mobile. I don’t really know what to say, I’m baffled. I’ve been living with a new room mate for about 3 months. Two weeks ago, my room mate accused me of stealing 3700$ out of his bedroom and swears up and down that it was me because he has “footage”. He also filed a restraining order. According to the police report, this theft occurred between the hours of 4 am to 5 am of August 22, 2019. However, during this time I was about an hour away from home and have receipts to prove it. I went to a 24 hour CVS and a bank that places me somewhere else. Not only that but I was at the airport at 6 am going on vacation. This was not me. I didn’t get word of what was going on until 3 days into my vacation and was told I was wanted for grand larceny and fleeing the country. As soon as I came back to New York on the 28th, I called the detective and set up a meeting. When I did meet with him, I showed him the receipts and provided him with my license plate to prove that I was not in the neighborhood the day of. He very much nonchalantly brushed me off and let me know he’ll “get around” to my case because he has more important cases to take care of. However this is literally ruining my life. I have not been home since coming back and I’ve been staying with a friend. My room mate is literally squatting in the apartment and ransacking my room. I got a call this morning that he broke into my room and is currently throwing all my possessions out of the 2nd story window. I’m a student and can’t afford a lawyer right now. I’m about to head to my apartment and I don’t know what to expect. I don’t know what to do. Any advice is appreciated.
|
Your roommate can't just kick you out. Call the landlord and call the police.
|
[Here is the original post in case you are not up to date on the situation](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/a05jq6/i_am_left_freezing_cold_in_my_apartment_as_i_pay/).
I have managed to uncover (for the most part) the cause of my exceptionally high hydro bills (averaging $400CAD a month) in my apartment in Ontario, Canada.
​
Based on all of the advice I received from the original post – here’s what went down after the comments got locked:
​
**I managed to get onto my online hydro account – and discovered some very suspicious activity:**
* I noticed that each month was consistently high usage (every month I was consistently consuming around 2600 kWh. No matter the month – no matter if I was or was not using air-conditioning or heating during the month.
* I also checked the specific weeks where I was on vacation. I was not home at all and everything in the apartment was turned off- I paid around $70 for each week I was away. A total of $140 I paid when I wasn’t even home for two weeks!
* Furiously, I called the hydro company and asked them to look further – she told me the usage she is seeing is very unusual – it appeared as if the unit Is vacant (consistently high consumption without much deviation).
* She also Informed me that an inspector would be coming any day now...
**The inspector came to the apartment a few days ago, and accessed the meter (which was in the basement beneath the restaurant):**
* I was in school at this time so my boyfriend was there when the inspector came.
* The Inspector noticed that the plumbing in the apartment for the hot water supply feeding each unit (possibly also the restaurant) were combined.
* The closest tank in circuit (mine) was doing all or most of the work for the entire building! Feeding hot water to all the units.
* To prove this further, the hydro company closed the cold water intake to our apartment – and we were still receiving hot water! Meaning the next closest tank in the circuit (our neighbor) was feeding our hot water.
* Also, our hot water tank was feeding the cold water intake of the nearest hydro tank (the apartment next to us).
After emailing the landlord multiple times and waiting days for a response from him – he finally only came because now one of our neighbors was not receiving hot water. We noticed that he was in the basement doing something (probably fiddling around with the plumbing). After he left- we stopped receiving hot water ourselves. I had to shower at the neighbor’s house yesterday because of this mess.
​
**Yesterday my boyfriend confronted the landlord when he came to “see what’s going on.”** *My boyfriend recorded the entire conversation in case we will eventually need it to support our case.*
* Instead of getting a professional plumber to come and actually fix his mistakes. He is just poking and prodding at the hot water pipes (literally) and pretends as if he has any idea what he is doing.
* My boyfriend insisted that he get a certified plumber come and FIX this massive disaster - and the landlord just complained about money and says that *we* should do it. (as if we haven’t already done enough).
* The landlord was just complaining the entire time and even said “**If you don’t like it- just move out!”**
**I am almost certain that the landlord was aware of what was going on with the pluming in the building before we moved in**
* Due to the fact that all the tenants before me have dealt with the same high hydro bills and have made complaints before (but they were all old and probably did not know that it was wrong, or what to do – likely my landlords favorite kind of person).
* Since my boyfriend and I are having a hard time showering and washing the dishes with NO hot water – we turned the hot water back on… meaning at this point we are carrying the entire load for the building again.
**My question to all of you:**
1. What do I do now?... Can I trust my landlord to ‘solve’ this issue on his own – even though his “plumbers” will likely be rehired to do the work if we do?
2. What happens to all the money that quite literally went down the drain for this - and is still currently going down the drain?
3. Do I need a lawyer?
Thanks to all of you again – you have helped tremendously!
​
***EDIT!***
* Thank's to all of you who commented last night! - Unfortunately the comments got locked before I could even reply to any of you!
* I am working on contacting some lawyers now and calling the tenant board on Monday!
Reddit is awesome! We seriously get shit done on here :)
|
Now you take your landlord to the LTB. You apply today, even if he promises he will fix it. The LTB can order him to hire a qualified plumber to repair the issue. The LTB can also order him to reimburse you for the extra hydro.
You don't need a lawyer for this process, but you do need evidence. So, for example, something from the hydro inspector about what he found. Then hydro bills from before and after you aren't heating everyone's water, to show the difference. You may want to consult a lawyer or paralegal about how best to put together your evidence and argument.
Form: [http://www.sjto.gov.on.ca/documents/ltb/Tenant%20Applications%20&%20Instructions/T6\_Instructions\_20170116.pdf](http://www.sjto.gov.on.ca/documents/ltb/Tenant%20Applications%20&%20Instructions/T6_Instructions_20170116.pdf)
Explanation of form: [http://www.sjto.gov.on.ca/documents/ltb/Tenant%20Applications%20&%20Instructions/T6.pdf](http://www.sjto.gov.on.ca/documents/ltb/Tenant%20Applications%20&%20Instructions/T6.pdf)
|
[Orignal post](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/e7ohlh/a_clothing_company_i_used_to_work_for_is_now/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
I brought this up to a lawyer and they laughed. I made the designs before I started there on my own computer on my own time. They had no legal claim to them, and they were just trying to bully/strong arm a 19 year old designer.
My lawyer sent back some type of legal letter and they immediately apologized and said that any designs I didn’t specifically make for customers were mine and mine only. My lawyer said something along the lines of “they can’t afford this type of suit.” as they are a mom and pop type company. Lawyer did it free of charge.
All worked out in my favor!
|
Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. This is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. If, however, your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/ec4abb/update_a_clothing_company_i_used_to_work_for_is/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
Feel free to start or join in the conversation about this update in either /r/bestoflegaladvice or /r/legaladviceofftopic.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
|
I went to work and everything was fine and normal when I got a call from my boss telling me that there was an Uber waiting for me outside because he got a report from someone (a brand new supervisor, he hadn’t been there 2 weeks yet) that I was heavily intoxicated. I assured him I wasn’t. And he also said that we had been talking all morning and he didn’t think so either. I didn’t argue anything and went in and got tested for alcohol and blew a 0.00 and then called my boss and was told he called an Uber to take me back and to give him a call when I got there ( he was out of town at the time) when I got back he said that I was going to be suspended and he would let me know what was going on. 4 days later he fired me. In their report it said that someone reported that I was under the influence and even though they were relieved to find nothing in my system they take these claims seriously and are deciding to part ways.
I feel that was wrongful termination and I have all the paperwork to prove it, I wasn’t drinking and don’t smoke at all and was sober when they made their claims. It’s all because the new supervisor/ employee wanted to look good in my opinion. Do I have a case?
|
What's your location? Do you have a contract or union agreement?
Do you suspect there was some other reason besides your supervisor wanting to "look good"?
|
Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/a98686/bought_a_ps4_from_walmart_box_had_books_in_it_and/
Ever since discovering right before Christmas that the PS4 Spiderman combo my wife purchased for our son had books in it and took it in to get a new one it's been an extremely annoying and stressful time.
I took the advice of everyone and called corporate, talked to corporate in their online chat, everyway possible and it's always the same a answer "We stand behind the decisions of our salaried managers".
Corporate literally does not care and shifts it to the "salaried managers" decision. So I've been back to the same Walmart 4 times to talk to them and the last time about 2 weeks ago they said they would call the cops. I wasn't yelling, or causing issues I just want the PS4 my wife purchased for our son for Christmas.
So the last time they called the cops, they came and the manager says right in front of me "I believe this man has been trying to scam us since Christmas Eve claiming his PS4 had books in the box". Cop gets my story and says well there isn't enough to do anything against me, manager dislikes this that I've been constantly dealing with and I get permanently banned from the store (just that particular one, he can't ban me from all properties but said he will be calling corporate).
I again try to call corporate and nope, same exact replies that they stand behind their salaried managers decisions.
So the outcome? No PS4, no refund because it was purchased in cash and I cannot do a chargeback. If you are ever purchasing anything expensive from Walmart, open the box immediately after purchase and in front of an employee. Merry Christmas Walmart.
|
---
> http://imgur.com/a/myIAb
---
*I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*
---
**It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**
---
***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***
---
Author: /u/hiploy38
Title: **(Update) Bought a PS4 from Walmart for Christmas and it had books in it**
Original Post:
> Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/a98686/bought_a_ps4_from_walmart_box_had_books_in_it_and/
>
> Ever since discovering right before Christmas that the PS4 Spiderman combo my wife purchased for our son had books in it and took it in to get a new one it's been an extremely annoying and stressful time.
>
> I took the advice of everyone and called corporate, talked to corporate in their online chat, everyway possible and it's always the same a answer "We stand behind the decisions of our salaried managers".
>
> Corporate literally does not care and shifts it to the "salaried managers" decision. So I've been back to the same Walmart 4 times to talk to them and the last time about 2 weeks ago they said they would call the cops. I wasn't yelling, or causing issues I just want the PS4 my wife purchased for our son for Christmas.
>
> So the last time they called the cops, they came and the manager says right in front of me "I believe this man has been trying to scam us since Christmas Eve claiming his PS4 had books in the box". Cop gets my story and says well there isn't enough to do anything against me, manager dislikes this that I've been constantly dealing with and I get permanently banned from the store (just that particular one, he can't ban me from all properties but said he will be calling corporate).
>
> I again try to call corporate and nope, same exact replies that they stand behind their salaried managers decisions.
>
> So the outcome? No PS4, no refund because it was purchased in cash and I cannot do a chargeback. If you are ever purchasing anything expensive from Walmart, open the box immediately after purchase and in front of an employee. Merry Christmas Walmart.
>
>
---
LocationBot 4.31977192 | [Report Issues](https://www.reddit.com/r/locationbot)
|
Hi, so my life is falling apart.
As the title says, a few weeks ago my father and my step mother were killed in a car accident. They have been married for 7 years, and my step mother had a daughter from a previous marriage who is 8 years old. I love her unconditionally as if she were my own sister and I would fight tooth and nail to keep her safe.
She has no immediate family other than her father in the area, so he is going to receive full custody of her. I don't know if subjective opinions are allowed in posts like this, but this guy is a fucking asshole. The reason my step mother left him is because he was abusive (which was never reported to the police, but I know several people who have witnessed it first hand, so it absolutely 100% happened), and the reason he was abusive was because my step sister was born and he didn't want a child. As a result, he has never given a shit about her, never asked to see her, and has never wanted anything to do with her until now.
I was at home with my step sister a few days ago and he knocked on the door. I opened it and we had a really ugly conversation about what was going to happen to my step sister now that her mother and my father were dead. I told him that if he did end up having custody I would want to be seeing her as often as possible as I consider her my family. He told me, verbatim "that's not gonna happen, son. I don't want my daughter spending time with half caste blood." (he's referring to the fact that my father is mixed race, and that I am too as a result. I slammed the door. I was absolutely livid, which brings me to this post.
So basically, I have a few questions:First, Can anything be done to stop him having custody? There are no police reports about his abuse, and his criminal record is clean by all the research I have completed.
Third, at the very least, could I contend in a court that I have visiting rights to her? I'm not actually related to her, so I'm not sure what the standing is there.
Third, if it's not possible to force allowed visits, is there anyway I can straight up adopt my step sister? I have an office job that pays well, so financial security wouldn't be a problem, I have an apartment of my own, and I would be 100% willing to be her full time guardian.
**EDIT: I want to make it absolutely clear that my sister does not want to live with her dad, and she says she wants to live with me.**
Thank you so so so much to anyone who responds to this. I'm at my wits end and I will do literally anything to keep my step sister close to me, and I don't care about the cost.
|
You need to see if he has met the legal terms of abandonment. You need a family lawyer pronto.
|
My original post can be found here: [Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/hly90t/ny_ups_dumped_around_10000_worth_of_product/)
So after talking to a lawyer, he wrote a strongly worded letter to my supplier basically outlining that they are responsible for losses incurred during shipping (FOB Shipping). My supplier has changed their tune drastically after that letter and refunded me. Unfortunately they have decided to no longer do business with me anymore, which hurts a lot.
UPS however is still a complete and utter mess, but someone told me to send it to a local UPS store via ups my choice, which actually worked for some packages while others seem to be stuck in internal limbo and are just not moving.
Anyways with my lease renewal coming up i have more or less just decided to start winding down operations in the coming months and plan to close my store by the end of the year. This isn't happy ending, but between COVID / this screw up / having issues getting products my customers want i simply would rather just wind things down rather then trying to keep something going that isn't profitable.
Thank you for your advice and help though.
|
Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. This is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. If, however, your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/hvntq9/update_ny_ups_dumped_around_10000_worth_of/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
Feel free to start or join in the conversation about this update in either /r/bestoflegaladvice or /r/legaladviceofftopic.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
|
**EDIT:** Forgot to add this...My first post was here:
https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/4a97dq/my_ex_husband_and_his_new_wife_made_my_daughter_a/
Firstly I would like to thank everyone for all the support in my first post and all the supportive PM's I received. It was really overwhelming (in a good way). A few people asked for an update so here it is.
So a lot has happened since I first posted. I called in to work while I was trying to get all this sorted. One of my co-workers has a cousin who is a lawyer and she knew someone who was able to help me and file the paperwork. My husband played dumb in court but his visits got reduced to supervised and he was ordered to take a parenting class. My daughter went to physiotherapy. Eventually the court reinstated his visitation when he swore he had learned his lesson and was sorry and with his otherwise clean record the court agreed. I was against it but the court ruled against me.
I gave my daughter her own cell phone so she could call me whenever she needed to. On her second visit it happened again. This time the brace had steel and fabric instead of wood and they took her phone too. The next night she left when they weren't looking and went up the street to a neighbor who is a police officer. The neighbor called paramedics and her co-workers. They had to cut the brace off my daughter. My husband and his wife were arrested. They got out quickly but they have been charged and their infant is with CPS. My ex lost visitation and custody and I'm working on making it permanent. Unfortunately my daughter's shoulder was dislocated from the brace. It set back her rehab and part of her arm is still numb and tingling. She needed surgery and is still recovering. She always played sports (especially at school) and did dance but the doctor thinks she won't ever be able to lift her arm all the way up again. I hate my ex and he'll see her again over my fucking dead body. Right now I'm focusing on my daughter while my lawyer takes care of things. That's my update.
|
Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. If your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/4xbb4q/update_my_ex_husband_and_his_new_wife_made_my/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
|
I am located in Michigan.
Okay so when I was first hired on at my job (6 years ago) I was given a key that had access to some of the internal offices which hold sensitive information. I was told that if I ever lost said key I would owe the company $15,000 to have the entire building rekeyed due to security.
I have lost this key. (It was attached to my car keys which were hooked to the loop of my pocketbook. I was mugged and the key was stolen along with a lot of other personal belongings.)
So now my boss and my boss’ boss and his boss keep calling me to come in and fill out paperwork to get on a payment plan to repay the “money I owe.” I have received letters from their official letterhead and I am informed the next step will be termination and lawsuit. And they have also threatened to start docking my pay.
I have no intention of paying the fine.
The catch is that I was told this was the consequence verbally when I was handed the key. My supervisor told me “you will need to sign an agreement at some point but we’ll worry about that later.” I replied with “to be clear, I will not be paying that if I haven’t signed yet. Do you want to keep possession of the key until then?” My supervisor laughed as though I was joking and said it was more convenient for me to just hold on to it and he wouldn’t forget to have me sign, he promised.
Well he never brought it up again and I of course did not either.
My question is. Can I be legally forced to uphold this on the basis of “verbal contract?” At this point I have not reminded them that I never signed. I have simply ignored them. But I worry we will have to get lawyers involved soon and I’m not sure how to proceed. I will be visiting my lawyer Monday. So hopefully more answers then.
$15,000 is about 1/3 of my yearly salary. I can not afford this “charge.”
Thanks for reading.
|
Great advice already here but Also stop using the term “lost the key.” The truth is you were mugged.
|
Im in California and looking for some land to purchase for this purpose. If all goes to plan, the lot will eventually have trees with a plaque that says "Here Grows So-And-So".
Does this count as a graveyard? Can I buy non-HOA land that's intended for residential use and do this? I'd hate to drop $10k on a half acre and have to cut my Dad down in 20 years because of a zoning law or something.
|
What you need to look into is called a conservation easement. That way you can protect the land after your death. This might be a good place to start, http://carcd.org/conservation_easements_guide0.aspx
|
Mostly good news.
I worked with my dad and got my own lawyer.
I got the timeline of my shares wrong, but it comes out the same. What my brother and I inherited from my grandmother was originally part of my grandfather's portfolio, he was the money savvy one. My grandmother looked after those after he died and she personally set up my brother's accounts and gave him control of his part. She didn't do the same with mine before she died (I thought she had already set the accounts up for me and given control to dad before passing) instead the shares were in her will, and she left everything she owned to my dad with instruction that what was $15000 worth when my brother got his equivalent part would go to me when I was old enough to know how to take care of them. There was no trust, she just trusted my dad. My dad did the right thing and set up accounts for me and gave me control six years ago. My dad put some of his own shares in too as an extra leg up.
Dad admitted to me he'd chewed out my brother last year when he came to him asking for money, and dad had supported him several times over the years and got to the point he'd had enough. My brother found out I still had my investments because dad had used me as an example of how brother should have been using money. That's how my brother found out I still had shares and they'd grown.
According to all that info my lawyer tells me I'm in the clear, but it's not going to get to the point of finding that out in court as my brother's gf was only a legal secretary. I say was because the firm she worked for apologised and informed my lawyer she was terminated immediately. The letter I received from them had been edited to put her name in a position higher up than it should have been, and some of the contact information had been changed.
A week after she was fired my brother visited me begging for money. His girlfriend is in serious debt and she took a chance on scamming cash from me and lost. I felt awful rejecting my own brother over and over, and if he hadn't involved his girlfriend needing an amount well into five figures I might have given him some. The next morning I found all my tires had been slashed. Screw him, I don't feel bad any more.
The rest of the comments in the previous thread made me realise I don't know nearly enough about what I'm doing with the shares and dividends and money in general. A lot of the decisions I've made have been with dad's help and his advice has paid off well so far but not because I knew it would but because I had no idea what I was doing and left it up to him. I've booked in to work with a financial advisor to make the most of what I have. Thanks for all your comments.
|
To discuss this, please see the BoLA thread [here. ](https://www.reddit.com/r/bestoflegaladvice/comments/88fw8w/someone_finally_really_did_send_a_letter_using_a/)
[The original thread.](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/813ung/ca_grandmother_gave_my_brother_and_me_an_equal/)
|
Quick update to [my post](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/m0gpdp/little_brother_16_ran_away_from_home_because_of/). The situation with my brother seems to be getting clearer, good news is he's still staying with me and likely will for some time. I can't go into too much detail, buts here's what happened. We called a family lawyer who was recommended by people I know. We then called DCFS with the lawyer to explain the situation. DCFS interviewed my little brother about his home life. They also interviewed me to check that he was safe with me and seemed to conclude that he is even though they didn't tell me very clearly. They couldn't/didn't want to tell me whether they would recommend he stay with me or go back home however. We were also advised to call law enforcement, which we did. I also called our parents to let them know. My parents showed up at my place the next day and demanded to talk to my brother without me present. I let them in but I stayed there the whole time. My brother didn't budge and said he would stay with me no matter what and wouldn't go to the camp. Things got very tensed and there was a lot of yelling and ranting and nasty things were said to my brother. That's when I said they were no longer welcome at my place and I would call the police if they didn't go away, and they left.
They came back that night to tell us that my brother can stay but he and I are disowned, they won't do anything for any of us now, they won't take him back and we're both dead to them. Then they drove back home. In a way convincing them to let my brother stay with me, at least temporarily, was easier than I had anticipated. The price to pay with our family is high but there was never going to be an easy solution. I was afraid of a big fight and they would call the police and accuse me of kidnapping but thankfully that didn't happen. Good thing is my brother isn't going back to our parents, and our lawyer thinks that there's a good chance DCFS will allow him to stay with me. Complicated thing is that I hadn't planned to be taking care of a teenager any time soon so this is all new to me and frankly a bit overwhelming. We're going to work with our lawyer to establish guardianship if that can be done. My bro and I are relieved that he (likely) can stay here and he's safe but there are tons of issues we still have to deal with like transferring schools, and above all helping him adapt to a new life in a new environment. A lot of work ahead of us for sure...
|
Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. This is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. If, however, your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/m5m960/update_little_brother_16_ran_away_from_home/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
Feel free to start or join in the conversation about this update in either /r/bestoflegaladvice or /r/legaladviceofftopic.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
|
I apologize if this belongs in relationship advice but I am pursuing the legal route instead
I found messages on my fiancé’s Snapchat account of him talking to two different people sexually and romantically. I took it upon myself to message each girl myself to get more information before I left him. Upon talking to them I discovered that one girl is 14 and one is 13. The 14 year old claims that my fiancé was willing to drive to her to have sex and that he also sent her explicit photos. I have no proof of these claims and neither does she due to him deleting his account and the profile is no longer able to be searched and messages cannot he retrieved. She also had one of my fiancé’s best friends added to her Snapchat profile and was able to prove that his friend did send her sexually explicit photos of himself as well.
We also have a one year old daughter who I am going to protect from him at any cost. What can I do to ensure this?
I have not contacted the police yet. I am not sure if a crime has been actually committed as I’m unfamiliar with the law. I just need help knowing how to get my ducks in a row and what my next step should be.
|
I realize he's deleted content, though the police will likely be able to retrieve *some* (if not all) of the missing data.
Still -- My advice beyond what you've already received would be to sit down, rack your brain, and with as much detail possible, write down every single thing you can remember; Every moment that passes means more details lost.
Names, dates, locations, verbiage, etc.
I'm sorry you're going through this.
Edit: Word.
|
My now husband and I legally gave our first child up for adoption 10 years ago to some relatives. We now are married and have a child together. Our biological child has severe autism. He is nonverbal and cannot be toilet trained, among other things.
The adoptive parents obviously know who we are because we are distant relatives. This was supposed to be a semi-open adoption, but we have only seen this child twice at family functions since his birth. Since December, they've started sending out messages and phone calls that make it clear that they believe this is somehow different than a normal adoption. They now want us to assume custody and care of our first child. The only written proof we have is a few texts saying that we need to "take responsibility" and that I "need to contribute more than I might have thought" because the child isn't normal. They've insinuated on calls that he may need to come live with us soon enough.
We can't afford the care this child needs, and he was legally adopted by these people at birth. What is our obligation here? We've stopped responding at all out of fear of creating an agreement or expectation, and we don't have money to just donate anyway.
|
If he was legally adopted then you have absolutely zero obligation to his care or to the new parents regardless of their connection to you.
If they were to leave him with you or anyone else they could be charged with child abandonment as he is legally their responsibility. From what you've said they clearly need some support - Perhaps you could refer CPS so that they and their child get the help they need
|
in a bit of a rush today so im just going to copy the story from my r/amitheasshole post: [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/9zfdq3/aita_for_not_giving_up_my_bus_seat/?ref=share&ref_source=link)
I used to take the bus daily to get to work. Not a big deal, I'd just mind my own business, sit wherever there is the least amount of people.
But every thursday was awful. Every single thursday at the stop after i get on, a giant crowd of what i assume to be the mentally challenged kids from the local school would ride the bus too, about 7 or 8 with the woman i assumed was watching over them. Still, generally not an issue because I'd just put my earbuds in and stay in my own space.
But this bus company was not reliable. We have a nice, modern bus that could sit probably 15 people. One day, a little school bus came instead. It had 9 seats. Since that point, it was basically up to chance whether or not the big bus came. So you can see the issue when the bus rolls up to the stop and there isnt enough seats.
I have a heart condition, and moderately severe muscular dystrophy. Considering the 15 minute walk to the bus stop, I needed that time to sit down. So, that's what I was doing, as always.
The group gets on the bus, I've got my eyes shut with my music playing when the woman in charge taps on my shoulder. I look and she looks pissed, notioning to one of the younger ones, crying because he didn't have a seat. I take out my earbuds and she says to me that I need to give up my seat. The other people that were on the bus already were older than me, and when I tell her I need it she says that I need to respect 'my elders' and do what she says. I try my best to explain that medically I can't stand the entire ride and she gets upset with me and says I'm making it up and 'ignoring her' (i had headphones on when she was trying to talk to me i guess). So after a couple minutes of this I snap and tell her that he can stand and respect me as I'm older than him and that one of the other kids can give him their seat if it's so important. She gives me a look like I just murdered her cat and stops bothering me.
Two days later when I tried to get on the bus I was told I was banned from the service.
When I called them they said that it's a part of their policy that the "fully abled" must give up their seats to those that aren't. I explained the medical reasons I needed it and was simply told I have a lower priority because I'm "fully functional" and the boy in question wasn't, even though it was just mentally as far as I ever knew. He ended up standing the entire ride and it didn't seem to effect him as far as I know, but I feel like making a mentally handicapped child cry makes me the asshole.
On my original post it was suggested a lot that I make a post here. I live in Ontario, Canada. I don't have a lawyer but my mom has one she said would help me out, though he is currently out of town. I know almost nothing about the legality of what happened.
Anyway that's why I'm here for help. Am I in the right to sue? For how much? I don't know much about the legality of the situation and in general don't study law.
EDIT: There's a lot of responses on here so I'm sorry if I don't get to everyone, but for now I will pursue u/andthatswhathappened's advice and call the Ontario Human Rights Legal Support Center on Monday. Thanks everyone. I'll still be accepting further advice if there is more I should do though obviously I can't chase after compensation through more than one place.
EDIT: I gave them a call. It went well, should be covered from here. Thanks all.
|
Smells like bs to me. How ridiculous, honestly.. if I were you I would try to file a complaint and see if you can get the ban lifted without having to provide medical records.. even though you may have to (which I think is even more bs). That policy sounds ridiculous; how can you honestly tell who is and isn’t “able-bodied?” Also, is this policy posted anywhere or on any paperwork you sign when getting your bus pass?
|
She accused him of rape years ago. She was 18 and he was 22. It was false and never happened. He was arrested and eventually convicted. When he served his stance and got out he was broken. From what he told me, he was heavily abused during his prison time by other prisoners. He tried to get back to his life and he couldn't. His record, his name on the registry and lack of options. He went from being a student in a top college in the country to having almost no prospects. Within a year of being out, he committed suicide.
Yesterday was 3 years since his death. This cousin sent word through a friend that she wanted to speak with me and seek my blessing on visiting my brother's grave. I said yes, but figured something doesn't seem right. I went and had a recorder with me and recorded the conversation. Also had my boyfriend record a video of our meeting from a distance (it was in public). She told me she's sorry and my brother didn't deserve what happened to him. I asked why and pressed her for an answer, she broke down and said she didn't know who did it and she accused him because he had refused to lend her money she desperately needed and she was angry at him.
The voice recorder got everything, and the video also has audio in parts that match the voice recorder perfectly.
Are these evidence useful in overturning that decision? I want to make my brother's slate clean. Not only for his memory but also because he has a son he never saw (his girlfriend was pregnant when this happened, he lost his parental rights as a result of this conviction). His son should know this is not the kind of man his father was. If so, how do we begin the process? Do we need a lawyer here, or do we need to go to the police?
What consequences (criminal) will she face? Will she go to jail?
And, does my brother's estate have a claim against her for damages? Of course this belongs to his son now although I don't know how that would work with respect to his parental rights being terminated (doesn't matter, as we'd want his son to be supported more than anything else). And can his son have a separate claim for damages against her? This conviction deprived him of a chance to know his father, because parental rights were terminated.
I know this won't bring my brother back but it can at least provide some comfort to us and to his son, and maybe making things more fair. So please help put me in the right direction.
|
Definitely take this to an attorney. Keep it close to your chest for now - I can imagine that you want to scream from the rooftops that your brother was innocent, but it will be safer to wait until you have sound legal advice. As a side note: you have no idea what she might do if she finds out you recorded her - clearly she has no qualms about lying and destroying other people's lives for her own self interest. Also, someone might talk to the media and blow this thing up. Tread very carefully and stay quiet for now.
As for the other side of things, your nephews guardian may have a good claim against her for compensation. Being able to prove to him that his father wasn't a rapist while setting him up with a college fund etc. is the best outcome of this nightmare.
|
Throwaway account for obvious reasons. I am a 19 year old male and I was recently looking through an old digital camcorder. Most of it was really nostalgic, old videos of myself and my siblings as kids, stuff like that. I then came across a video of my father raping me. I don't want to go into detail as I am still in shock and typing this out is still extremely hard, but I have no idea what to do. I live a relatively normal middle class life and I am just at a loss of words. I have been in my room with the door locked for eight hours as I don't want to face my family. The worst thing about this is my mother was present in the video as well, she seemed to allow it.
I am typing this through tears. I have absolutely no idea what to do legally about this. I cannot afford a lawyer.
Thank you all so much for your support, I am completely shocked right now
|
You don't need a lawyer. You can take the tape to the police and file a report. They will take it from there.
On a personal note if you live with your parents you may have to get prepared to move out.
|
I bought a car last year from a mutual friend that I didn’t know well at all. Everything was fine until this past June, when he fell into some heavy debt. He gave me a call sometime around June, asking me to take out a loan for him, to which I refused. Red flag number one right there. After this, he began to harass and pester me for money (was already paying way more than I should’ve been monthly for this car). I eventually just gave the car back and that was that. I gave the car back mid July and purchased a new one (Nissan Altima) from a legitimate dealer. This morning I received a call from my insurance company (progressive), saying that this man has listed himself as a driver, costing me another $500. I calmly explained the situation, but they told me that unless he can provide proof that we don’t live together, (we absolutely do not) I still have to pay it. This is absurd, how is this allowed? The guy in question is obviously desperate and trying to get back at me for giving the car back, but how can I provide proof for someone else? This is in Massachusetts and I have progressive insurance.
Update #1: okay so a lot has happened since I first posted. For starters, I should clarify some things. We signed an agreement that I would pay monthly increments for the title. Until the car (30k) was paid in full, he held onto the title. Initially he said I would be under his insurance, but only a few days after I saw this guy was kind of shady and switched to my own. I did not have the car in my name, which is why I was able to give it back so easily. I just thought “screw this drama, I’ll just get a new car.” Today my adjuster happens to be “out sick” but I reported this man to both the state and federal insurance fraud agencies. A representative of Progressive informed me that the man in question blatantly lied to my adjuster and told him we live together, and that he drives my vehicles occasionally. I have only spoken to him a number of times, so this is certainly not true. I’ve been in contact with a representative of both progressive and the insurance fraud agencies all morning and am finishing sending in documentation as we speak. I’m expecting a phone call and will update soon.
Update #2: Not much has changed since the last update, except everything has been officially reported with all required documentation. Luckily I kept all of the text messages between us, which I attached to the reports I filed. With my adjuster out today (of all days, just my luck) it’s a bit difficult to get this taken care of. After I settle this, because I am NOT paying an extra $500, I will most definitely be switching providers.
|
[File a complaint with the MA department of insurance](https://www.mass.gov/file-an-insurance-complaint). Insurance is pretty regulated, and by adding a driver on your policy without the approval of the policyholder, and refusing to remove him, this is “bad faith” territory. Insurance is regulated, a complaint with the regulating body will case them to shape up real quick.
|
I own a home in New Jersey that has (had) a 100 year old oak tree that sat right on the property line between myself and my neighbor. It was literally 50/50. I came home to find everything but about 12’ of stump left. I had absolutely zero prior notice.
I purchased the property about 3 months ago. This was a beautiful tree and I know this will have an impact on my property values. What can/should I do? Thanks.
|
Get a lawyer, go to the county records office and make sure you know your property lines, hire a surveyor if you need it.
|
This happened a few days ago. Feels like a retraction means nothing nowadays and I’ve already received calls from people confused and upset, even a few asking if we are going out of business. We are on the opposite side of the spectrum when it comes to being compared to spa’s like this; we literally help countless people (many with cancer) through medical massage and other services and of course everyone is licensed and insured. I’ve already spoken to the station and they were very apologetic and said they’d do a retraction, but I’m still quite angry.
|
Congratulations, you have a legitimate slander case against this radio station. I agree with the other poster recommending a PR firm but you should consult with an attorney about having the costs covered as part of your settlement with them. A mere retraction is, as you stated, wholly inadequate if they were making baseless accusations that have since caused you financial damages.
Track everything, especially appointments cancelled because of the story and whatever losses you've incurred as a result. Adding hard numbers to losses and ongoing expenses goes a long way when discussing settlements.
|
I keep getting messages asking for an update. I can’t say much, but I have gotten a lawyer through a friend of the family. He has contacted corporate HR. There will be a settlement out of court, as they want this resolved quickly with no publicity. I cannot express how grateful I am for all of your quick thinking and ability to connect the dots. I don’t know if I would’ve had the guts to get a lawyer if you hadn’t said anything. Thank you.
|
The r/legaladvice community would like to welcome our guests from r/all and/or r/popular. We are glad you are visiting. There are a few things you should know before you post here:
**We lock update posts that do not contain additional questions**. There are two reasons for this. First, this is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. Second, those posts were moderating nightmares filled with off topic ranting and pointless arguments. We welcome update posts - particularly when a poster reports that they used our advice successfully. Even when they are locked in r/legaladvice there is almost always a discussion of the update in r/bestoflegaladvice for your popcorn needs.
**Nothing here constitutes the formation of an attorney/client relationship**. This is not a substitute for an informed local attorney. At best, the advice herein assists the posters in taking the first step toward resolving their legal issue.
**We are not a popcorn sub**. We remove posts and ban posters who do not participate in good faith. We lock posts that meander off topic, devolve into pointless bickering, or result in too many reports to the mods. This is not to say that there isn't entertainment to be found here, indeed that is why most of us became involved in the law. It is fun. And when justice results, it is rewarding as well.
**Our rules are in the sidebar to your right**. They are available in detail [here](https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3jm6u2/the_law_of_the_land_please_read_before/) and our wiki is [here](https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/wiki/index). For those of you who want more popcorn and fewer vegetables we invite you to visit our sister subs /r/bestoflegaladvice and /r/legaladviceofftopic.
**Shitposting and brigading will earn you a permanent ban**. We respond to the situation at hand and the laws that apply. This is not the place to grind your political axe or talk about what you think the law should be. If you want to change the law, get involved in local politics.
**Personal anecdotes are not useful**. This is not the place to talk about how once your sister's roommate got out of a ticket by doing X. The fact that you have an anecdotal counterexample is not proof that the advice offered is wrong.
**This is legal advice, not moral advice**. Sometimes we have posts on hot button issues such as abortion, child custody, rape, racial prejudice, sexism, and so on. People come here to learn about their legal options. Advice relating to their immortal souls can be found elsewhere on reddit, online, and at local mosques, churches, temples, and philosophy departments. Sometimes, however, legal advice is indistinguishable from life advice.
Thank you for visiting our sub. We hope you enjoy your time here and consider subscribing.
---
LocationBot 4.0 | GitHub (Coming Soon) | [Statistics](https://locationbot.info) | [Report Issues](https://www.reddit.com/r/locationbot)
|
Update from: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/9xicm3/husband_surprised_me_with_a_divorce_cleaned_out/?utm_source=reddit-android
I wasn't able to get much done over the weekend except sell the wedding ring for some food/diaper money. Today however was really busy, I spoke to a few people I was able to get in contact with through legal aid!
I'm told by the end of the week I should be with an attorney who can begin helping me file everything I need to begin doing and hopefully begin tracking down where he's put all the money and get some back so I can continue to survive until I can be approved for childcare through state benefits and begin working again.
I'm really surprised about how often this happens, there are entire places dedicated to helping men and women who have their wives/husband's do this to them.
I am filing for divorce, before he can hopefully and for the return of the money into our account and an order to continue assisting with bills, child support and other necessities such as diapers, mortgage etc.
I probably will not have another update to this for a good long time but so many people wanted to make sure I was going to be OK and with everyone's advice to contact legal aid etc it looks like it hopefully might get better soon! I also contacted the bank and other bills that are coming up that I won't make and explained the situation. They are somewhat understanding and hopefully I'll be back at work soon to keep current.
Thanks for everyone's help and advice!
|
The r/legaladvice community would like to welcome our guests from r/all and/or r/popular. We are glad you are visiting. There are a few things you should know before you post here:
**We lock update posts that do not contain additional questions**. There are two reasons for this. First, this is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. Second, those posts were moderating nightmares filled with off topic ranting and pointless arguments. We welcome update posts - particularly when a poster reports that they used our advice successfully. Even when they are locked in r/legaladvice there is almost always a discussion of the update in r/bestoflegaladvice for your popcorn needs.
**Nothing here constitutes the formation of an attorney/client relationship**. This is not a substitute for an informed local attorney. At best, the advice herein assists the posters in taking the first step toward resolving their legal issue.
**We are not a popcorn sub**. We remove posts and ban posters who do not participate in good faith. We lock posts that meander off topic, devolve into pointless bickering, or result in too many reports to the mods. This is not to say that there isn't entertainment to be found here, indeed that is why most of us became involved in the law. It is fun. And when justice results, it is rewarding as well.
**Our rules are in the sidebar to your right**. They are available in detail [here](https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3jm6u2/the_law_of_the_land_please_read_before/) and our wiki is [here](https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/wiki/index). For those of you who want more popcorn and fewer vegetables we invite you to visit our sister subs /r/bestoflegaladvice and /r/legaladviceofftopic.
**Shitposting and brigading will earn you a permanent ban**. We respond to the situation at hand and the laws that apply. This is not the place to grind your political axe or talk about what you think the law should be. If you want to change the law, get involved in local politics.
**Personal anecdotes are not useful**. This is not the place to talk about how once your sister's roommate got out of a ticket by doing X. The fact that you have an anecdotal counterexample is not proof that the advice offered is wrong.
**This is legal advice, not moral advice**. Sometimes we have posts on hot button issues such as abortion, child custody, rape, racial prejudice, sexism, and so on. People come here to learn about their legal options. Advice relating to their immortal souls can be found elsewhere on reddit, online, and at local mosques, churches, temples, and philosophy departments. Sometimes, however, legal advice is indistinguishable from life advice.
Thank you for visiting our sub. We hope you enjoy your time here and consider subscribing.
---
LocationBot 4.300172817 | GitHub (Coming Soon) | [Statistics](https://locationbot.info) | [Report Issues](https://www.reddit.com/r/locationbot)
|
So I went to my doctor for my annual exam and asked for a pap and all the checks on my blood for hormones and health checks. After my pap, my doctor offered me a cancer screener from the company Grail. I asked if insurance covers it and she said that I could make payments on it every month. I replied, "I don't want it if my insurance isn't going to pay for it." She said that her lab assistant could help me with that information. The lab assistant who helped me told me that the doctor told her that I wanted the test. I told her that,"I don't want it if my insurance doesn't pay for it." She said,"Okay" and smiled before asking me to sign for several labs on my blood that the doctor ordered. The lab assistant gave me told me that Grail would contact me about fees. I figured that this meant that they would let me know fees and information somehow to get this done. Later after time, I received an email with an attachment that I opened that had cancer screening results and a $900 bill. After contacting them, their local representative, the lab assistants, the lab they worked for, and then the doctor, I finally got answers. The representative from Grail told me that the doctor's office receives a commission for every test they conduct and reminds the lab technicians to ensure that they ask clients before conducting the test if they agree to receive it. I did not agree. Grail keeps sending bills and says that they can't do anything about the bill I now owe. My doctor told me that I signed paperwork to have the test done, she remembers that I had initially told her that I wanted all the checks on my blood and that I can surely pay $30 a month for this test. I told her that I had told 2 medical professionals that I did not want the test and that I signed for my blood tests, not that one. I also told her that the lab assistant did not explain anything to me and that I didn't want another medical bill because I have other medical bills I pay every month. She said that no other client has complained and that all her clients are fully explained the test. I told her that I hadn't explained anything and that I must have slipped through her process. She let me know that I signed for it and that I was responsible for it. I feel tricked. Is she correct? I thought about filing with a small claims court. Does anyone know if I have a case that could win to give her the responsibility for this bill?
|
NAL. I’m a pharmacy technician who takes a required fraud, waste and abuse module every year.
Report this to your insurance company.
Report this to Medicare. I believe this falls under waste. Even if you don’t have Medicare, they might be interested in the fact that a doctor that sees ~~Medicare~~ patients is performing tests without the patient’s consent. If she’s performing unauthorized tests on you, it’s **very** likely ~~she is doing this test without Medicare patients’ consent as well~~ this is happening to Medicare patients as well.
Per the CMS (center for Medicare and Medicaid Services) website, you can call the Health & Human Services Office of the Inspector General
1-800-HHS-TIPS
Here is an explanation of fraud, waste and abuse. The anti kickback statute is explained ~~in~~ on page 9.
https://www.cms.gov/Outreach-and-Education/Medicare-Learning-Network-MLN/MLNProducts/Downloads/Fraud-Abuse-MLN4649244.pdf
Also, report your doctor to the medical board for your state. Just Google your state medical board for their phone number.
I’m not sure what will come of this but it’s worth reporting. Your doctor did an unauthorized test after you repeatedly told her you didn’t want her to.
Edit: I added a sentence.
|
Subsets and Splits
No community queries yet
The top public SQL queries from the community will appear here once available.