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Top Comment: Seems like you are trying to do the right thing when you made that decision. Anyway I wish you the best.

Post: I threw a beer bottle at a car that blared music in the front of my apartment.
Top Comment: Guy I knew. 3rd floor apartment, sleeping. Taxi 4am comes outside sits on HORN BLASTING HONK HONK HOOOOOOOONK waiting for a person. Guy goes to his door launches half a breeze block at the car. Massive smashing sound as whole back window of the car is obliterated. Taxi screeches away. Silence returns.

You were lucky to get away with it at 7am plenty of eyes then.

But just so you know people do much worse haha.

Post: I was a substitute teacher and called an 8th grader a 'social media slut' and it still haunts me today
Top Comment: You screwed up. The proper term is social media whore.

Post: A few years ago i made fun of a girl for liking k-pop
Top Comment: I'm so happy to read that people care about the mean things they did in their past even though it might seem like a small thing. It makes it easier for me to forgive my past tormentors, knowing that they - like me - likely regret things that happened years ago.

Post: I lied about being assaulted solely for attention .
Top Comment: You've gotta tell your therapist about this. It's one of the things that's been weighing on you for YEARS. If she can't handle that information, or if her attitude towards you changes, then look for another therapist who can help you better. Seriously, OP, you've gotta tell her how much this has affected you.

Post: Boyfriend is a really deep sleeper and I often wake up hours before him. I play a game where I masturbate and cum as many times as possible before he wakes up. Never once gotten caught.
Top Comment: You want to give your bf the best morning of his life? Let yourself get caught. It'll be fun for you and straight out of a porn for him.

Post: I lied about my mom being dead & I am racked with guilt.
Top Comment: >My life changed almost instantly
>
>I have learned so much about myself
>
>My mental health has improved drastically
>
>I don't tell lies anymore

You were sick and now you are getting better. You have to choose if you are going to focus on what you were or who you are and are going to be? The simple fact that you now feel shame proves that you have changed.

I'm gonna come out of left field here and suggest you solve all of these concerns at once. By explaining all of this to your mother. She has to know where you were and how far you've come. Tell her what you told us here, "I was in a really fucked up place and I told a horrible lie in an impulsive, desperate moment. It was never about you, it was about a broken, selfish me and I feel terrible." Admit to her that you carry this guilt and have for a long time. Ask for her forgiveness.

You are killing several birds with this stone:

(1) Being proactive and diving in head first is going to give you the first word on this. You will get to tell her these things at the same time she hears this rather than trying to explain yourself and just looking defensive.

(2) If she hears about it elsewhere, it's going to hurt more. You could be protecting her.

(3) There are no more secrets for anyone else to tell. You can mark something off your list of greatest fears.

(4) You would be making a huge step towards healing. You cannot possibly enjoy the new you if you have this piece of the old you dragging you down. You need to forgive yourself for this as you ask your mother for the same. Making amends as a step toward recovery isn't just for AA.

(5) You will be much more likely to continue your new honest ways if you aren't carrying a lie. You can wash yourself clean. I have found that when there is one dish in the sink, it's easy to just leave others there. If the sink is empty & shined, you are more likely to wash it & put it in the dishwasher. If you're already carrying a lie, what's one more?

(6) You can stop living under a shroud and live out the dreams you have.

I am a mother and if I found out about this, it would hurt my feelings. But if my child came to me, truly remorseful and humble enough to admit such a mistake, he would be proving that actually cares about those feelings. It shows that he cares about my feelings more than he cares about his own. (I think this is the at the root of your change.) . This means more than something he did when he was young & dumb and in a bad place.

It's possible that she will be furious and angry and sad and tear you a new one and refuse forgiveness. If that happens, I encourage you to take a good look at a person who refuses to forgive someone truly regretful & sorry. You will know that you did everything you could to fix your mistake. Hiding from the world isn't trying to fix it at all. And again, it will still be less hurtful coming from you.

Post: I only married my wife so she wouldn't commit suicide
Top Comment: No one should guilt you into anything by threatening harm on themselves. Its abusive and will eventually mentally drain you if this marriage keeps going. If you don’t love her, that’s okay and don’t feel bad for not. It’s been three years since you got married, if you haven’t brought yourself up to love her , you just don’t love her. Everybody deserves to be happy. Maybe go to some kind of counselling with her or have serious sit her down and express how you felt about her guilt tripping you into a marriage and about her sucidal behaviour. She’s might be going through a very deep depression.

Post: When I was a kid (11 and younger), I vandalized my primary (elementary) school numerous times.
Top Comment: Thanks for sharing. I didn’t get diagnosed until 38. My psychologist was shocked that I had made it that far in life without knowing.

Life is better, now that I’m on meds but still something I have to remain aware of. Trying to learn and apply meditation...helps a lot so far.

I’d say you are doing fine.

Post: As a kid, I lit a match and dropped it into a full postbox (UK)
Top Comment: The list of things we do that are unwise or unkind is directly related to childhood.
We haven't learnt about all the complicated webs of connection or, and especially this,consequences of our actions.
Each of us has a story to tell of retreat as kids.
Today you cringe at the memory and it's a normal response.
I think these are lessons to prepare us as adults.
As adults we hesitate to seek revenge for example, because we no the implications of that we understand it simply is not worth the effort or the worry.
So here you are today still feeling bad about a childhood prank.
Truelly you must forgive yourself and be sympathetic to that child you once were.
I have a friend who pit a sky rocket in a milk bottle and lite it, the bottle fell and the sky rocket went into another persons eye.
It was another example of how things go wrong.
I use to feel bad for him and how he felt and only hope he didn't feel responsible for the rest of his life.
All these things prepare us and help us understand empathy and to walk carefully through this life.
You don't need to carry this weight of a childhood experience forever and know what you learnt is worth it's weight in gold.
Forgive yourself and rid yourself of unnecessary guilt, you were a child and deserve to let this pass as an experience.
Now wrap up that memory and place it under experience not guilt.

Post: A woman asked me to buy her groceries, I accepted and then I ran away from her
Top Comment: You did nothing wrong. "Buy me groceries so I can eat" should probably mean buy me some basic staples for the next few days. Imagine being broke and buying red bull.

Probably a scam

Post: I took someone's food at Panera Bread because I was hungry and had no money.
Top Comment: Try and pay it forward when you can. Buy someone a meal or somethin.

Post: I’m admitting myself into a psychiatric ER tomorrow
Top Comment: I'm so proud of you for realizing and taking the initiative to get help. I know it's a hard thing to do, I've been struggling with myself to do it too.

I hope you are able to find the help you're looking for and I wish you the best of luck, fellow human! Existence is hard, but I think you're doing a great job.

Post: I have driven under the influence and I regret it.
Top Comment: That’s all you can do. Count yourself lucky and be glad you learned your lesson without harming yourself or others.

Post: Broke into my old house through the rooftop window
Top Comment: fuck your stepdad, he deserved it tbh

Post: Son beat up his bully and I'm glad he did it
Top Comment: Schools claim that they don't condone violence yet do little to prevent it. Either that or they go after the wrong kid. It's so infuriating.

Top Comment: Seems like you are trying to do the right thing when you made that decision. Anyway I wish you the best.

Post: I threw a beer bottle at a car that blared music in the front of my apartment.

Top Comment: Guy I knew. 3rd floor apartment, sleeping. Taxi 4am comes outside sits on HORN BLASTING HONK HONK HOOOOOOOONK waiting for a person. Guy goes to his door launches half a breeze block at the car. Massive smashing sound as whole back window of the car is obliterated. Taxi screeches away. Silence returns.

You were lucky to get away with it at 7am plenty of eyes then.

But just so you know people do much worse haha.

Post: I was a substitute teacher and called an 8th grader a 'social media slut' and it still haunts me today

Top Comment: You screwed up. The proper term is social media *whore*.

Post: A few years ago i made fun of a girl for liking k-pop

Top Comment: I'm so happy to read that people care about the mean things they did in their past even though it might seem like a small thing. It makes it easier for me to forgive my past tormentors, knowing that they - like me - likely regret things that happened years ago.

Post: I lied about being assaulted solely for attention .

Top Comment: You've gotta tell your therapist about this. It's one of the things that's been weighing on you for YEARS. If she can't handle that information, or if her attitude towards you changes, then look for another therapist who can help you better. Seriously, OP, you've gotta tell her how much this has affected you.

Post: Boyfriend is a really deep sleeper and I often wake up hours before him. I play a game where I masturbate and cum as many times as possible before he wakes up. Never once gotten caught.

Top Comment: You want to give your bf the best morning of his life? *Let yourself get caught.* It'll be fun for you and straight out of a porn for him.

Post: I lied about my mom being dead & I am racked with guilt.

Top Comment: >My life changed almost instantly

>

>I have learned so much about myself

>

>My mental health has improved drastically

>

>I don't tell lies anymore

You *were* sick and *now* you are getting better. You have to choose if you are going to focus on what you *were* or who you *are* and are going to be? The simple fact that you now feel shame proves that you have changed.

I'm gonna come out of left field here and suggest you solve all of these concerns at once. By explaining all of this to your mother. She has to know where you were and how far you've come. Tell her what you told us here, "I was in a really fucked up place and I told a horrible lie in an impulsive, desperate moment. It was never about you, it was about a broken, selfish me and I feel terrible." Admit to her that you carry this guilt and have for a long time. Ask for her forgiveness.

You are killing several birds with this stone:

(1) Being proactive and diving in head first is going to give you the first word on this. You will get to tell her these things at the same time she hears this rather than trying to explain yourself and just looking defensive.

(2) If she hears about it elsewhere, it's going to hurt more. You could be protecting her.

(3) There are no more secrets for anyone else to tell. You can mark something off your list of greatest fears.

(4) You would be making a huge step towards healing. You cannot possibly enjoy the new you if you have this piece of the old you dragging you down. You need to forgive yourself for this as you ask your mother for the same. Making amends as a step toward recovery isn't just for AA.

(5) You will be much more likely to continue your new honest ways if you aren't carrying a lie. You can wash yourself clean. I have found that when there is one dish in the sink, it's easy to just leave others there. If the sink is empty & shined, you are more likely to wash it & put it in the dishwasher. If you're already carrying a lie, what's one more?

(6) You can stop living under a shroud and live out the dreams you have.

I am a mother and if I found out about this, it would hurt my feelings. But if my child came to me, truly remorseful and humble enough to admit such a mistake, he would be proving that actually cares about those feelings. It shows that he cares about my feelings more than he cares about his own. (I think this is the at the root of your change.) . This means more than something he did when he was young & dumb and in a bad place.

It's possible that she will be furious and angry and sad and tear you a new one and refuse forgiveness. If that happens, I encourage you to take a good look at a person who refuses to forgive someone truly regretful & sorry. You will know that you did everything you could to fix your mistake. Hiding from the world isn't trying to fix it at all. And again, it will *still* be less hurtful coming from you.

Post: I only married my wife so she wouldn't commit suicide

Top Comment: No one should guilt you into anything by threatening harm on themselves. Its abusive and will eventually mentally drain you if this marriage keeps going. If you don’t love her, that’s okay and don’t feel bad for not. It’s been three years since you got married, if you haven’t brought yourself up to love her , you just don’t love her. Everybody deserves to be happy. Maybe go to some kind of counselling with her or have serious sit her down and express how you felt about her guilt tripping you into a marriage and about her sucidal behaviour. She’s might be going through a very deep depression.

Post: When I was a kid (11 and younger), I vandalized my primary (elementary) school numerous times.

Top Comment: Thanks for sharing. I didn’t get diagnosed until 38. My psychologist was shocked that I had made it that far in life without knowing.

Life is better, now that I’m on meds but still something I have to remain aware of. Trying to learn and apply meditation...helps a lot so far.

I’d say you are doing fine.

Post: As a kid, I lit a match and dropped it into a full postbox (UK)

Top Comment: The list of things we do that are unwise or unkind is directly related to childhood.

We haven't learnt about all the complicated webs of connection or, and especially this,consequences of our actions.

Each of us has a story to tell of retreat as kids.

Today you cringe at the memory and it's a normal response.

I think these are lessons to prepare us as adults.

As adults we hesitate to seek revenge for example, because we no the implications of that we understand it simply is not worth the effort or the worry.

So here you are today still feeling bad about a childhood prank.

Truelly you must forgive yourself and be sympathetic to that child you once were.

I have a friend who pit a sky rocket in a milk bottle and lite it, the bottle fell and the sky rocket went into another persons eye.

It was another example of how things go wrong.

I use to feel bad for him and how he felt and only hope he didn't feel responsible for the rest of his life.

All these things prepare us and help us understand empathy and to walk carefully through this life.

You don't need to carry this weight of a childhood experience forever and know what you learnt is worth it's weight in gold.

Forgive yourself and rid yourself of unnecessary guilt, you were a child and deserve to let this pass as an experience.

Now wrap up that memory and place it under experience not guilt.

Post: A woman asked me to buy her groceries, I accepted and then I ran away from her

Top Comment: You did nothing wrong. "Buy me groceries so I can eat" should probably mean buy me some basic staples for the next few days. Imagine being broke and buying red bull.

Probably a scam

Post: I took someone's food at Panera Bread because I was hungry and had no money.

Top Comment: Try and pay it forward when you can. Buy someone a meal or somethin.

Post: I’m admitting myself into a psychiatric ER tomorrow

Top Comment: I'm so proud of you for realizing and taking the initiative to get help. I know it's a hard thing to do, I've been struggling with myself to do it too.

I hope you are able to find the help you're looking for and I wish you the best of luck, fellow human! Existence is hard, but I think you're doing a great job.

Post: I have driven under the influence and I regret it.

Top Comment: That’s all you can do. Count yourself lucky and be glad you learned your lesson without harming yourself or others.

Post: Broke into my old house through the rooftop window

Top Comment: fuck your stepdad, he deserved it tbh

Post: Son beat up his bully and I'm glad he did it

Top Comment: Schools claim that they don't condone violence yet do little to prevent it. Either that or they go after the wrong kid. It's so infuriating.